YO's "how to throw someone off your yard"

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I gave SWF (single white female/bunny boiler/completely mad woman) her notice a month ago.

Having never been in the situation whereby I have asked someone to leave before, or even been in the situation where anyone has ever left before, I was wondering how I go about things?

Is it acceptable to ask her to be off of the yard by midday Saturday?

Do I have to change all my locks?
 
If she has had her months notice then it is perfectly acceptable to expect her to go!

In this situation I would speak to her by telephone and follow up with a written letter.
I would start the conversation by asking her what date she is planning on moving her horse, then depending on the answer would do the following
a) If a day-few days after the month notice comes up then I'd let it pass without further aggro just to keep the peace
b) She might surprise you and have it organised :) Live in hope
c) If you get a non-committal answer then I would inform her that she is to bee off your property by X, any day in excess will be charged at a highly inflated Y, and if horse is stiil on property X + Zdays then you will take her to small claims/sell horse/drop it on her doorstep ... what ever threat you wish to make!
 
If you give her a date and time to be off YOUR property it gives her no room to squirm/avoid it. I echo the sending her the letter, it will re-iterate your terms and as it's in writing can't be disputed. Did you give her her notice in writing? If so just give her a duplicate copy with the date to be off the yard by highlighted.

And yes, I would change locks (if she's had free access to keys you don't know she hasn't got duplicates)

Good Luck, sounds like a horrible situation, I like you, hate stufff like this.
 
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catdragon said:
If you give her a date and time to be off YOUR property it gives her no room to squirm/avoid it. I echo the sending her the letter, it will re-iterate your terms and as it's in writing can't be disputed. Did you give her her notice in writing? If so just give her a duplicate copy with the date to be off the yard by highlighted.

And yes, I would change locks (if she's had free access to keys you don't know she hasn't got duplicates)

Good Luck, sounds like a horrible situation, I like you, hate stufff like this.
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I gave her a months’ notice a month ago, in writing, and asked her to be off of the yard on the 24th. I will text her today and ask her to be off of the yard by 1pm – I don’t want her dragging things out and peeving my other liveries.

I have found the whole situation very, very upsetting! As for my locks – they are all combinations, so I will send the kids on a little journey at the weekend!
 
I had this situation last year, the person who was given notice to leave, due to their very dangerous and inconsiderate behaviour he was given a date to go by. He had showed no sign of leaving at all until the day in question, had told no one he had been asked to leave, started packing his stuff up early afternoon and was gone within a couple of hours. Do not panic too much, i wouldn't text I would leave it until Saturday and if she still shows no sign of going, then I would text her and ask what time she is aiming to have left by.

If she turns nasty then I would call the police.
 
unfortunately i have had some really horrible liveries which has completely destroyed my faith in people...
all the advice is really good...
i normally give people strikes and in the event they carry on i ask them to leave... a written imparsial letter is best explaining why you want them to leave and outline you will be asking them to seek alternative livery.
the day you ask them to leave is the start of their 1 month notice... include exact date and what you expect.... ie- giving back keys cleaning out stable poo picking, what equipment you provided and expect to stay.
On the day i stay out of the way but make my presence known until they leave and change the locks immediately!!!!
Im really sorry you have to go through this...
 
Be careful about leaving the horse on her doorstep - if you leave a horse somewhere that is not safe and suitable then you might end up in trouble for abandoning it, as you have a duty of care to horses on your yard.

I know that might not be your plan, and I know it sounds a bit crazy to say you could end up in trouble, but that is the law and I would hate to see you get into any bother over it:(
 
Oh gosh this is every YO's worst nightmare. The only person I had that was a problem was basically a novice who'd totally outhorsed herself by having two young (unbroken) Arab horses; she was doing "natural horsemanship" with them, which in her version of NH meant basically letting them do totally as they pleased, to the extent that they knocked her over in the field and broke her collar bone.

She was on DIY livery, but expected me the YO to basically see to hers if she was working late (which was quite often) and treating me like some third-rate groom (tho' she wouldn't have got away with that at a professional yard, I know).

She also upset my farrier and also the vet, as she was given advice but wouldn't take it, and basically the vet (who's my vet as well) hinted that if she wouldn't take the advice given to her, then there would come a time when he wouldn't be willing to come out to attend her animals anymore.

Anyway, the way I dealt with it was to suggest, very politely, that perhaps because of the "special environment" her horses obviously needed, we "didn't really have the facilities on the yard to ensure they were adequately catered for". She took the hint and p!ssed off out of it, thank god.
 
I have a couple I have given notice to, in writing, have told them when the horses have to be gone, the time and the date. I also included that there possessions must be removed and their stables cleared out by the same time. I have also stated what will happen if they are not gone by that time. which is that their horses will be taken out of their fields and put into a concrete pen, and their stables will be locked shut and their possessions will be removed for them. I have also included a copy of their signed contract with the relevant paragraphs highlighted re notice and leaving.
 
The only thing I would say is don't do anything by text, it is very unprofessional. Either speak to the client in person with a witness present or write to them and send it recorded delivery. You need to remember that every thing you do now may be dragged out and dissected in a civil court months or years down the line - and you do not want to be open to criticism.
 
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