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Some of you may remember me; I got pregnant, and had a major psychological breakdown after the birth and was admitted to a psychiatric mother and baby ward for a number of months.

I had given my horse to friends (sorted paperwork etc) and was riding theirs, and keeping my stuff at their farm. When I got ill they said not to worry, and not to worry about coming to the yard.

Through depression about losing my horse etc, I couldn't face going to the yard, or seeing them, and as the time went on it became more awkward to go up. So It's been over a year since I last went up.

Went up yesterday, and my stuff is all gone. The boxes I kept things in are there, but filled with other peoples stuff. Everything I had - bar mu saddle which is at home. All my rugs, equipment, riding hat, grooming kit, boots, bandages, studs, everything.

I know it's my own fault for not going up, so don't flame me. Luckily they are lovely people and I can use all their stuff and still ride their horses. But when I thin about how much money I have lost, how much this stupid illness ruined my life :(

All they can say is 'someone' has tidied up, so it could be 'somewhere' - but I've looked and can only find the containers, not the actual stuff. He says some stuff got mildewy and had to be chucked, which is fair enough I suppose, just wish they had told me.

Just needed a moan I guess.
 
Scheherezade said:
Some of you may remember me; I got pregnant, and had a major psychological breakdown after the birth and was admitted to a psychiatric mother and baby ward for a number of months.

I had given my horse to friends (sorted paperwork etc) and was riding theirs, and keeping my stuff at their farm. When I got ill they said not to worry, and not to worry about coming to the yard.

Through depression about losing my horse etc, I couldn't face going to the yard, or seeing them, and as the time went on it became more awkward to go up. So It's been over a year since I last went up.

Went up yesterday, and my stuff is all gone. The boxes I kept things in are there, but filled with other peoples stuff. Everything I had - bar mu saddle which is at home. All my rugs, equipment, riding hat, grooming kit, boots, bandages, studs, everything.

I know it's my own fault for not going up, so don't flame me. Luckily they are lovely people and I can use all their stuff and still ride their horses. But when I thin about how much money I have lost, how much this stupid illness ruined my life :(

All they can say is 'someone' has tidied up, so it could be 'somewhere' - but I've looked and can only find the containers, not the actual stuff. He says some stuff got mildewy and had to be chucked, which is fair enough I suppose, just wish they had told me.

Just needed a moan I guess.
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I'm sorry - nothing constructive to say, really, other than as a fellow sufferer I know how debilitating the illness is and how facing people can be torture (I shut myself away for three months a couple of years ago - hid behind he sofa when the doorbell went). Have a hug x

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OP I'm feeling so sorry for you in this situation. You're obviously feeling well enough to go up to the yard again, and now this :(

Taking someone else's goods without their consent is THEFT basically. Yes I know these people at the farm have helped you in a difficult circumstance when you couldn't ride, BUT I think they need to be a little more clear as to WHERE exactly your things have gone???

If someone has taken them, then they need to be returned to you asap! To say the things have got "mildewy" and were chucked is simply NOT acceptable IMO. That's totaly trash - because mildew can be cleaned off.

I think you need to, if you feel strong enough, ask where exactly your goods are, i.e. are they stored somewhere, or did someone take them? If the latter, then you should tell them that unless your goods are returned to you within say 14 days, you will report the matter to the police as theft.

Perhaps you could put up a notice at the yard to this effect? It just might jog someone's memory as to where you things got put???
 
I'm so sorry, you've been through such a tough time. You need a hug and a pat on the back for ensuring your horse was cared for during such a life changing event in your life.
I hope you can find some of your stuff, but I'm glad you have your saddle at least. I know its a lot of money to have lost when your stuff disappeared but don't dwell on it too much. You have supportive friends there and you have survived a major illness.
Look after yourself and I hope the forthcoming year is a good one for you, your baby and family. You deserve it x
 
Oh dear, you poor thing. I don't really think ant wrong has been done, certainly I doubt anything was thrown with malice but it is still awful for you to have had no control over it.

You know what though...you are here, posting, so that is a major positive and long may it and your better health continue. Xx
 
MiJodsR2BlinkinTite said:
OP I'm feeling so sorry for you in this situation. You're obviously feeling well enough to go up to the yard again, and now this :(

Taking someone else's goods without their consent is THEFT basically. Yes I know these people at the farm have helped you in a difficult circumstance when you couldn't ride, BUT I think they need to be a little more clear as to WHERE exactly your things have gone???

If someone has taken them, then they need to be returned to you asap! To say the things have got "mildewy" and were chucked is simply NOT acceptable IMO. That's totaly trash - because mildew can be cleaned off.

I think you need to, if you feel strong enough, ask where exactly your goods are, i.e. are they stored somewhere, or did someone take them? If the latter, then you should tell them that unless your goods are returned to you within say 14 days, you will report the matter to the police as theft.

Perhaps you could put up a notice at the yard to this effect? It just might jog someone's memory as to where you things got put???
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If someone leaves stuff at someone else's place and does not come and get it in a reasonable time the owner of the place has no responsibility to keep or care for it.
Grooms often leave stuff when they leave here I have no idea why but it's something they do I keep it about three months and then sling it.
 
Thanks all. It's not worth chasing or threatening police etc, I'm lucky to have them and still be able to ride and kicking up a fuss would only make a bad atmosphere and risk the opportunity they're giving me. It's just, everything, imagine your lifetimes worth of horse stuff gone. It's just stuff, and that's why I'm moaning on here rather than saying anything. I'll keep looking, chin up and all that.
 
You're more than justified to have a moan, I would be pretty upset too.

I think that its because of the difficult time you've been through, it just seems more important that you are ok.
 
Goldenstar said:
If someone leaves stuff at someone else's place and does not come and get it in a reasonable time the owner of the place has no responsibility to keep or care for it.
Grooms often leave stuff when they leave here I have no idea why but it's something they do I keep it about three months and then sling it.
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Mmmm, yes, can see where you're coming from here............ as well as being a YO I've also been a landlord in a previous life and yes agree some people take the P!ss and leave stuff for everyone else to deal with - we had one tenant who left some vases she said were "valuable" for 9 months, nigh on a year, and STILL expected them to be there for her to collect when it suited her!!!

But I just wonder whether in the scenario OP refers to - someone just took the opportunity to riffle through someone else's things and pick out what they fancied???? Understandable, yes. Acceptable? no, not really. Preventable? unfortunately not.
 
So pleased you're feeling stronger. It is just stuff but it's your stuff so why not put up a really friendly 'missing' notice listing some of the things because they may be being used by others quite innocently thinking they weren't wanted. Perhaps ask for some donations to get you going again :p then add some nice new bits as a symbol of a fresh start.

Remember having good health is absolutely priceless the material things may just have to wait a bit longer :)
 
not much to add, but i can understand why you're annoyed. It cant all have been thrown away for being mildewy can it?

id definitely ask around, but if you cant get to the bottom of it, dont let it stress you out. at the end of the day its only stuff and can be replaced.
 
It does sound as if someone took advantage of your abscence to help themselves to your stuff :( But you have survived worse than that :) The hat would no longer be safe, so karma may well get them! Try and see it as an opportunity for a fresh start and enjoy your renewed health.
 
No advice to offer than what a bummer, I don't sell much retail now but have odds and ends of new(old) stock lying around in my workshop, I have a new in a plastic carry case a basic grooming kit. IF you want it it's yours, send me your full name and address and I will shove it in the post next week or get a courier to courier it up. Hope it cheers you up a bit :)
Oz
The grooming kit is this and it contains
sponge, large curry
flex, large dandy brush, body
brush, plastic comb and sure
hoof pick.

 
I'd be annoyed too Scheherezade but as others have said maybe it is a time for a complete new start and no baggage either physical or metaphorical to carry forward :)
 
I went to type a reply but didn't want to sound patronising. What I want to say is that it's great that you are coming out of the other side of all this. It will have changed you in many ways but you will no doubt be stronger.
These are just things you've lost, but they are things that mean a lot to you. I'd try dropping none too subtle hints about what you've lost. I bet some of it may be suddenly found!
Creme de Monthe has made a lovely offer; so there are some good guys out there!
 
Bless you (((hugs))) don't let it pull you back down as you are obviously on the mend! At our yard if things get left they are binned after a few months, so don't take it personally! Wishing you a happy healthy New Year x
 
oh no OP poor you! That is a horrible thing to happen. dont blame you for moaning on here. But it is brilliant that you are feeling that bit better now and I hope this wont set you back. Hugs x x
 
Most horse people collect 'stuff', which looks like rubbish to everyone else but mean something to us so when things go missing its like losing a bit of your self. On most yards things are left lying around I'd ask if you can have any useful bits, with a bit of luck someone will have a guilty conscience and find your things. I hope you continue to be well, and I would invest in a cheap shed off of e-bay to store your things long term and its somewhere for the babies growing amount of toys, and keepsakes.
 
cremedemonthe said:
No advice to offer than what a bummer, I don't sell much retail now but have odds and ends of new(old) stock lying around in my workshop, I have a new in a plastic carry case a basic grooming kit. IF you want it it's yours, send me your full name and address and I will shove it in the post next week or get a courier to courier it up. Hope it cheers you up a bit :)
Oz
The grooming kit is this and it contains
sponge, large curry
flex, large dandy brush, body
brush, plastic comb and sure
hoof pick.

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What a lovely thing to offer.

I threw something away that a DIY left at our yard last year. It was quite large and I'd kept it over 4 years with constant reminders to get it.

I think that in general, when you move out of somewhere it is better (in terms of security and manners) to take all your stuff with you asap. In this case, when people knew you were ill, your things should have been left safe somewhere.

I would put a notice up asking if anyone has seen any of your belongings, as you're very upset that everything has gone. Give them the benefit of the doubt - they may put stuff back.. (some of them may have genuinely thought it was abandoned?)
 
Depending on what you've lost i have quite a bit lying around which i'd be happy to give to you :) Glad you got through your illness and Mildew usually comes along when something becomes damp - happened to my riding gloves and martingale but just wiped off so they shouldn't have thrown it away.
 
No advice to offer than what a bummer, I don't sell much retail now but have odds and ends of new(old) stock lying around in my workshop, I have a new in a plastic carry case a basic grooming kit. IF you want it it's yours, send me your full name and address and I will shove it in the post next week or get a courier to courier it up. Hope it cheers you up a bit
Oz
The grooming kit is this and it contains
sponge, large curry
flex, large dandy brush, body
brush, plastic comb and sure
hoof pick.

What a lovely generous offer from 'creme de monthe' I hope you take advantage of it as it will help restore your faith in human nature. I am so sorry about your illness it must have been pretty scary. Now you are on the road to recovery and must look forward and think positive thoughts, by all means ask around at the stables if anyone has seen your stuff, but don't hold your breathe to get it back. You then have to carry on you cannot dwell on something you cannot change and have no control over it will only drag you down.
Go for lovely rides and look forward to the things you do have control of and change for the better. xx
 
cremedemonthe said:
No advice to offer than what a bummer, I don't sell much retail now but have odds and ends of new(old) stock lying around in my workshop, I have a new in a plastic carry case a basic grooming kit. IF you want it it's yours, send me your full name and address and I will shove it in the post next week or get a courier to courier it up. Hope it cheers you up a bit :)
Oz
The grooming kit is this and it contains
sponge, large curry
flex, large dandy brush, body
brush, plastic comb and sure
hoof pick.

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What a lovely think to do.

Remember from small acorns, mighty trees grow. You sound as if you are coming out of the worst times and although this is a horrible and disappointing thing to have happened to you, just remember they are only items and items can be replaced. Try not to dwell on what it has cost you, and it's a perfect excuse to go January sales shopping!
 
OP, I'm so pleased that you are feeling well enough to start riding again. Losing your tack is a bummer, some of it may turn up, but I just wonder if the sight of it may take you back to the times when you were in such a bad place. All that is behind you now, so get a new hat, accept Oz's lovely grooming kit and enjoy being around horses again xx
 
cremedemonthe said:
No advice to offer than what a bummer, I don't sell much retail now but have odds and ends of new(old) stock lying around in my workshop, I have a new in a plastic carry case a basic grooming kit. IF you want it it's yours, send me your full name and address and I will shove it in the post next week or get a courier to courier it up. Hope it cheers you up a bit :)
Oz
The grooming kit is this and it contains
sponge, large curry
flex, large dandy brush, body
brush, plastic comb and sure
hoof pick.

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proof that there are still some lovely genuine people in the world, bless you Oz you have made my day, hopefully Scheherezade will see you offer and feel the same way too.x
 
I am sorry you have been through such a tough time and pleased you have improved enough to get back to the yard. Losing all your gear is tough and, despite what some say, is not acceptable. If it was to be 'removed' then the YO should have informed you of his/her intentions and given you a time scale to collect.
I sincerely hope you are now strong enough to cope and deal with this.

Hug to you
 
Oh wow what a response :) thanks guys, I expected to be roundly told it was my own fault and kicked out in disgrace, haha. But it's lovely to read the messages.

it's not a livery yard, it's a private sales yard, with a couple people who have their horses there, and some staff. I'll keep asking around. I'm going riding tomorrow so will have another look.

Oz that is so generous of you, and would be very helpful, thank you!! Will message you.

:)
 
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