Am I going potty? Where did the 'Raff' post go???

Jeez. That is miserable. You're one of the nicest HHOers. Everyone knows what you've been through with Raff and that you were just asking advice surely?! People!
 
Whoever did it, I really hope they dont fall into problems where their confidence has fallen so low they dont know which way to turn. There is a huge difference between a post that is advertising and a cry from help from someone who at present is feeling a little desperate about the situation she is in and putting her thoughts down in writing is helping and the support that forum can give keeps her going.

She is very very hurt and upset over this, this has just added to the panic and worry that she is presently feeling over a horse she adores so much it is breaking her heart at the moment not knowing what to do and only wants to do the best for his need.
 
leiat8 said:
may sound thick as i'm quite new to the forum, what do u mean pushed a button? does that mean people can delete others posts?? x
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There is a little triangle that you can push to PM admin - it's supposed to be for racist or otherwise offensive posts though, or spam. Not so much for picking on nice people having a rough time...
 
OMG, will some people just cop on to themselves.
What has happened to this forums it used to all be about helping each other.
Now is seems to be who gets the most button pushes in, i dont get it i have never pushed the button yet if i dont like the thread i come out of it.
Clipclop do not let some idiot on here upset you, i know it may just be the straw that broke the camels back but sod them
 
leiat8 said:
may sound thick as i'm quite new to the forum, what do u mean pushed a button? does that mean people can delete others posts?? x
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No, it means someone has alerted the FC or complained about a post........in this case some very sad individual who probably got a kick out of being able to exert some power over CCP's post, obviously a person lacking in self confidence and hiding themselves behind a pc/laptop. CCP made it very clear that it was not an advert and also stated that he/she would not or could not sell anyway. Hey Ho takes all sorts I suppose but what a shame people behave in this manor......
 
Spudlet said:
There is a little triangle that you can push to PM admin - it's supposed to be for racist or otherwise offensive posts though, or spam. Not so much for picking on nice people having a rough time...
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It is to alert admin about advertising too as that is against the forum's t&cs.

I didnt push the button before anyone asks! I'm just guessing that someone read the post and complained that it was advertising.
 
Its pathetic and I was one who suported the general ban on advertizing because some people were and its cheeky but this one was not.Admin should read the posts before putting bans on them.
 
What a pity. I don't know how it works, but wouldn't it be fairer to have a warning imposed first, then at least the OP could explain the reasoning behind the so-called infringement?

I personally didn't see the post before it got pulled, but there does seem to be an almighty b*lls-up here.
 
scally said:
Whoever did it, I really hope they dont fall into problems where their confidence has fallen so low they dont know which way to turn. There is a huge difference between a post that is advertising and a cry from help from someone who at present is feeling a little desperate about the situation she is in and putting her thoughts down in writing is helping and the support that forum can give keeps her going.

She is very very hurt and upset over this, this has just added to the panic and worry that she is presently feeling over a horse she adores so much it is breaking her heart at the moment not knowing what to do and only wants to do the best for his need.
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thank you.

anyone who has read ANY of my posts (and that, i presume includes the button pusher - who seems to rather remain anonymous) knows how much i've been through with Raff, and the enormous problems i've had with my confidence/pregnancy/him breaking a leg and nearly losing him.

it is actually, quite literally breaking my heart, and taking over my life, the struggle i'm having. the fear and pressure i feel is all-encompassing and makes living a normal life very hard. just before the thread got pulled, i wrote a long post about how much raff has changed my life, and my family's life too. i adore him. he's my world. the thought of loaning him out is something i have battled with for a year now. a whole year of worry and upset. i finally pluck up enough guts to write a post about it, and someone feels it appropriate to push a button.

they will also know that i was a great fan of this forum, i found it useful, supportive and full of excellent advice. i have turned to it when i have felt at a loss, and i've always found the answer. i also hope that i've been able to offer advice/support to others too.

i think it is very sad, that albeit a 'virtual' community, people feel the need to interfere and do something which is downright mean.

my post was not advertising. it may have said 'how much' in the title. but it also quite clearly said that i wouldn't sell him. it was more an outpouring of my thoughts and doubts. and the replies were not 'oooh, i'll give you 5k for him' they were supportive and sweet. and exactly what i needed.

how sad that it has gone now. i'm not a thick skinned person. and at present i'm feeling very fragile anyway, after making the decision to loan out my amazing horse. i'm not just having to let him go, i'm also having to admit defeat and admit that, after 30 years of riding, i might never do it again.

thank you everyone on here that has been supportive etc. it has meant a lot.

Poppy xxx
 
I read it and it was certainly not advertising.

Can't TFC use some judgement and maybe issue guidence???

If things carry on you won't be able to post anything about buying or selling anything in case it is seen as advertising!
 
clipcloppop said:
thank you.

anyone who has read ANY of my posts (and that, i presume includes the button pusher - who seems to rather remain anonymous) knows how much i've been through with Raff, and the enormous problems i've had with my confidence/pregnancy/him breaking a leg and nearly losing him.

it is actually, quite literally breaking my heart, and taking over my life, the struggle i'm having. the fear and pressure i feel is all-encompassing and makes living a normal life very hard. just before the thread got pulled, i wrote a long post about how much raff has changed my life, and my family's life too. i adore him. he's my world. the thought of loaning him out is something i have battled with for a year now. a whole year of worry and upset. i finally pluck up enough guts to write a post about it, and someone feels it appropriate to push a button.

they will also know that i was a great fan of this forum, i found it useful, supportive and full of excellent advice. i have turned to it when i have felt at a loss, and i've always found the answer. i also hope that i've been able to offer advice/support to others too.

i think it is very sad, that albeit a 'virtual' community, people feel the need to interfere and do something which is downright mean.

my post was not advertising. it may have said 'how much' in the title. but it also quite clearly said that i wouldn't sell him. it was more an outpouring of my thoughts and doubts. and the replies were not 'oooh, i'll give you 5k for him' they were supportive and sweet. and exactly what i needed.

how sad that it has gone now. i'm not a thick skinned person. and at present i'm feeling very fragile anyway, after making the decision to loan out my amazing horse. i'm not just having to let him go, i'm also having to admit defeat and admit that, after 30 years of riding, i might never do it again.

thank you everyone on here that has been supportive etc. it has meant a lot.

Poppy xxx
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You will get back on hun, when the time is right for you. Raff won't mind living in his comfy field and eating and having cuddles. I know you've been thinking about this for a long time, but stop, take a break. Let people look to share if it feels right, but other than that, de-stress darling. Raff really does not mind.
 
clipcloppop said:
thank you.

anyone who has read ANY of my posts (and that, i presume includes the button pusher - who seems to rather remain anonymous) knows how much i've been through with Raff, and the enormous problems i've had with my confidence/pregnancy/him breaking a leg and nearly losing him.

it is actually, quite literally breaking my heart, and taking over my life, the struggle i'm having. the fear and pressure i feel is all-encompassing and makes living a normal life very hard. just before the thread got pulled, i wrote a long post about how much raff has changed my life, and my family's life too. i adore him. he's my world. the thought of loaning him out is something i have battled with for a year now. a whole year of worry and upset. i finally pluck up enough guts to write a post about it, and someone feels it appropriate to push a button.

they will also know that i was a great fan of this forum, i found it useful, supportive and full of excellent advice. i have turned to it when i have felt at a loss, and i've always found the answer. i also hope that i've been able to offer advice/support to others too.

i think it is very sad, that albeit a 'virtual' community, people feel the need to interfere and do something which is downright mean.

my post was not advertising. it may have said 'how much' in the title. but it also quite clearly said that i wouldn't sell him. it was more an outpouring of my thoughts and doubts. and the replies were not 'oooh, i'll give you 5k for him' they were supportive and sweet. and exactly what i needed.

how sad that it has gone now. i'm not a thick skinned person. and at present i'm feeling very fragile anyway, after making the decision to loan out my amazing horse. i'm not just having to let him go, i'm also having to admit defeat and admit that, after 30 years of riding, i might never do it again.

thank you everyone on here that has been supportive etc. it has meant a lot.

Poppy xxx
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I am so sorry that you find yourself in this position - as for whomever pressed the button - words fail me :mad:
 
MrsMozart said:
You will get back on hun, when the time is right for you. Raff won't mind living in his comfy field and eating and having cuddles. I know you've been thinking about this for a long time, but stop, take a break. Let people look to share if it feels right, but other than that, de-stress darling. Raff really does not mind.
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I second this, horses do not mind having time off or being "wasted" in a field. If he is happy being turned out then turn him away and let him have a break. DO NOT feel guilty, he won't mind at all, in fact he'll probably love it.

You may find it does him the world of good though.

If it is making you this unhappy forget selling or loaning, but maybe keep up with a few enquiries about sharers. Maybe through word of mouth rather than ads so you don't have to deal with lots of phone calls.
 
Big hugs, hun. You are a very valid member of this forum and the majority of us on here are here support you and each other. Don't forget the horrible, rude and vindictive are very much in a minority.

I posted a while back stating clearly by boy was not and never would be for sale but as a proud mummy and perhaps being a little self indulgent, asked how much he would he would be worth. Despite reiterating the not for sale, never would be I still got a nasty comment and it stated I shouldt need to ask if I wasn't selling. They lost the point entirely, he is worth a billion pounds to me but I wanted an objective opinion. I was met by comments that took my post in the context it was meant and others from people who clearly ignore what is written or cannot read properly and just and are unconstructive and make you feel like *****.

Remember, you are in the majority ... we love you x
 
Words fail me, whatever planet the button pusher is from could they kindly stay there and leave the nice, normal people to carry on life as normal :mad:

Clippy - ignore them, you're doing what is best for you and your boy. My advice would be to keep him as a lawn mower - heaven knows my girl has been happy doing this for most of her 10 years of life!!

Huge hugs to you & wish you all the best.
 
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