Yes Ive done it to death but I need some help pleeease.

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SEPERATION ANXIETY!!!
There Ive said it.
Im not actually sure this is what hes got as sometimes hes as good as gold but we really dont know what to do and I hate to say this but I feel like Im starting to resent him a bit
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I feel like I cant go anywhere and if we do venture out, I feel we have to get back asap because of the neighbours.
Hes nearly 11mth old now, is an angel in everyway apart from when we leave him. He howls. He used to be really clingy with me but now adores my hubby and follows him everywhere.
Weve tried leaving him for minutes, returning etc, got a DAP defuser, kong, chews. We dont make a fuss leaving him or returning to him, we are increasing his time in 'his room' when we are at home, which I hate as I feel its punnishing him.
Tonight he started chewing his plastic bed when left, he should have been so tired after a full day at the farm and a decent walk/run but he just doesnt settle when he is alone. The other day however he was fast asleep in his bed when we got back and we were so made up. We manage half an hour regulary before he howls.
Help please, we do love him and really want to make this work.
 
It sounds as though you have exhausted most avenues here
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when you say, he stays in the cage or secured area when you are in...is this often, as this really is the key to leaving them, the fact that they spend time in their area when u are in as well as out, which may
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mean a good deal of time at first slowly decreasing, with emphasise put on exercise inbetween time, instead of time spent following you everywhere.
Does he go through the night in the crate, with no noise?

Ps, just re-read and checked his age...he still is very young, and in these stages can lapse in and out of training at any given time.


Would you consider another dog?
I have never had a problen like this, but do know, those who have experienced bad cases of SA, with their dogs, have actually introduced another,
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some dogs can suffer a higher sate of anxiety, I think Dante on here did with her inuit, and in the end she got a companion for him.
 
Yes he spends the night in his crate and is fine, he cries only when he hears our alarm.
If Im honest he doesnt spend much time in his 'house' when we are in, when he does, he stands pathetically at the door waiting to come out or howls. The crate is double ended as in we can open one end into a conservatory whilst shutting the other side to stop him entering the house. Hes a big boy now and getting big for his crate which I believe is the xl one.
He no longer goes mad when we come home like he used to, we leave him in his area until weve made a brew, then let him out.
We really dont want to get another dog, if only for the size of him and the tiny garden and not so big house. Also he is the one crying at the stables to be let out of the very large kennel where he spends some time with his brother and sister when Im at the farm. They go and lie down and he is the one stood waiting to come out so Im not sure another dog will help.
I admit, he is spoilt, how should I be treating him. He does nothing wrong for me to boss him in any way.
 
I can say, one of the most important factors in crate training is consistency, in the way that he should spent time in the area when you are in, atleast until he settles and is quiet on his bed, so the whinging should be ignored, I usually use a baby gate, and I sit in the living room, and I can see straight to the baby gate, I ignore all attempts of attention seeking, I may, if the dog is being really OTT, command it in a harsh voice and point to bed.(I have a big scarey gob)
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I will then go about doing everyhting I need to, and leave said dog in the area, until it time to walk, once walked, it's back to the area, settle, food time, and maybe come into my comapny for 30 mins, in a day.....I will have them spend more time alone then with me, then I decrease the time left alone and increase the time spent with me, but not neccesarily in the house, mainly out for walks.

I must admit though, I know what it is like to deal with problem dogs and the problems that can occur without early routine, so im not a push over, in the "feel sorry for me stakes"
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Im a harsh mammy
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I have just worked with some one who's doberman, started urinating in her bed, she has never been messy, and very easy to train, she is 12 mnths now, and began bogging off from the owners and pishing in her crate, she is now back to the way she was, no doubt, she will lapse again
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lol, I have a big scarey gob too so your not alone. My friend laughs when I go off on one
Thanks for your help, it will come as a shock to him initially but we will start making him spend more time in his house than with us and fingers crossed we will see an improvement.
He has a great life but is a whinger and I can now see this as attention seeking. We have to turn this arround as Im now putting things off for fear of leaving him alone.
Right new start tomorrow
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He used to be really clingy with me but now adores my hubby and follows him everywhere.


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Think this is the clue to why he howls. He has such a deep attachment and feels his pack have left him behind when you go out so possibly needs another small dog that can be his pack. He may not view the dogs he's left with as 'his' which is why he still wants to be with you. No room for a litle JRT even?
 
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