Abused,Told I am a F...... Useless Cripple

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For those of you who do not know my story five years ago after a riding acident I lost my leg above the knee, and ~Ebony and myself have both had to try and adapt to this.

Whilst walking a very short distance down the lane to the farm I heard a car speeding down the lane behind us, when he could not get past he kept reving his engine and blasting the horn whilst shouting for me to get out the way. Their was no way to go to allow him to pass so I kept walking to the farm entrance. I am unable to walk very fast and Ebony is very good and walks at my speed and will wait if she gets a little in front of me. He continued to move closer and then shouted Get out of way you F........ useless cripple, I was so scared as I thought he could run into Ebony, who was trying her best to fight her instinct to flee away and remained at my side. We reached the entrance and as quick as I could made sure she went in first, and he then roared off down the lane.

This has left me in shock, that someone could be so rude without knowing the full effect of what he has done to me. ~When I lost my leg I also lost my confidence, my self esteam, great job and my life. This with the help of my faithfull friend Ebony I thought we were getting there, I have had people in the past say horrid things and look and laugh. Each time I take it and pick myself up again and carry on, but each time it happens it gets harder and harder to pick yourself up and carry on.

Sorry to write such a depressing post, but just had to talk about it to people who understand and I hope do not judge me on what I am, just who I am.

Thanks for taking the time to read.
 
Oh you poor thing :(

That bloke was an ********, there is no point ever trying to reason with his type....they are too stupid. I'm just sorry you had to put up with it!
 
This is so awful. Xx It just shows how ignorant some people are.
Well done Ebony for staying with you.

You have come so far and I can only imagine what a difficult road its been. Take care. xx
 
There are a load of idiots in this world.....just be grateful that you are not one of them! :D Rise above the moron and don;t let him get to you. Did you get his number?

PS. Big pats for Ebony!
 
What utter pondlife :(
So sorry that someone felt the need to put you through an ordeal like that. Some people are disgusting.
The only positive I can see is how well behaved Ebony was through it all. What a star.
 
Don't let these horrible people get you down :)

My friend at work always says 'don't worry Philippa, international justice will always bite them back twice as hard'

International justice = karma :) lol

So keep your head held high and just think that your better than that arrogant idiot :)
 
There are some scumbags out there, that's all I can think of, sorry! I'm really shocked and sorry to hear you had such a horrible person to deal with. There's no need for that kind of behaviour, ever! Just try to remember how worthless this person's opinions are, as they were not formed in anything remotely resembling a brain.
 
Ebony is a star, you are great and the driver was definitely and ignorant rectum.

Don't let knobheads like that get you down, they are so not worth the space that they occupy on this planet.
 
What a lovely horse you have - and what an idiot driver! I don't suppose you got any of the number plate? Simply not acceptable :mad: I never understand people like this - not only has he upset you, if your horse wasn't being so good waiting for you, he could have caused not only injury to you and Ebony, but also to his presumably shiny expensive car...

I know it isn't the same , but whenever I have a similar encounter with drivers, I vent about it then sit there and think of karma...

Lots of hugs - from the posts I've read so far from you, you've done so well to get yourself going again after such an accident - you're strong enough to get this far, so you'll be strong enough to carry on after this hurdle and I just hope he gets what's coming to him :(
 
How horrible but please dont waste any emotions on him, he isnt worth it an he will end up affecting you a second time by you wasting your time thinking about it
 
That is vile, i honestly believe on karma and im sure one day he will seriously regret what he said to you.

Dont let an idiot like that get you down, carrying on every day with such a disability is truly courageous, feel sorry for the **** dont let his comments get you down!
 
Feel sorry for him. The poor useless idiot only has one brain cell and just wasted it trying to insult you. You have risen above what has happened to you - he will just sink into his own lack of intelligence and end up killing himself or mumbling in the corner when that one brain cell gives out. You are immensely strong, never forget that x
 
Ahhh the sort of person that makes you proud to be part of the human race.. NOT! I will never get my head around some peoples mentality, it makes me despair :(
What a lovely mare to trust and stick by you though.. horrible thing to encounter for you both though :( xx
 
Pity you didn't get his registration number and report him to the Police. However, I know how frightening it is when there is an agressive driver around.

Don't take it to heart - if it had been me is would have been "old fat cow" or words to that effect!

Don't let this incident affect you, he is not worth the time thinking about it.
 
I'm so sorry you've had such a horrible experience with such an ignorant, rude person. It must be so hard not to take it personally, and yet I wouldn't be surprised if this person is like this to many people he meets. You could probably substitute any other name for groups often abused for the word "cripple" and he probably uses it to abuse them.

I'm not at all meaning to minimise your hurt, just wanting you to know that it probably wasn't personal. He's an idiot.

Please don't let this knock you. You are a braver, stronger person than that w****r will ever be.
 
Thats awful -what an idiot he obviously is. He will get his! What goes around and all that!!! Hugs to you and carrots to Ebony x
 
You need take no notice of ignorant ********* like that, something similar happened to me once when I was crossing a road carrying my child. I had done my back in and could literally only shuffle across, the road was wide and a car had to slow down to let me cross - it was clear when I started out, but then he wound his window down and shouted abuse at me, I was mortified and felt terrible. That was years ago though when I was in my twenties, with age I've become a bit more resilient and would give as good as I got and then report the b******.

Don't let it get you down honey, there are plenty of disabled or elderly people so awareness shouldn't be an issue, it is pure nastiness. What goes around comes around though, maybe one day he will be the one on the receiving end.
 
The man is scum and doesn't warrant an iota of your attention.

Can I just say (hoping not to sound patronsing) how impressed I am that you have continued riding and not given up - I can only imagine how difficult it would be and am not sure how I would cope in your situation :)
 
Some people are incredibly ignorant. I for one (and many others on here) have great admiration for you. You are an inspiration! I know it is hard (and easy for me to say) but try not to let them get you down.

Big hugs!!
 
So sorry this has happened but please do not let ignorant pondlife like him set you back. You have true character shaped by adversity .... he was born pondlife will live and die as such never rising beyond his limited frame of reference and IQ. Big hugs ((((((( hug))))))

Ebony big carrot for you too, you are a star:D
 
Go and have a chat with the local police - the fact that he left you feeling frightened I think counts as 'Threatening Behaviour'

They may not be able to do very much but it won't hurt to have him on their radar - I had a farmer do similar to me and after the local boys in blue went and had a little chat he was much better behaved.

You don't have to put up with that kind of behaviour from anyone!

And every one is right - such a shame the idiot has only got one functioning brain cell!
 
Don't you dare let this disgusting excuse for a human being bring you down! He is not worth anything and needs to go and crawl back into whatever hole he came from.
I admire you for what you have achieved despite what you have been through and you should be endlessly proud of yourself for not being the person that uses their faults (however big or small) for not living their life. I can say this from personal experience as my dad lost his leg in the marines and he shut down, drove everyone away and uses his disability as an excuse. So forget about this awful creature who thinks he is so high and mighty because he uses words to bring others down because he can not handle his own insecurities he is cowardly and low. Go out and enjoy and your life and your horses :)

I hate people like that!!
 
Please dont let this blatant d**khead upset you. He is obviously the type of idiot who picked on people in school for anything he could think of just because he is one of lifes tw*ts. Im sure that if you we're a little on the curvy side he wouldve called you a fat b*tch, if you had grey hair he would've called you a doddery old tw*t but as he could see you were walking slowly he went for the one thing he could to try to upset you because - how dare you - you inconvenienced his day by a couple of seconds.

Dont let someone like him have the satisfaction of getting to you. I can absolutely bet he wont have given you a second thought after he sped around the corner, so dont allow some idiot to have an effect on you. Unfortunately you meet idiots all the time in life, but as many have said, he will get everything that he deserves.

PS incredibly brave of you to still be riding after what have must been a horrible riding accident, takes 'getting back on the horse' to a whole new level. You should be very proud of yourself!!! x
 
Don't waste time thinking about him. You are minus a leg - he is minus a brain and has not even a shred of human decency. In 4 years, you could be on the Para-Olymic team riding for your country - hopefully he'll be in prison for dangerous driving or for being an unmitigated a*sehole (I'm sure that's a criminal offence - or should be!)

You have courage - and a horse who loves and trusts you. He will get what he deserves - hopefully sooner rather than later!
 
Horrified for you when I read this - What a low life - you are such a strong person not only for your terrible experience but also to post on here to share it - extremely brave and an absolute inspiration. Stay strong.
 
Nothing original to add to other posts - what an awful experience for you and what a t*ss pot. I haven't read your whole story but have picked up enough to know how hard you've worked to get this far and am full of admiration for both you and Ebony.

Hugs to you and pats and polos to Ebony

He will get his comeuppance
 
Try not to let it change how you do things in the future, you were 10000% in the right and everyone with any sense at all can see that. You clearly have an amazing bond with your horse - I think animals are a great judge of character so try to take some confort in the fact that you clearly are a very nice well regarded person and he is clear an unhappy nasty piece of work!
 
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