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Well, Someone up the yard helps me out a few days a week with the horse. He is very controlling and trys to tell you what to do all the time, i usually just brush it off and let him get on with it becuase its just his way and he handles my horse nicely and treats him nicely. hes not rough etc and my horse needs a quiet person!

Had a few annoyances with him going too far in telling me what to do, trying to tell me to ride him out in a head collar instead of a bridle which i point blank refuse to do on my 6 year old green (lovely) but strong horse

Gone up today and notice his feet dont look right, hes barefoot and they looked all wonky hes due for a trim on sat. Said person says have you noticed his feet. I reply, yes they are all wonky (yes i know very technical horse terms) Well i rasped them down he said.
Hmmm ALARM BELLS. I havent said anything yet I have just advised that farrier is coming on saturday (he tried to be like, well who are you having) but i have used the same farrier for aaaaaaages so i trust him.
I am anxious for farrier to come on saturday, hes not lame or anything but they just generally look wonky to me
He is constantly hounding me to put shoes on him and i refuse becuase he does great barefoot hes been barefoot all his life so i see no need. hes a cob type.

WHAT SHOULD I DO! heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp

I will be fuming if i turn up to the yard and find he has shoes on
 
basilbrush2009 said:
Well, Someone up the yard helps me out a few days a week with the horse. He is very controlling and trys to tell you what to do all the time, i usually just brush it off and let him get on with it becuase its just his way and he handles my horse nicely and treats him nicely. hes not rough etc and my horse needs a quiet person!

Had a few annoyances with him going too far in telling me what to do, trying to tell me to ride him out in a head collar instead of a bridle which i point blank refuse to do on my 6 year old green (lovely) but strong horse

Gone up today and notice his feet dont look right, hes barefoot and they looked all wonky hes due for a trim on sat. Said person says have you noticed his feet. I reply, yes they are all wonky (yes i know very technical horse terms) Well i rasped them down he said.
Hmmm ALARM BELLS. I havent said anything yet I have just advised that farrier is coming on saturday (he tried to be like, well who are you having) but i have used the same farrier for aaaaaaages so i trust him.
I am anxious for farrier to come on saturday, hes not lame or anything but they just generally look wonky to me
He is constantly hounding me to put shoes on him and i refuse becuase he does great barefoot hes been barefoot all his life so i see no need. hes a cob type.

WHAT SHOULD I DO! heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp

I will be fuming if i turn up to the yard and find he has shoes on
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PS. said guy is nice and i do apreciate his help which is why i try to just sort of let him get on with it. he lunges in the week for me etc and i will say is great with the horses
 
Is he a loaner/sharer/yard hand?

I don't really follow :o

If he has nothing to do with your horse I'd be fuming that he was taking THAT much control of something that's nothing to do with him!! Especially taking a rasp to his feet!

You're probably a lot more polite than me!
 
woah! that would be one step too far for me! I'd be telling him to not set foot within 1 metre of my horse again. How dare he rasp your horses feet!! Is he even qualified for such a thing?! Get rid.
 
Is this a share/part loan arrangement? Or does he just help out a few days in return for riding?

If this is a part loan/share and he pays a contribution every month/week, then you need to get a contract drawn up ASAP. That is an official way of saying what he CAN and CANT do with your horse, and you can specify the horse to remain barefoot at all times unless you (the owner) decides otherwise.

If this isnt a share/part loan arrangement, and he just helps out from time to time and occasionally rides then I'd have a stern word with him and give him a final warning basically. Tell him you appreciate his help and like the way he is around your horse, however you are the owner and you make all the decisions surrounding your horse - which includes shoeing, any health matters, physio....anything you want to make clear to him, this would be the place to do it. Explain to him that if he touches your horse's feet again without your permission he will no longer be allowed to look after your horse and you will be ending this agreement. You need to make it crystal clear that you are the owner and you make the decisions, and that while you appreciate his help this is your horse and your financial investement, so you make the decisions around his care.

He is acting like he co-owns this horse with you, and he needs to get out of that habit very soon otherwise I'd end the agreement if I were you, its not worth having someone help out however good they are with the horse if they start to act like they know better than you do. As I said, this is your horse and your financial investment, you get to look after him however you want. Suggestions from your helper are fine, another opinion can sometimes be handy but it should only ever be a suggestion, not acting on his ideas without your permission.
 
OMG! I would be beyond furious.

How absolurely DARE he rasp your horses feet without your permission or knowledge.

I would be informing him that your farrier will give a full assessment of your horse, and any extra work or issues immediatey arising from this unauthorised rasping will be coming out of his pocket.


I would tell him not to go within 10 feet of my horse.
 
I can't believe you're actually considering letting this guy carry on dealing with your horse?!?!?!? Starting to think this is a wind-up post....
 
I'd be pretty cross if someone changed my horses rug because 'they knew better' as for doing something permenant to his feet ...................................

Tell him, the YO, anyone else there that he is not allowed to touch your horse AT ALL, unless you are physically present - and if they see him they are to ask him to step away and call you immediately.

If you genuinely think this person would put shoes on your horse without consulting you first TBH I'd move yards - who's problem would it be if he caused serious perminant damage to your horse - YOURS.
 
Just to say he doesnt ride my horse technically just turns and and brings in 3 days a week

This isnt a wind up just literally found this out this morning so wanted to get some advise before i go ape
 
So he only turns out for you, and decided he'd take a rasp to your horses feet?

Sorry, but either he's mental or you are. Either way he certainly wouldn't be having anything further to do with MY horse, and I wouldn't need to take any advice before coming to that decision!

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I would of gone ape there and then. What, how and why you do your horse has nothing to do with this person. You must be a very calm person , he could of caused a hell of a problem for your horse.
 
basilbrush2009 said:
Well thank you everyone, i was expecting these sort of responses.

Its been building for a while. i need to be firm and put my foot down.

Thank you

no more responses i feel really bad now lol
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Good on you. I won't add anything more, what I think has already been said and I can understand that it's not nice when things like this happen to your horse, and it's not easy hearing peoples opinions.

Let us know what happens if you can! I'm interested to hear what this bloke has to say to defend himself! :)
 
If this is a genuine post (which I doubt) then why on earth the OP needs to ask advice is beyone me. Someone who you have been using to put your horse out and bring him in three times a week, has overstepped the mark by many a mile. Why anyone would need to ask what to do confuses me!
 
I don't think you can say this isn't genuine (I could be wrong of course), I'd imagine if the OP is new to owning, or to yard etiquette, that she may have thought he was oversteping the mark but wanted to check she wasn't overreacting and this indeed isn't acceptable?

Anyway I'm a total novice and even I say - not on! Have words with him. I'd worry what else he would decide to take on himself....
 
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