Yards are far too bitchy!

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Jodi_x

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Ok, here to whinge. Havent posted in such a long time. but I'm so angry that I have to.
Recently at our yard there has been one person who has set out to cause hell. Ooops sorry, should I say my old yard. I'll get to that in a minute. It started with a little fall out, where my mum and myself decided it would be best if we just ignored said other. This was ok until the yard owner called a meeting - "now girls, you must be nice to.." It was so childish! From that night, everything just got worse. Little niggles turned into potentially dangerous things, especially around horses. For example, said person decided to slam a car door as a friend of mine passed with a young horse (she was mounted). Last week this person started banging a wheel-barrow on the muck trailer as I was riding, knowing fine well that my horse is spooky. I nearly fell off twice. The other day my mum was feeding the dog as usual and the woman walked towards the sink. My mum, trying to just get out of her way, threw the spoon she had in her han into the sink. The crazy woman ran to the yard owner and claimed my mother threw it at her! and not just that, but that it was a knife! So now we have been thrown out of our yard because the yard owner wont listen to anyones side of the story but this crazy person who has torn our yard apart. The owner told my mum that the woman hates coming up to her horses, where at this point I was in tears told her about how I hate it. She asked why I had never told her, to which I replied "because you dont listen".
So yes, no we have left the yard and are now lodging at one nearby until we can find somewhere more permanent. I just think we have been treated so unfairly and that the politics on the yard have turned into a "teachers pet and the 'others'" scenario. Sorry for the long rambling post. Just feel very very unhappy about this situation. Exactly what I needed in the middle of exams!
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They certainly can be a problem, and what a shame you have had a rubbish time with this woman, all resulting in you having to leave.
I think many of us have had our fingers burnt at yards, I know I have. I hope you find a nice yard soon, there are some that do not allow such trouble makers on them.
I have recently moved to a very small yard with one other lady, not for reasons similar to yours per say but I love it
 
Hi Jodi,

Sorry you are having such a bad time. My current yard has a teachers pet too......and gets away with murder. By the sounds of it your YO wasn't much cop, same as my YO (soon to be ex-YO). Iguess we are better off out of it.

Take care of yourself, there are some very strange people in the horsey world...
 
Yeah, I swear the woman isnt all there! The YO seems to think the woman can do no wrong, when really she is doing everything wrong! Although I must say I am sort of glad I am out of there, yet I will miss my friends there as they are really important to me. Def going to miss riding with them. *sighs*

I couldnt agree more, shysmum.
 
i know it's hard, I'll be leaving friends too. But when you're at a **** yard, it spoils the enjoyment of the very reason we are there - our horses !

When you get your horses re-settled, you'll be able to make new friends....in the meantime, just sit back and watch, what goes around comes around ! I think my YO is just realising this, as he is losing all his really good clients with this lady left. Erm - three in one week out of five.....

Good luck Jodi xx
 
If you are a YO/YM you cannot afford to have pets you have to be impartial, your YO was wrong to get involved if you don't like or get on with someone that is your problem and not the YOs. No YO/YM should take sides, if you are confronted with a petty problem that is not endangering animals or humans then leave form them to sort out if it is endangering horses/humans then should address it, eveyone should be aware of youngsters and their unpredictability and not go out of their way to cause an issue.

By the sounds of it you are better off out of it. Don't think you should have been asked to leave, if YO/YM makes a habit of doing this they will end up with a bad reputation.

Sending you a big hug xx
 
oh my god how childish for this other person to just run to YO every time something happens. Really couldn't be doing with that!!! Some people are just utter numpties. There are plenty of nice yards out there with less politics so hope you find the dream one soon :-)
 
Hmm. what I read here is:
1. There are 2 of you, you and your mum who have been ignoring 1 person - you kept a grudge after making up and both of you sent someone to Coventry.
2. You and your mum were spoken to nicely by the YO and told to be nice to her. You then started finding her more annoying, didn't listen to YO and continued with your behaviour.
3. She slammed a car door - you weren't anywhere near there, but you don't like her because of this.
4. She happened to "bang" a wheelbarrow on a soft muckheap while emptying it, as you were passing- for which you don't like her
5. Your mum, still ignoring her, threw something in the sink she was standing by. This probably frightened her as she unsurprisingly, had felt threatened already, having been ignored and blanked for sometime. This was upsetting for her, especially as it had happened for some time.
6. She followed correct procedure by informing the YO there was a problem, despite the YO already having talked to you both.
7. The YO, fed up with your behaviour asked you to leave.

Hmmm ...................
 
Hmm. what I read here is:
1) you have no idea about what went on
2) you havent understood my situation the way I had wrote it
3) you maybe shouldnt judge my situation so severly on how I acted when you havent been put through this s**t.

Next time, find out more information before making accusations. and false ones at that.
 
1) SHE had a problem with US that led to the fall out
2) YO called an entire yard meeting, accusing us of bullying, when all we had done wsa ignored each other to make life easier.
3) I was standing about 5m away from her when she knowingly slammed a car door when a 5yr old green horse who is having confidence built walked by, causing him to spook dangerously in the yard.
4) if you had actually read my post, i said "dung trailer" meaning metal floor. Thus creating much noise and also fear in the eyes of my horse.
5) The woman was looking at my mother when she threw the spoon. My point there was that she twisted the story into something completely of a lie!
6) She was telling of problems that she caused but twisted them into making them look like it was our problem.
7) YO, unwilling to listen to what we had to say, told us to leave based on a lie told by the woman.

Also to add, the YO's husband finds thrills in intimidating my mother and others on the yard because they my in some way have made a mistake.

So unless you have something to say based on what I ACTUALLY posted about, then I see no value in your comments.
 
Glad you are out of the situation. YO will soon find out that newbie in yard a problem, went through this myself years ago, luckery bought our own place, newbie managed to close old yard down in a year as people came and went rapidly and yard got bad reputation.
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jodi_x this Rochana person is what i can only imagine to be one of these pain in the arse liveries that think they know everything and make life hard for those who dont quite fit in..I have had a lashing for him/her before and in my opinion shouldnt be on here till he/she finds his/hers nicer side
 
I might be wrong, I sometimes am
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but I think Rotchana is a YO. I'm sure she'll put me right if I'm wrong
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She probably has quite a good insight intp awkward liveries.

Mind you OP, I'm not saying you're awkward, there are two sides to every story.

I should imagine everybody who has been on a livery yard has clashed with somebody or other at some time. I certainly have. It is a monumental pain in the arse but as you have found, somebody moves on all is well again. Thankfully, I haven't had to do the moving.
 
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I might be wrong, I sometimes am
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but I think Rotchana is a YO. I'm sure she'll put me right if I'm wrong
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She probably has quite a good insight intp awkward liveries.

Mind you OP, I'm not saying you're awkward, there are two sides to every story.

I should imagine everybody who has been on a livery yard has clashed with somebody or other at some time. I certainly have. It is a monumental pain in the arse but as you have found, somebody moves on all is well again. Thankfully, I haven't had to do the moving.

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I agree, I have found that liveries who hate each other do more argumental things to each other, whereas liveries who don't mind each other, will let things pass more easily, even if they are exactly the same actions etc.
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Admittedly OP, I don't think your actions warranted you being thrown off the yard, though if you asked the livery her side of the story, I'm sure it would be very different
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. Things like this do seem to happen on most bigger yards
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I need to appologise to Rotchana as i have been informed and realised that it wasnt her that was attacking me but she was indeed supportive when other where having a pop.
Sorry Rotchana x
 
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How did things work out for you with your horse?

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Touch wood up to now great but had couple os SMALL wobbles.
Dont want to highjack this post but thanks for asking
 
I have been on yards where people 'ignored' each other or blanked each other. It can lead to an uncomfortable atmosphere, especially if it's say 1 person and the ignored person on their own in a barn mucking out for 30 mins and no-one says a word. People may not agree, but perhaps ignoring someone can be seen as bullying in a way, if it makes someone very unhappy.
 
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1) SHE had a problem with US that led to the fall out
2) YO called an entire yard meeting, accusing us of bullying, when all we had done wsa ignored each other to make life easier.
3) I was standing about 5m away from her when she knowingly slammed a car door when a 5yr old green horse who is having confidence built walked by, causing him to spook dangerously in the yard.
4) if you had actually read my post, i said "dung trailer" meaning metal floor. Thus creating much noise and also fear in the eyes of my horse.
5) The woman was looking at my mother when she threw the spoon. My point there was that she twisted the story into something completely of a lie!
6) She was telling of problems that she caused but twisted them into making them look like it was our problem.
7) YO, unwilling to listen to what we had to say, told us to leave based on a lie told by the woman.

Also to add, the YO's husband finds thrills in intimidating my mother and others on the yard because they my in some way have made a mistake.

So unless you have something to say based on what I ACTUALLY posted about, then I see no value in your comments.

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If your horses can't cope with a car door slamming and a rattling wheelbarrow then perhaps you shouldn't be riding them yet? Don't hack out into the big wide world what ever you do.
 
Sorry but it does sound like you just dont like this person and have made a big thing out of nothing. Even my yearling just moved to a new home can cope with every day yard noise.
 
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