christine48
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The trouble with bringing in someone else's horse is, if either yourself or the horse get injured then you are not insured.
The trouble with bringing in someone else's horse is, if either yourself or the horse get injured then you are not insured.
sounds to me like your horse is aproblem horse,
Tbh although I certainly don't agree with leaving your horse on its own I do see your fm's point of view. In all honesty I suspect you are underplaying your horse's behaviour. You're using lots of language that sounds like a sugar coated version of "nightmare". I've got one a bit like that but I'm fiercely honest about his potential for bad behaviour. He's not a stress head but if he wants to come in he patrols the gate like a bouncer and he'll happily just shove his way out. That's not something any other livery should feel they have to deal with and I'd never expect them to. If we're there we deal with him, if we're not the staff do. He's a docile kitten for us but because of his bulk and him making it very clear he will happily flatten anyone (he has a terrible past history of appalling behaviour) the other liveries are really wary of him, even the well seasoned ones who could easily manage him. Your fms seem to be making it as clear as they can that they are not as comfortable dealing with your horse as maybe you think they should be. It would ofcourse be much better if they'd just be upfront and try and address the issue like sensible grown ups!
I think your horse would benefit from the back up of staff and a hands on yo offering a full range of livery options and support. I'm sure you could do without the stress too. All that having to text each other and synchronise schedules must be a bit of a drag. Wouldn't it be better to just remove the stress and enjoy your horse?
This thread is priceless. We've gone from the op being annoyed the fm brought in early without informing her, to the op being someone who expects her horse brought in every night. Ops horse has gone from being one that stresses left alone to a problem horse that is a danger to ops fms & their horses. Op has changed from someone who is annoyed her horse was left stressing, to a precious owner who panics if her horse canters in the field. Did I read a different op to some people?
- FGS - what is she supposed to do - camp their ?
Move.
I wouldn't be staying on a yard with a YO that didn't sort out these problems, or with liveries like this.
PS has been far nicer than I would be in those circumstances. I'd be giving my money to someone who put the horses and liveries top.
Move.
I wouldn't be staying on a yard with a YO that didn't sort out these problems, or with liveries like this.
PS has been far nicer than I would be in those circumstances. I'd be giving my money to someone who put the horses and liveries top.
Right - the fuss all started because an established horse was going back into its established herd 5 weeks after it was on box rest - it was NOT a new horse -now tell me how many of you would text others in your field - most of you would not even think to.
She tells one of the fm's..... she turns her established horse back into an established field and waits and watches - which is a darn sight more than most would do.
She then gets threatened and bullied over face book
She is a better person than me, as i would have snotted both of them then - but she did not !
She makes arrangements to suit the other FM's whom obviously are dong their best to get her out of the field by being downright spiteful and nasty - and they cannot give her the courtsey of a text - or to bring a horse in - FGS - what is she supposed to do - camp their ?
I would text my field mates. Just to cover my own a**e. If they still choose to leave out and their Horse gets injured then thats on them. It I don't tell anyone and their Horse gets injured its on me. I would have been fuming with OP for not telling me. As so many people have pointed out on this thread it takes only 30 seconds to send a text, but then this should apply to OP too. It does not excuse the nasty bullying childish behaviour on fb. It's a real shame 2 grown woman have had to resort to that.
I would never pass judgement on OP or their horse, I don't know them.
Unfortunately I have been on the side of a similar problem, but from the other side. There were 4 horses in the field, 2 owned by same person who brought them in early. That left mine & a 17.2hh nightmare of bad mannered dangerous mare. The owner, who worked only a few days a week (not long hours either), expected me to bring her mare in. I refused. I have seen this mare attack a horse by going through a 5' post & rail fence (it was on a horse walker next to the field), & had it rear, coming at me with its front legs because I went in the field. Sorry, no. Choice between my life (yes I felt it was that dangerous) & precious neddy getting upset, I was not going to catch it. Wasn't nasty about it, just explained to YO my reasons. After I moved others came to experience this mares behaviour (of course owner swore blind it wasn't a problem to YO - only showed its true colours when it wanted to come in).
But then owner was lazy anyway. Yard rule was first up feeds. I was happy to put feed into stable, but did not have time to run around putting up haynets. If you think your horse needs feed that time in the morning (owner of mare single, no kids, no pets) then get out of bed, take respobsibility for your animal & ruddy well do it yourself. She was worst at the weekend expecting the net to be done as an excuse for a lie-in (hard-work doing 3 days work a week - needed the rest), leaving horses in filthy stables (she only ever skipped out poo) until midday. She could not grasp the idea that I did not want to get up 'extra' early to do her horses for her so she could have a lie-in. Would not go to a livery yard where others can abuse the fact that you go down & take your responsibilities seriously. In a private yard with just owner, no hassles, gossip or nastyness to deal with.
I hope you sort your problem out.
But at what point in time do you have to start informing people that an established horse is going into its normal field with its established herd? - this was not a new horse.
Horses do not forget whom was their herd mate after 6 weeks or 10 weeks - 6 months maybe but 5 weeks seperation - no way - so if my horse was injured and box rest for 3 weeks and went out on the same day as my FM's horse went on box rest for 2 weeks - then i could throw a thrombie at her the day she turns her horse back out ? -
Forgive me if this has already been mentioned (I've read through and don't think it has!) but if you generally like your yard other than the issue with the fieldmates and if their routine doesn't really fit with yours, (you've said you'd like him out longer but can't as he won't stay on his own) is there no way that you could speak to the yard owner about moving your horse to a different field / herd? It sounds like there are a few groups from what you say? If there's no room in another group, could you swap with somebody who would be on a similar routine to the FMs? I know you've managed to adapt your routine to fit in with them, but it would be much easier if you didn't have to - nor would you have to deal with their juvenile behaviour. I doubt this occurance will be a one off if they are as petty and mean as they seem to be.
What she also hasn't said is how far the field is.
My field is about 10 yards from the stables. Others have a very long walk. I wouldn't want to do it twice. I also hate bringing other peoples horses in, probably as I'm getting older and slower.
Mine are trained, I open the gate and one of them comes out, puts its head in the headcollar and off we go. Even the stresshead will come in last as long as you dont take too long.
Ploughing through muddy gateways, with other peoples horses barging around just annoys me. Not being able to bring in half an hour early, without texting and waiting for an owner to arrive, would also piss me off. Cant help it, it just would.
I'm not making excuses for the others, they should not have left the OPs boy. But I'm not surprised they want him out of the field.