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ok me and my fve decided next year we will move in together - ella( the most lovely caring kind loving man who i fancy the pants off) have decidedwe will move in together. i seriously cant imagine life without him. But this will mean a yard move for babymare.

Some may know babys history - battered beaten dangerous unridable when bought her - now sweet happy beautiful and yes ridden her hacked her out galloped her and she is just a pure inspiration. she still stresses out - so so little now - but she is going blind - shes 12 . she is part of a great herd that i truelly believe know and look out for her - leo will trot from herd to meet her wait whilst she rolls then they go off together to herd. rio adores her and often stood with his head over her neck just standing quiet. the whole herd calls to her " oi baby we are here" dont to any other horse in herd . so my problem is do i move her when i move in with fella and will mean a yard move.

she is so happy - she kows yard the smells and sounds and has routine given sight - will moving her stress her back to what she was when bought her.will she go back inside her self I love this beautiful mare more than loved any other horse in 41 yrs she has been my rock. my gut feeling is to say ok my beautiful sweetmare you are happy and time to say good night till we meet again at rainbow bridge but will i always think maybe she would have coped - but if i move her and she stresses will her last days be stressed and frightened - ffs im crying - i dont fear making that decision to pts sleep but want to make right decision for my beautiful girl

please money is no problem - if she livid till she was 30 plus she would want for nothing - my fear is i just want to do the right thing for this beautiful sweet mare that has given so much and owes me nothing . My gut feeling is to say night night my little chicken .

anyone got tissues

ok tears flowing now
 
Oh God what a dreadful situation!!!!! Unfortunately I think she would stress if moved :( is there any way you can leave her at that yard and pay someone to look after her????? (sorry dont know much about baby's history)
 
Big hugs to you and tissues, first of all.

Can she see at all? If she's not totally blind, then she could still learn the new field etc, and make friends. I'd be inclined to give her a chance. Find a really good yard, that would give her lots of time to settle into the herd. She'd have to stay in a lot, and go out in her own paddock, which you'd have to graze her in hand in until she felt settled. Then gradually introduce her. It will be stressful at first, but if she trusts you, you may well get there - and then how good will you feel... She does sound so happy at the other yard. Is there any way you could leave her there on livery if money isn't an option? Could you get another horse now, for her to turn out with as a pair (perhaps another retired pony/rescue case) that can move with her perhaps?

At the end of the day, if it doesn't work out, you will have tried, which is the best thing you could have done. If she is PTS, at least you would know that you tried.. Give her a bit of time though, if you do move her, as it may take time..
 
mmm n ice idea but no i need to be with her see her and look after her but thank you x her history she was battered beatened beyond belief god love her - and all she wanted was some confidence - shes just a star xxx
 
Oh hugs to you. What an awful predicament at what should be such a happy time. Can she stay and you go? Is there anyone you trust to look after her and you could check up on her. I can't help thinking that a yard move might stress her but as I don't know her I wouldn't want to stick my oar in. Sympathy to you though. How very worrisome.
 
Oh, that sounds like such an awful dilemma. :( If you moved her and she got really stressed and really didn't look like she was going to settle, would there be any way you could move her back to the other yard again and pay someone to look after her?
 
when i bought her the stable was a cage frightening now she has routine and knows she will go out - to keep her in will screw her head. this summer i was looking at moving yards as i wasnt happy - 3 yards i saw were great till said was partially sighted . it went from yes we have herd turn out to " mmm she will have to graze on own" so thats another stumbling block - i want her part of herd but most yards just dont want to know - i stayed at my yard for babys happiness .
 
to be honest guys my gut is telling me answer more and more i read my post - i will make the call and i will stand with her when the time comes - her thoughts will be happy relaxed and calm - i knew this day would come sooner than later with her sight but i would rather her last thoughts were happy - so spring and summer next year will be her year - beautiful baby inspiration x
 
One of my friends when I was a kid had a totally blind horse. As I recall this horse was ok if she had some older ponies to ferry her about, and she was in a safe field with no 'unexpected' objects. She also hated being stabled. Is there any option of you putting her in a field with one or two laid back veterans? Obviously this would require a lot of negotiation with potential livery yards and their liveries.

If you can't find a potentially stress free environment for her don't hesitate to have her pts. It would be miserable and terrifying for her to feel threatened in her new home, since she will not be able to see her attackers.

How blind is she? You mentioned that you have hacked her out and taken her for a gallop. Maybe you could have a vet estimate the extent of her blindness for you and give you advice as to how practical a yard move would be for her.
 
If money isnt a issue cant you pay someone to look after her and make regular visits.Although she trusts you her bond is with her herd and it would be kinder to leave her with them.Its not her fault you need to move on with your life and I completely understand you have needs but she wont pine for you as much as you will for her.Good luck with your decision
 
No harm in looking around yards local to where you'll be moving to and seeing if there is a possibility of a yard with suitable facilities. At least if not, you can rule that out. If there is a suitable yard, I wonder if you could arrange a trial week or two (whilst keeping original livery space going) and see how she is?
 
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