Yard Bullies

Not bullies but just a generally horrible person.
I didn't speak to them, so I didn't have to listen to the bile that spilled from her filthy mouth :D.

Then she left and some other poor sod has probably got to put up with her now :(
 
yep, had been on my yard for 5 yrs, the farmer died and it was taken over by someone else, so loads of people left! was just my mare and a couple of others left in the field, but mine being the only ridden one, so i was the only one there most of the time!

a new woman moved in with 4 horses! she had 4 stables, i was just on grass livery, so paid a lot less than her!

we had loads of grazing so my field was fenced off, so she didnt get so fat! so the farmer asked if the woman could put her horses the other side, which was fine, but the fence wasn't electric, as the horses were fine. this womans horses werent fine, they trashed all of my fencing and got in with our horses! and they all started fighting! so basically in the end I ended up having to move my horse and the another couple into a different field, so I lost the field I'd had for 5 yrs. then there was one really evil horse put of with hers, so she took it out of the field, with a lead rope around its neck and put it out with ours! at this point I then had 2 mares, he then proceeded to mount my mares and kicked the living poop out of my friends horse, he couldn't even walk! so my friend put this horse back where he was supposed to be! the evil woman then took him back out and said if we moved him back into her field again she'd chop our horses heads off!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the farmer refused to do anything about it! so the 3 of us all ended up moving our horses to another yard miles away, which costs 3 times as much! baring in mind the first yard was on my door step! :(

this is why I will never ever go on a livery yard again! I'm now on a private yard with my best mate :)
 
Heavens above! Did you get the wretched woman to pay your vet bill? Report her to the police for threatening you? Thank heavens you are out of there. Sorry it's not so convenient for you and more expensive, but at least you and the horses are now safe.
 
I don't encounter bullies, but I know people who have. I just tell them to smile sweetly and ignore them........whilst quietly plotting revenge ;)
 
no she was scum, she wouldn't have had the money to pay the vet bills anyway!

oh and worst of all, one of her horses got kicked and she blamed my friends welsh b, that was unshod and apparently because her horse got kicked, it gave her laminitis!! What an idiot, was more like having 4 horses out in a lush 20 arce field that caused that!

reading it back, it sounds so far fetched but that wasn't even the half of it really! was a horrible place to be in the end!
 
quirky said:
Not bullies but just a generally horrible person.
I didn't speak to them, so I didn't have to listen to the bile that spilled from her filthy mouth :D.

Then she left and some other poor sod has probably got to put up with her now :(
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Same as above, owned horse six years on now on the 7th yard. Says it all really feel sorry for who ever has to put up with them now.:confused:
 
Had one at one yard that I'd been at for years - i had had a break from horses and came back to keep my horse there - this miserable woman - a worker at the yard came on a ride with me and proceeded to trash the head girl - a really lovely person.

A few weeks later this b***h of a woman had a go at me about mucking out, I was a bit smart back to her and she 'wished me dead!' Charming lady - fortunately I didn't say anything nasty back as an hour later the horse she was hacking out reared, tipped her off and hurt her back - she had to have an operation a few days later to sort out a damaged vertebrae.

As they say "What goes around, comes around and bites you in the bum" - preferably very hard!
 
Either do your best to ignore then, avoid them or move. It's a horrible situation to be in, some people are just unhappy in their own lives and want to bring the rest of us down wish them.
 
A few suggestions which may or may not apply depending on your situation:

1) Ignore them. Emotional bullies only have the power over you that you give them.
2) Lock your stuff up. You don't have to tolerate people pinching your belongings
3) Concentrate on enjoying your horse(s) after all, that's why you are at the yard at all
4) If you can't enjoy your horse or if your horse is at risk, move on. Life's too short.

PS, Have a hug if it helps!
 
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I have encountered them, nasty pieces of work who pinched some of my property and damaged other bits. Karma came around and bit them hard and thankfully they are gone and the yard is back to it's usual lovely, relaxed self!
 
YES!!! A "gentleman" no less.haha, what a sad git he really is, Mr Knobber, but while I was at the yard (that wasn't his) he came out with classics ;

- "ooo you look like the drum on a pea" (my boy is 14.2hh)

- "I think your horse is too slow to keep up with our big ones, so best we don't ride together any more"

- "well he jumped over the field fence, but that's without YOU on him"

- anyone who visited the yard shunned me, on the orders of said bully. It was weird.

- I started having lessons, and on the very minute that the Instructor arrived, said Knobber decided he had to mow the field we were using. he took away the cones I'd put out, and arrived on a ride on mower. YO told him to go to the field next to us instead (i didn't hear a bloody word over the mower), but then he rode in anyway and asked the Instructor to move to the next field - so i had to follow, while he then mowed next to us. Mind you, that was better than when the YO and he stood and watched and bitched. Unbelievable. Of course this Instructor was under his spell.

- it went on and on. Finally it all came to a head, and i found solace in the most fab yard ever - and I feel like a normal person again.

And worse still, he got the YO's tiny daughter involved in the bitching, it was quite incredible. Also that the YO let him do so !!!

I am quite a fragile person (MH probs) , and at the time I found this bullying and bitching really hard to accept and understand - but away from the situation, I do understand, and the guy needs serious therapy.

God the temptation to name and shame is HUGE, tell me not to do it.......;)
 
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When I bought my mare ( five year old Dutch warmblood but a very petite one) I got really badly bullied. She is my first horse and I am a new owner, I have loaned and been riding for years so I'm not an idiot, but this was my first real horse.
She has a few issues and will not go in a stable, she will be okay but left alone she gets upset and in a state, it was summer and I had no intentions of stabling anyway.
On the first day, the two other livery's ( 16 years and 14 year old girls) told me I wasn't allowed to bring my horse there until after five pm so that they could see her. I politely said she will get here when she comes and they will have ample opportunity to meet her
The next day I was invited on a hack. Everything was okay until we got into the woods,
To help you understand, I am not one of those teeny tiny skinny riders, I have big thighs and to be honest a bit fat. I get sweaty when it's really hot when I ride
Anyway, we were hacking and I was behind and they were side by side, I could hear them laughing. Then they asked me to lead and as I did, I could hear them saying eugh look at that fat b*tch the stupid fat cow can't ride!
Time goes on...
The bitchinness continues. I buy my horse a twenty kilo sack of food, she has one scoop a day. My feed lasted 3 days.
For my birthday my mum bought me a galvanised steel feed bin that is vermin proof and lockable. They told me I wasn't allowed it as it meant if they needed to get Georgia they couldn't access my food (bizarre because she was on complete DIY livery and in a different field)
One day I go to yard, for my birthday my dad bought me a borstik grooming kit with natural wooden brushes, and it hadnt been used. My horse is bay, and it was full of white hairs and hidden away so it looked like it hadnt been used.
I was told I wasn't allowed to give my horse a bath or bring her into the yard to groom because it disturbed the owner. So I would carry my tack and grooming stuff half a mile to her field to ride. After realising I was doing this, I was told I wasn't allowed to take my stuff there because it upset the other horses. Essentially I wasn't allowed to ride.
One day one of the girls said you can't use the ménage tomorrow morning because I am riding with a friend, which is a fair comment. I got there at 3pm to ride and as I got on they walked out the arena, with her horse doing a massive poo on the outside track. I was NOT going to pick it up, I got a call at 8:30pm from the yard owner saying if I didn't pick my sh*it up I'd be kicked off. I tried to explain it wasn't me but she told me not to lie and dig myself a deeper hole.
So I walked there and picked it up.
So after two weeks of owning a horse I've had my food stolen, been accused of lying, had my stuff used.
Next week: monday, go for a hack, one of the girls says get up close behind my horse so we don't get separated ( it's a main road) so I come relatively close, she makes her horse stop and Georgia almost crash into her, then her horse kicks Georgia in her shoulder.
Georgia now lame. Get the vet out, vet says she's bruised the bone and to rest her.
The girls invited me on a hack on the Sunday after. Just for a light stroll to get out, I say ok what time? They say they don't know as they are walking their dogs, will be a good few hours.
I go and walk my dogs and get homework done, I get a call and she shouts saying we are waiting, where are you ? I said oh, you didn't give me a time so I'm busy at the moment, I won't be able to come, sorry.
Five mins later, I get s text saying because of me her mum won't ride anymore because I have let them down and upset them loads, why am I a liar and why did I deliberately set them up?
I drive down there with my mum and she asks why are you sending nasty texts? Girl says, it wasn't nasty, antonia has been horrible to us.

Next day......
I get down the yard to feed my horse, I was confronted by the girls mother who was waiting for me in my stable, and said if I was horrible to her Beth again she would make sure I was sorry, the yard owner has asked her to warn me and my mother and that she is debating whether to kick me off the yard because I've been a bully.
Everything is now hostile .. My food is going missing, I'm scared to bring my horse on the yard or ride her because I'll be shouted at, and I wishes I never got her.
Few weeks of tension and not speaking go by,
 
Not myself, had one or two try me out for next victim but I find a few four letter words telling them what you think & where to go soon puts them off.
I've intervened when its teens doing minor bullying among themselves. And possibly the worst case I've seen was adult women picking on a teenage girl. Girl had a pony & was very competent, adults were all very novice late to riding/owning types who were basically jealous, constant snide remarks about everything she did. I did try reasoning with them, then when that failed, I did to them what they did to her. They stood slagging her off when she jumped, I stood & encouraged her, whilst slagging them. They slagged her pony for being cheap compared to theirs, I did the same to them etc. Funnily enough didn't take long for them to move yards.
Best thing with bullies is to play them at their own game, no fun to them too if you don't get upset.
 
One day I go to see my mare, and she's not in field. I called the yard owner and she said the girls moved her because I asked. I didn't ask.
My mare was in a field with a stallion and two geldings. As I went over to her I noticed she wasn't right.. Normally she canters over,
She's been kicked. Her bone is sticking out of her hind leg. It's a fresh wound, but it's not just happened so she.must have been moved shortly after I went home the day before.
Emergency vet out, x rays and weeks of bandaging..£800 bill.
Yard owner tells me while I was waiting for emergency vet it must have been self inflicted, because the others don't normally kick.
Vet strongly suggests box rest, I'm not allowed too because the yard owner doesn't like it. So Georgia is back in the muddy field and I'm not allowed to move her back with the mares.
She had to have antibiotics twice a day, to get to school I have to be on the train by 7:30 am, and to make it do-able, I rode my bike down there at half 6, had the food ready and prepared, and walk to field.
Yard owner calls me a few nights later and says if I keep breaking into her yard I will be reported to the police and my horse will be tied to post at the end of the road and kicked off the yard.

When it snowed in February, I had to bring my horse in. I didn't care what anyone said, she had to come in. She wasn't allowed to come in day/night and go out in the day/night because it would upset the yard owner and the stallion ( geldings come in) so she was stuck in.
One day, I go to the yard and one of the girls is there, she says oh, Georgia looked hungry so I gave her a scoop of oats.
She fed my warmblood, highly strung mare OATS.
Next few days I go there and Georgia is sweating, running round in circles, rearing up, bucking and is completely wild. I go to touch her to reassure her and calm her down and she shakes her head in fear like she has been beaten.
I go outside of my stable to find that rthere is a whip along with a half eaten bucket of pelleted oats (oats in my buckets) so I can only assume Georgia has been whipped and fed oats
I FINALLY move to a new yard.
All throughout my time at that yard the girls and her mother have been either sending me nasty messages, or indirectly posting nasty things on Facebook.
I left, and now the comments are worse
Things like ' no wonder you can't ride, the horse can barely carry you. I'm surprised she even goes near you in the field because your face is so sickening'
I left in February of this year, and I could not be happier. They still post comments on Facebook about how fat and rubbish I am, and how I'm pathetic and such a bad rider, if I'm honest it has really upset me, but my horse is better and enjoying life.
This isn't everything that happened to me while I was there though. My horse came with a made to fit jaguar saddle, and they stabbed the seat with a screwdriver and scratched it all. There are so many things they have done, but yet act like gods gift.
I hope by reading this you guys will realise there is light at the end of the tunnel!
 
It's very hard to give advice as every bully has a different tactic - with the ultimate aim of finding your weaknesses. other than confront them, and in my case it meant leaving the yard.

I am an instructor for RDA, and Knobber and YO would come back from rides laughing at how they were "like a group at RDA, they were so spastic" and stuff like that.

GOD I want to name and shame - about time someone wiped that smirk off his mug ;)
 
AntxGeorgiax, that sounds horrendous. Can you not just block them on FB? Or even better, just get yourself off FB - it's not worth it. It's a form of harrassment and from the sounds of it verging on criminal behaviour. As someone else said - What goes round, comes round - remember that. They sound like evil jealous little sods and they are the type of person that I wouldn't piss on if they were on fire. You are better than them.
 
That's not even half of it! I sound so spoilt for saying it, but my horse was my christmas present, we got her on the 1st october last year, my mum has had cancer and is pretty ill so she said she wanted to give me something to last if she dies, I was 14 at the time. I work every week poo-picking peoples fields to pay my rent and buy my horse stuff, and with her rugs etc I saved and got masta/rhino /premier equine- the better brands instead of cheap stuff thatt doesn't last, and they were jjealous. I don't want to name them because they might find this, I'm 15 now, leaving the yard was my birthday present on the 15th feb! We all learn from our mistakes.. I just feel sorry for my horse for having to have gone through that. Add/message me on facebook (Antonia Dcruz) and I can show you the things they say. I don't update much now, just use it to talk to my family in australia, I'm all for twitter!
Things aren't brilliant with my mare at the moment, but life isn't easy. She's 100X happier now than before, and I hope no one is ever put through that situation again!!
 
I've been bullied on a yard and once I'd left she tried to carry on, by texting me I treated it with the contempt it deserved and I also know the bully has been asked to leave yards since then.

I don't know why some people have to be bullies guess it makes them feel big.
 
yep i've had to deal with 4 bullies, one of them being the instigator though. this one person had a go at me after my horse got colic saying i was being inconsiderate to another livery as 6 months before she lost her horse to colic (i was there along with a friend), i let it slide as i was knackered but then after a few minutes and a bit of another 'debate' she put her hand in my face, so close i thought it was going to make contact. again i let it slide.

then a few months later a few friends and myself were having a laugh about pony squishing (we rode ponies) this person rode a pony herself but we never thought about her in the slightest while taking the pee out of ourselves (all this on FB), the next day she deleted and blocked me so to stop any bad feeling i went up to her at the yard and apologised if she thought it was all about her etc etc, anyway she ripped into me then put her hand in my face, another livery thought she made contact as it was so close. i let rip and we were both going for it until the livery stepped between us.

since then she had insulted my kids (really bad names and treated them like poop), called me all the names under the sun accused me of bullying her and turned a few others against me, she would cry in front of them and then when they turned their backs she would sneer at me, she would run me over with her horse and other things like that. most people knew what she was doing but others got sucked in by her nastiness and neediness.
i wanted to leave the yard as it got so bad and wasn't fair on my kids but my OH told me to stick it out. she's left the yard now and hopefully the yard can get back to being the friendly yard it's meant/advertised to be.

she told people that she thought i would be an easy target after a friend left as she thought i hid behind her, unfortunately for her i wasn't going to hide in the corner and get bullied, i argued back and she didn't like it.
 
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antxgeorgiax, you really have been treated terribly.

But by the sounds of it you have risen above it all and shown yourself to be a much better person.

Glad you have moved and both you an your horse are happy. Hope your mums ok xxx
 
Antonia I just had a look on your facebook, you aren't fat at all!!
It sounds like you've had a terrible ordeal, I'm so glad that you don't have to endure it anymore!
I remember once when I was 15, an adult woman (40+) tried to bully me for no reason. So I promptly turned around and told her where to shove it, funnily enough she was a sweet as pie after that! :D
I find that the best tip when dealing with bullies is to nip it in the bud before it starts, straight from the off let them know that you won't be taking any of their *****, if you stand up for yourself then you have nothing to worry about! :D
Sadly though I have been known to take standing up for myself to a whole new level, let's just say that if someone stabbed my saddle with a screwdriver then I would soon be sticking that screwdriver where the sun don't shine! :p
 
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