I guess you have nothing to lose by going for a cuppa, maybe through your friends being there she has got to hear more about you and realises that perhaps her first impression was a little unfair.
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the part livery yard owner would like us to move there and would we go and sit down with her for a cuppa and start afresh
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Is this any way to run a business?? No of course not.
Put yourself on the waiting list of the other suitable yards you have seen and wait to see what comes up. I held out to move back to my old yard, rather than go elsewhere, and am glad that I didn't move elsewhere.