Yard politics

tabithakat64

tabithakat64

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I'm completely sick of all the bitching at the yard I'm at. Ended up in tears this morning after an 18 year old got especially nasty because she wanted to move her horse into the empty stable next to my ponies where I've asked to move my horse as the roof in his current stable is too low on one side and he dislikes being tied up on the corner. YO has told me I can have the stable and the 18 year old that she can leave if she doesn't like it.
I hate arguing especially when things get very personal (the girl was telling me I can't ride, I don't look after my horses properly, everybody bitches about me behind my back etc). There's been a lot of bickering between two of the teenagers mums and things are getting pretty petty.
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Ok rant over.
 
Ugh, this has reminded me once again why I rent my own yard all by myself! It's bliss.

I sympathise, I can't cope with yard politics, like to do my own thing without interference.
 
Teenagers, who'd have 'em! Say nothing, ignore her and get on with whatever you are doing. Then engage in a smirk to yourself that you will be frustrating her far more by not engaging with her than she ever will by being a b*tch to you.
 
you have taken the words out of my mouth Naturally!
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They suffer when they dont get a reaction-its that or giving them a well deserved whack and throwing the into the muckheap on a cold and wet day. First option is always the best though.
Ignore them, they dont deserve a response
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I posted something like this a few weeks back! I look after my daughter pony and another livery stared sniping. The 'forumers' told me to ignore her, do what I have to do, keep my chin up and enjoy my daughter and her pony.
I did as told lol and biatch got fed up of me not rising to the bait and now the yard is back to the way it was!
So....
IGNORE HER
DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO
KEEP YOUR CHIN UP
AND ENJOY YOUR GANG!!

good luck
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Poor you! I think you have to visualise the meanies as being 4-5 years old - if a 5 year old came up to me and told me that I couldn't ride and nobody liked me, I'd just think "well you're 5 years old, what the hell do you know about life?!" and I think that applies to any age group! You can also feel smug because noone likes bitchy teenagers, not even their parents at times!
 
i try to be helpful and if anyone is stuck i will help but if they play me for a fool then i ignore them they are not worth it.

i have been falsely accused of stealing by the same person twice, challenged them and they left the yard after telling me that they don't have to apologize to me it was just a mistake a miss understanding including the late night phone calls i got from her. her friend at the time would be interested in knowing what she was saying about them!

i have been physically and verbally threatened by a bully we have here which including the evil stares like when you are at school, i am not the first nor will i be the last person who she threatens.

now how old do you think these people are...........................over 40! or about 4 depending on your point of view


ps the best way to act when people are shouting at you is either to walk away or ask them to speak up as at your age you can't hear what they are saying
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poor you, i know exactly how you feel after ending up in tears the other day after being bullied by a mother on the yard, not nice
i dont understand why everyone cant get on, but some people are just horrible
just IGNORE her, i do, i literally dont say a word to these people.
doesnt mean they will dissapear, and doesnt stop awkward situations, but atleast then you dont have to speak to her.
just be better than her, dont give her the satisfaction of argueing back etc, and if the situation gets really bad talk to the yard owner
when i was in tears i told the yard owner exactly how i felt, and how horrible the mother had been, and now the YO understands how i feel and its easier to talk to her , if someting else does crop up
keep smiling and dont be scared to go to the yard, cos i was back along, but they cant hurt you, and its only words, just be a better person and smile
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Dont lower yourself to their level, ignore and carry on with what you do. People like that obviously don't have anything better to talk about, their sad really.

Putting people down to make themselves feel better.
I'd just say that to them next time they crank up and hold your head up high because your better than them.
 
I have a situation like this but its my YO that interferes with me. You know what you do, if you think that she is coming over, put some headphones in, turn the volume up full and pretend you can't hear her, thats what I do lol! Just don't ride to the bait and completely ignore the biatches, who needs em
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Ugh am having problems with liveries where i am at the moment, and have taken to not speaking to them which really seems to get to them weirdly!
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I have a situation like this but its my YO that interferes with me. You know what you do, if you think that she is coming over, put some headphones in, turn the volume up full and pretend you can't hear her, thats what I do lol! Just don't ride to the bait and completely ignore the biatches, who needs em
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Good advice, or you could
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just be overly nice to them, sickly nice...that will really peeve them off, plus you won't be able to wipe the smirk off your face!
 
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Believe me this has crossed my mind many a time!
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I dont do yards anymore because of all the politics....! The main thing as easy as it is to say is dont let it get you down....most people do it through jeliously or like the 18yr to gain something....it doesnt do them any favours...
I would carry on as you are, stand you ground and speak directly with the YO....Let the YO sort out any arguements and hopefully get rid of the 18yr old.
I left yards after people kept getting involved with my ponies at the time. I would turn up to find my tack, forks and even rugs had been used or moved about...my ponies had been fed and notes left on my stable instructing me what I should be doing!!
I think the best thing to do is either move to a different yard, move to a different area of your yard, or just ignore it and stand your ground...bullies love to squash people down and make them as small as they can, so just stand tall and say no....any problems they can speak to the YO....You have a right to be there as much as they do....
 
Yard politics.... a lovely thing.... one thing I have had to learn is to be duck like! oh and have broad shoulders.
 
What is wrong with people who can not help but interfere. Its so much easier just to get along! peachesandcream im only over the road if you ever need back up
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Unfortunately where there are groups of women all passionate about their hobby and all with different ways of doing things there will be conflict.

We keep ourselves to ourselves now, are polite and courtious to all and do not socialise with any of them but would hack with all of them. So far so good.

The only people to really mind are the YO's other than that water off a ducks back.
 
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