webble
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The horse part is a no brainer. The bit i picked up on was what OH wants. Do YOU want to think about trying for a child?
Am I Crazy To Consider...
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MidChristmasCrisis
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Of course most folk here are gonna tell you to get another horse! Why should you have warm and comfy winters with clean cars, nails and money in your account 
Trouper
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I'm sorry but I am going to sound like a grumpy old g***t here but I am not hearing much about the horse in all of this. If you are the sort of person who can juggle lots of demands on your time - job/partner/horse/family - and revel in the pressure then, yes, go for it. But if you get a horse now and then find that starting a family pushes the horse into the background or even in to selling, then I would think long and hard if now is the right time.
Pearlsacarolsinger
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If you are missing having a horse and you can afford to have another, of corse you should have another. It sounds as if your OH is supportive of the idea too. If you do have a child in the future, you can sell rhe horse on, if you need to but plenty of people do mix horses and children. Life is too short to waste it on regrets and none of us know what the future holds. Grab your opportunities with both hands. And remember we will need the photos
AShetlandBitMeOnce
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Thanks for all the replies… I have notified OH that I have set up an additional savings pot called ‘horse fund’ for once we finally find a house to buy and move 
. You are all so right and the saying ‘you only regret what you didn’t do, not what you did’ is going round in my head. I have the funds for a retiree should it come to it, and the disposition to full loan out should anything change - so it’s worth it to me.
Being 100% honest, when I’m around my friends’ son or family children I think that I’d really like to do this, then once I am away from them and it means potentially sacrificing the things I love I feel like I’m not so sure. I just figured that I would plan for it just in case, but see how I feel once I’m there. Mum said she was never that maternal or desperate for children until she had me… perhaps it runs in the family I feel I’m still a little selfish at the moment to think about having one, but at 26, I have plenty of time to make up my mind, and if it doesn’t happen then so be it.
. You are all so right and the saying ‘you only regret what you didn’t do, not what you did’ is going round in my head. I have the funds for a retiree should it come to it, and the disposition to full loan out should anything change - so it’s worth it to me.Being 100% honest, when I’m around my friends’ son or family children I think that I’d really like to do this, then once I am away from them and it means potentially sacrificing the things I love I feel like I’m not so sure. I just figured that I would plan for it just in case, but see how I feel once I’m there. Mum said she was never that maternal or desperate for children until she had me… perhaps it runs in the family
I feel I’m still a little selfish at the moment to think about having one, but at 26, I have plenty of time to make up my mind, and if it doesn’t happen then so be it.
webble
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Oh you have lots of time, bit don't be pushed into it
PinkvSantaboots
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My oh bought a horse for me at 26 I had 2 previously when I was much younger but had a break of about 7 years without a horse, I was out partying, drinking loads, holidays and having a ball but then really came back down to earth and missed it, I'm 51 now and never been without a horse since I haven't ever wanted children but your so young just do what you feel is right now you have loads of time for the other stuff.Thanks for all the replies… I have notified OH that I have set up an additional savings pot called ‘horse fund’ for once we finally find a house to buy and move
Being 100% honest, when I’m around my friends’ son or family children I think that I’d really like to do this, then once I am away from them and it means potentially sacrificing the things I love I feel like I’m not so sure. I just figured that I would plan for it just in case, but see how I feel once I’m there. Mum said she was never that maternal or desperate for children until she had me… perhaps it runs in the family
Barton Bounty
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There is nothing wrong with doing both!Thanks for all the replies… I have notified OH that I have set up an additional savings pot called ‘horse fund’ for once we finally find a house to buy and move
Being 100% honest, when I’m around my friends’ son or family children I think that I’d really like to do this, then once I am away from them and it means potentially sacrificing the things I love I feel like I’m not so sure. I just figured that I would plan for it just in case, but see how I feel once I’m there. Mum said she was never that maternal or desperate for children until she had me… perhaps it runs in the family
You can have your cake and eat it
if you have a supportive OH which I think you do… you can do it! I wanted mine done and out the way by 30
Bowie
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Now in my 50’s- owned till early 20’s - had children. Divorced. New partner - told me to work to live not live to work. Encouraged major career change. Did that. Told me to ride again. Did that. Told me to buy a horse. Did that mid 40’s. Daughter then discovered horses (which has been wonderful).
You are never too old blah blah blah. But I have told my children to retain their passions however they can. Finance did prevent me for a while and there are always practicalities but you have a love/passion and knowledge. Do it.
What ifs are always there. And often What ifs don’t strike how we think.
My husband is not horsey. But he gets it. And can rug up, tack up, groom now- and is happy my daughter talks horses with me
You are never too old blah blah blah. But I have told my children to retain their passions however they can. Finance did prevent me for a while and there are always practicalities but you have a love/passion and knowledge. Do it.
What ifs are always there. And often What ifs don’t strike how we think.
My husband is not horsey. But he gets it. And can rug up, tack up, groom now- and is happy my daughter talks horses with me
Accidental Eventer
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Get the horse! Enjoy riding before you have kids, it gets trickier after you have them (though not impossible!).
If you still miss it after time away, then you will still miss it. I think I would be the same as you if I stopped riding, I would try other things out but nothing would stick like riding does.
there are ups and downs in horse ownership, some horses are determined to self harm, others will just plod along forever. And sadly which you get is luck of the draw. But the good days outweigh the bad, and there is nothing like galloping on your horse. It is absolute freedom.
I have two horses at home, and a child. It's a juggle, but if I didn't have the horses I would go mad.
If you still miss it after time away, then you will still miss it. I think I would be the same as you if I stopped riding, I would try other things out but nothing would stick like riding does.
there are ups and downs in horse ownership, some horses are determined to self harm, others will just plod along forever. And sadly which you get is luck of the draw. But the good days outweigh the bad, and there is nothing like galloping on your horse. It is absolute freedom.
I have two horses at home, and a child. It's a juggle, but if I didn't have the horses I would go mad.