yard problems

[charlie2021]

Ive been on my current yard for almost a year but the entire time ive felt as tho people judge me or bitch about me behind my back.... im only trying to have fun and do the best for my pony. Every decision i make i worry about what people are gonna say about it so i tend to see to my pony when no ones at the yard... Dont get me wrong everyone has been kind to me but i feel as though its cos im only 14 myself ...

 

[View]

I don’t want to read and run given your age and the time of night that you posted.

I’m on my way to work, hence quickly glancing at the forum.

Has the yard owner, your instructor, farrier, vet or other professional ever mentioned any concerns about what you are doing?

If not, then you are doing fine. There are many ways of doing things and not everyone thinks that other ways are also fine.

 

[Gingerwitch]

Like what ? Are you hitting you pony in the stall, are you leaving her in without food or water are you riding her for hours at fast speeds over jumps in 29 degree heat ? If so you need to take notice. IF however you are failing to rug in this weather are cantering in the school with a huge smile on your face and spending hours with your pony just hanging out cause she/he is your best mate and your pony shines and you are plaiting up her name and putting purple glitter on her hooves and quarter markers are sharing your mars bar (on occasion) or give pony a good apple then they are just jelouse so take no notice.

We were all novice horse owners one day and some had horsey folk to help and some had a good old fashioned book.

You have this forum so as long as you keep letting us know how old you are we will treat you as a newly backed nervous youngster but we will do our best to help.

And do not give ANYONE your contact details whom offer to help unless you make a post on here saying "piggy 1 has offered to help me" AND YOU STILL RUN IT PAST YOUR MUM AND YOU Do NOT MEET UP BY YOUR SELF.

GW x

 

[MidChristmasCrisis]

I completely agree with Gingerwitch...

 

[Christmascinnamoncookie]

No mars bars! ?

 

[Pearlsacarolsinger]

Tbh it sounds as if you are a little lacking in confidence and thinking that others are criticising you, rather than them actually doing so. Getting your first pony at 13 is a massive responsibility, so it's no wonder you don't feel confident all the time. But you are on a livery yard where people are kind to you, so you do have people to ask if you are worried about something. Are your parents involved with your pony at all, or do you always go to the yard on your own?

Reading/watching as much information as you can about horse-care will help you to feel more confident in what you are doing. It would be a good idea to ask your instructor to recommend something to you because you will find a lot of rubbish on t'interweb, as well as good stuff.

Can I suggest that if you are chatting to other liveries about horse care, you ask them 'How do you...........?', rather than 'How should I......?, because if they tell you about a method you don't like, you can justifiably ignore their method, if you have only asked how they do it. (iyswim)

Remember, we are all learning all the time, or we should be. Nobody knows everything about horses, I certainly don't and I've been keeping horses for 40+ yrs and riding for more than 50yrs. Try to relax and enjoy your pony, while learning as much as you can.

 

[dorsetladette]

I think if your up at time of night worrying about his you need to speak to your parents.

At 14 I was anxious about everything and thought the whole world was judging me. They weren't, they had better things to do with their time (well most of them anyway).

If your horse is happy and healthy and none of the professionals have any concerns - your doing just fine!

If you make a mistake laugh at yourself - we've all got on with our reins the wrong way round. We've all put a headcollar on inside out. We've all spilt half a bucket of water down our welly boot. Wardrobe malfunctions, you name it, someone on HHO will have experienced it.

As long as your clean and tidy on the yard and polite to other liveries, no one will have anything to bitch about. Just enjoy your horse.

 

[Dasher66]

Can you join Pony Club? They usually do lots of stable management and horse care alongside riding; it might give you more confidence to see others learning at the same stage as yourself.

 

[Shay]

Can you speak to a parent or trusted adult? You reached out to us and that is great - we will help all we can. Although as GW says - be internet safe!

You can also get immediate help from support groups like SHOUT (Thats thier name - I'm not shouting!) here https://www.giveusashout.org/ or text 85258 You can chat by text in real time to someone who can support you.

We've all been 14. Probably most of us have also been there you are now. I know I was (even if that was so long ago now that God was a boy!) Its OK to reach out over the internet - as long as you stay safe! - but in person to someone you know IRL is better if you can.

 

[9tails]

There are plenty of kids on my yard that have grown up into their twenties and beyond now, I don't recall anybody taking any notice of them unless there was a welfare issue. Some have left horses, others are still as passionate. You've been there a year, I presume your pony is still alive and healthy. That's what it's about, keeping them alive and healthy.