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How often do you make your children ride their horses.My daughter wanted her fizzy tbx and loves her dearly but because of her temperment and stamina I think she should be ridden 5 to 6 days a week.I do give my daughter days off sometimes Ill ride two or give mine a extra day as hes coming back into work very slowly from injury.I also do all mucking out when shes at school so dont really think there is a excuse not to ride.Am I being to hard.
We have had to move yards so she has no young company although she gets on really well with all the adults.I think she misses riding with friends in the school but doesnt ring them to hack out.
 
I gave up with mine and the pony is up for sale cos I can't be bothered to deal with it anymore
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I know it sounds rough, but I don't have time to deal with it as well as everything else
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i ride 6 times a week

and if sometimes shell have 2 days of instead of one
mum mucks out for me during the week
and on a monday, wilmas day off she goes down after school and does her for me
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i never have any company when i ride... i school everyday after school, compete at the weekend, or have a lesson... mum cycles with me when i hack out, cos wilma cant go out on her own
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dont ogten get chance to go out with other people, as timetables dont often match.

i think thats fine... mum says the only way i have managed to get so far with wilma is because she has done loads of the stable management things for me
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I'm 14 (nearly 15) and when I had a fizzy tb ex-racer I rode every day apart from tuesdays and thursdays. Wednesday and Friday riding was always my fav, horse was loopy and fridays I was very tired.
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i ride on the w/es as i cant ride anymore than that
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my dad, very ver very kindly pays for my horse to be on full livery so i can compete etc. as he is kept fit! in the holidays i cycle the 4 miles there and 4 miles back to ride him though, i muck out etc. and i do it all on my own, no help.... i also have to enter the competitions myself, organise everything, which is hard. but no i dont think thats harsh, i never get a day off, i have to ride as i made a deal with my dad before i bought my horse that i had to ride him and use him to his full potential otherwise he would be sold as he would be wasted if he wasnt competed etc.
 
Its a bit upsetting because we had 3 loans before that worked out lovely. I knew my daughter wanted her own it broke her heart when last one went back after 18 mths so made a big jump to horses with intention of keeping her long time.New mare is 16h .I just dont want to turn into nagging mum and its slowly happening and we are falling out over a hobby.I hate seeing horses left in fields or stables and not exercised.
 
I'm 17, and i'm on DIY livery and pay for all my horses feed, bedding, supplements etc
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mum covers livery , farrier , vet and insurance. I know - the bigger lump lol. But i muck out my horse every day, ride more or less everyday , or at least every other day and all mum has to do is pick me up
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I am looking for a job to cover extra costs so she hasn't got to shell out though. Poo picking for money is no fun :|
 
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Its a bit upsetting because we had 3 loans before that worked out lovely. I knew my daughter wanted her own it broke her heart when last one went back after 18 mths so made a big jump to horses with intention of keeping her long time.New mare is 16h .I just dont want to turn into nagging mum and its slowly happening and we are falling out over a hobby.I hate seeing horses left in fields or stables and not exercised.

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Yep, me too, which is why I took the decision (tough as it may be) to do something about it rather than let it fester.
 
Im pleased you have replied because I was feeling mean.I have told her we can do share if she wants but thats not acceptable, it costs lots of money and Im not seeing a good horse stand idle.
 
Son gets up at 6.30am and turns out 5, fills water and brushes yard before going to school whilst OH or I muck out.

He rides his 2 most afternoons after school - one has to be ridden every day as she doesn't like being turned out - and his idea of an "easy" afternoon is hacking them both.

After tea and school work he goes round to yard with me and does night stables about 8.30pm.

Perhaps I am hard but I expect him to be committed and to spend time with them to build relationships, both ridden and on the ground. If he wants me to spend £££ on staying away at shows and £18-£20 per class entry then I expect him to be committed and to do his best. Don't care how successful they are as long as puts in 100%. [I lie - I'm as competitive as the next mum
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my 14yr old rides 6 days a week. A couple of years ago she would hack out with friends (but they discovered makeup & boys
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) Now daughter if not competing will disapear for hours at weekend with MP3 earphones (Health & Safety I hear you shout
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) hi viz & mobile phone. Apparantly it is not cool to hack out with mum anymore
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Even though Oh complains about cost & time spent competing whilst she smells of horse manure he has no boy worries
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I'm 17, and i'm on DIY livery and pay for all my horses feed, bedding, supplements etc
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mum covers livery , farrier , vet and insurance. I know - the bigger lump lol. But i muck out my horse every day, ride more or less everyday , or at least every other day and all mum has to do is pick me up
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I am looking for a job to cover extra costs so she hasn't got to shell out though. Poo picking for money is no fun :|

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She hardly ever poo picks I do it whilst she rides.Well after all the posts from girls aged 14 plus I dont feel guilty anymore.
She has talked about a job but with school work and horses theres not a lot of time .Well done you for fitting it all in.Thanks for that
 
my daughter is 15.she mucks out most days but i will do if she stays at friends.she rides 3-4 days but getting new horse soon and will need to do more.i agree they should be committed as i was at that age but she also has gcses and friends ,her dog and non horsey friends so i keep battling with keeping the balance.
 
I 15, my pony is a fizzy nfxtb. If he goes more than 2 days with no exercise he goes mental. As he has been slighty lame for the last week or so he's not been ridden and has taken me skiing a few times. I have now injured my arm in the same place i injured it in january so that means no riding for atleast another week but i will be lungeing him i think. Anyway back to the point...i usually ride every day unless i am in a complete rush. I do everything myself (turnourt at stupid o'clock in the morning, muck out, poo pick etc) as my mum pays the bills most of the time. I am lucky though that i am on home ed because i have time to do everything, although i did manage to do it when i was at school. I do think it will vary a bit while gcse's are going on though but that only lasts a month
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i think she gets a good deal then! i used to cycle to yard before school, and go after school, plus ride every night. fair enough, she might miss her friends. could you organise a ride out with mates for her at wkend for eg. if she rides enough in wk? my dad said when i was 14, if i EVER have to muck out your pony, hes sold. im 31 this year, and still as motivated! lol. horses werent born to stand in stables! could you lunge her in a pessoa or whitaker once a week, to reduce pressure? but still, yes i agree, unless turned out daily on grazing, needs riding 5 x week.hope it works out for you.
 
no worries =D Im due to do 7 wheelbarrows this weekend for people around the farm, and then 5 stables. Plus being a show photographer and ride my own horse haha. Anyone feel like helping ?
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Your girl is so lucky to get all that done for her i ride 3 horses a day and a-levels was 4 horses last year i have to poo pick etc as not on livery and im 17. My little sis does seem to get away with everything though :P
 
Im hoping shows and pc will rekindle her interest .She hates the winter and moving yards has been a pain although we are both happy there.
Once we can get over capped hock from field kick and start jumping again she will probably regain interest.I was hoping to share my horse but hes had bad injuries and we are still waiting for long term prognosis.
Your lucky with oh mine isnt into dogs or horses just football and golf lol
 
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Erm, you should be having to make your kids do homework and clean rooms. Riding should be a reward, IMO. If your daughter needs making to ride her horse she's lost either interest or lost confidence. Either way, there's no point making her if she doesn't enjoy it. Sell the horse.
 
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my 14yr old rides 6 days a week. A couple of years ago she would hack out with friends (but they discovered makeup & boys
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) Now daughter if not competing will disapear for hours at weekend with MP3 earphones (Health & Safety I hear you shout
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) hi viz & mobile phone. Apparantly it is not cool to hack out with mum anymore
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Even though Oh complains about cost & time spent competing whilst she smells of horse manure he has no boy worries
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Lots of valid reasons to keep a horse .Mine was like that last year but hormones have jumped into gear.
Shes just come through and read my post and grumped off to bedroom.whoops
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Flame, from a 15 year olds point of view, that is a cr@p way of going, riding shouldnt be a reward as then we woulnt ever do it. clean rooms...no way, yes maybe tidy them a bit but not told to do that to be rewarded with riding :S and also, homework, we do that anyway, dont need to be forced, or if anyones parents are like mine, then they dont really have an idea that i get homework/ exams and if they do then they dont say anything!
just what i think......
and the dont sell the horse, sometimes we just lose interest because we do, but once she starts jumping etc. im sure shell be more interested!
and also the winter is horrible, im always thinking why aam i doing this,, all this mud and wet, its horrible, but then the summer comes and its lika aha this is why!!!
 
Gosh I must be the softest mother on here!

Mine rides maybe three times a week, weekends and Tuesdays during the winter, and Friday if we both feel like it. If it's foul, I say let's not bother. I muck out 7 all week, and in return she mucks out Saturdays (we have most of her outgrown ponies as well as current horse!).

I always wanted her to ride, and have never pushed it. It was different for me as my parents weren't horsey and didn't get it at all, I had to push and push, spent every minute at the riding school that I could, and worked weekends mucking out and learning to teach while the rich kids had private lessons on their horses.

But it's different when you have a keen, horsey mum. I think it takes something away from their need/desire somehow. You rarely see the son/daughter of a horsey parent absolutely desperate to ride. And don't forget, Pammy Hutton had to pay her 14 yr old son to ride, and now he is riding at international level!
 
I try to ride mine both daily although I appreciate I get it easy as someone else mucks out and hacks one out to. Although I did find it hard through the winter as one is such an arrogant TB and hard to get to work it seemed like 1 step forward and 10 back.
 
when i was 15 i put my ponies out before school and mucked one out. when i got hom i would rush to the yard and muck out my boss' horses then ride my 2, muck out the other and put them to bed. i'd get home a 9.30 some evenings and then have to do my homework.
the ponies weren't mine they were owned by people who couldn't be bothered to look after them so they just stood in thier own mess. i offered to do them and they agreed. i was grateful becuase my dad could never afford to pay for a horse so i spent every available waking moment with them untill their owner decided to sell them

i think your daughter has it very easy indeed, i also agree with flame- you shouldn't have to make her ride
 
llewelyn I think you have a very valid point.My daughter loves riding but isnt desperate like I was.I didnt get my first horse until I was 41 and I just love being with all horses.
Shes just told me Im more horsey than she is but I never pushed her into having her own horse it was all her own choice.
We can have softest mother awards
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I think that point about making her ride has been misinterpreted or possibly I didnt express it clearly enough in short post.I dont want to make her ride I want her to want to ride and thats why I posted.My main concern is that her horse is the type that needs to be ridden and that is why she was attracted to her.Her previous horse was cob and she could have 3 days off without making any difference this new young one needs lots of attention .I dont mind her lunging once a week and Im happy to hack her out on her own once a week.
 
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But it's different when you have a keen, horsey mum. I think it takes something away from their need/desire somehow.

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This is exactly right, I think. They don't need to fight for it and take having something to ride for granted. I know that my son is determined to keep competing as we sat down with him before getting him a new horse recently but I'm not sure that he would want to ride if he couldn't compete. Shows are his out of school social life and he's made so many friends the length of the country and so to him it's a mix of competitiveness and access to friends (and girls!)
 
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