Yard -Should I stay or should I go??

Its easy to sleepwalk into finding yourself tied into your own and other peoples horses. Finding a yard that ticks boxes for one person is hard enough, never mind 2 people. Bear in mind livery yards can be busy and come with there own issues, even the good ones, as many a thread on here will prove, so watch your not swapping one set of problems for another.
If you can cope with livery yard poitics, and have your own locker for tack and important bits and pieces then go for it .
Your friend is upset because there in enforced change on her if you go, but a good friend will understand, even if they dont like it.
 
Move. I spent 2 years looking for a suitable place with space for 3 - a mare & 2 geldings, max size 15.1. You are probably more likely to find extra terrestrial life than a decent, affordable yard with good turnout & space for 4 that will take a colt.
 
Yep, agree with all that's said - move, if it's what suits you and your daughter best...whilst we'd all love to share our horsey life with our friends in an ideal world, in the real world it often just doesn't work out that way...we all pay far too much/work too hard with our horses to put someone else's feelings before our own...ultimately, if your friend is really a good one, after her initial hump, she'll understand and you'll keep the friendship....I'm contemplating something similar myself and know there'll be offended-ness...but have to put my family/horse situation first - its not actually going to cause any harm to the friend so I just have to 'woman-up' and tell her! ;)
Good luck.
 
a friend of mine and myself were looking to move yards together, we looked at a few places and they were fine but she found reasons not to move. anyway she has now left the yard to go to a new place with just hers as it's cheaper, better hacking and smaller, she didn't tell me she was going, i found out when she loaded her car up with stuff. as she left the yard i just waved bye bye as it made me realise she was actually only for herself.
as someone said above i did lots for her but when i stopped mucking her horse out for nothing she got stroppy and this is how i was repaid.

move and if this person is a true/good friend then she will understand, she can put her name down on the yard you are moving to anyway.
 
move! I'm currently looking for a yard close by to where we're moving. Others are liveried miles away, but this particular pony is my daughter's be all and end all. He is her life. We are moving specially so she can have him close by, and chose the most 'horsey' area we could. Cannot find what he needs (24/7 turnout) anywhere. Cannot even find a field to BUY (if thats what it took, we would!). Everywhere says no to 24/7 turnout and most say no to children :( A school would be an absolute dream.

Go for it, your friend will get over it.
 
Luckylady its very hard to find 24 hour turnout! This is why I need to snap these 2 places up quickly. Crazy as its quite a horsey area, I only know of one other yard that offers it that is huge and from what I heard quite bitchy, wouldn't want to take my daughter into that environment. Good luck with your search...
 
I'm going to throw a little bone into the mix here.

Is there no way you could level/section off part of your grazing at all? maybe take a wee bit from each of your paddocks to create a grass riding school?

I wonder how you'd be going to livery after you've had the freedom of your own field/place? it's kinda like being self employed and then going back to a job with a boss!
Is it a big place? I find that I hate my daughter zooming around with some of the younger girls at the yard, at times it just looks dam dangerous.
And some days if something happens and my husbands late home from work, it ends up alittle later getting up some nights and I feel like it bothers the YO's if during the summer i'm still farting about at like 8-8.30. Where as if you're at your own place if time gets away from you, as it tends to do with horsey related farting about, it doesn't bother anyone except you!


If your daughter is pony clubbing there will be plenty "lessons" available through them rather than having to get outside help for lessons?

I agree with the don't just stay because of your friend and think whats best for your wee one!
 
Hi Sj
We aren't techincally allowed to ride in our paddocks, landowner is never around so we get away with is, but there is a chap living at the end of the lane who complains if he see's us riding in there, its to do with planning, the land only has agricultural use apparently. The fields are very unlevel and the fencing is not moveable. So not really possible. I was reluctant to go onto a yard, but this is more like a farm, not so much like a big yard, if you get me....
We have an instructor who comes to teach both of us and we have tried to have our lessons in the field but it just doesn't work, plus the ground is too hard over the summer and even now with not having had any rain. Reluctant to start jumping my horse on hard ground especially as she is big and hasn't jumped grids or anything other than logs in the woods and the odd x pole for a year. Hence why I really need access to a school so we can have weekly lessons and really crack on.
I do see your point though!
 
I see! At the end of the day you will know what is best for you, daughter & equine friends!

Will need to ask hubby about planning ect. We've recently purchased building plot with land with the intention of keeping ours at home and will be creating schooling area ect.

Good luck with what ever you go with! x
 
I might be wrong SJ but we aren't allowed to park any vehicles over night either. We have some mobile shelters which were there already, one of the ladies who rents a paddock bought a new shelter, the day after the thing went up the council were there inspecting it on a tip off from our nosey neighbour! It is surrounded by national trust woodland so this might be why. But I know that he gets very irate if he sees us school in the fields! Silly old fart!
 
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