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I went to fetch my horse in last night, to do so I have to walk through another mare's field. This mare has not got the best of manners and tends to be a little bargey if you have any food.

However last night all I had was a headcollar and a bit of carrot in my pocket. She started walking towards me so I spoke to her saying something stupid along the lines of 'I'm not your mum, she is on the way with your tea'. Then said horse just turned on me and tried to barge into me. Failed to do anything so cantered round and literally took a run up and barged me into the air and landed flat on the floor.

I screamed and called for its owner, but although they heard me didnt bother coming over. I am 11 weeks pregnant and everybody on the yard is aware of this. So when I came out she just said 'oh how naughty I will tell her when I take her tea' then left me to it. I was covered in mud, shaking, and still had to change rugs and sort horse.

Now she has completely ignored me since!! I know it is not her fault but surely a text to see how I was or something?

I am soooo angry, my horse kicked out at another horse ONCE and is labelled dangerous but hers is fine!!!

Don't get me wrong I am not blaming her for what happened and I know that when I am entering other horses fields at my own risk, I dont want to claim compensation off her etc etc. I just think a text or a call to see how I was would have been nice!!!!

Grrr excuse my hormonal rantings!!!
 
I would be talking to the YO. If you're pregnant thats EXTREMELY bad, but tbh even if you werent pregnant it would be awful.

Could you switch fields so you dont have to lead your horse through hers but her owner has to come through your horse?
 
Pregers or not, rude not to check you were ok....or even give you a hand.

I'd be annoyed as hell, if my horse flicks an ear the wrong way at someone i appolise for his bad manners.:D
 
Unfortunately there is little you can do about bad manners!

However, speak to YO and get something sorted so you can catch your horse without having to walk through another field, if you are pregnant they should help!

In the mean time, if this horse walks over to you, don't let it get in your personal space - Bloody swing the head collar in its direction, so its unpleasant to walk into your space.

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I'd speak to YO too, see if an arrangement could be come to.

In the meantime I'd not be taking any food in the field with me, even if it is just a carrot, and if she attempted to approach me she'd be getting the lead rope flailed at her to get her to back off. Too close she'd get a whack with it.
 
If someone shouts for help you go see ffs, i really pees me off this ignoring things nature people seem to have. I agree can you move the horse to another field? imagine when your further into your pregnancy if that horse does that! not on at all, in fact she should be told to move her horse. Can see the mood im in this morning LOL
 
I do think that bad of her to ignore you when you needed help.
I would talk to the YO. We had a problem with the horses in front of my summer field which I had to walk through, the horse was protective of the mare he was out wuith and charge at any horse. This meant my horse's had to stay out till last and couldnt just bring in to ride and my 10year old sister couldnt get her horse. We all decided it was safest to but a walk way in. This meant a loose in the size of field but no1 had to worry about horses or people being injuried.
 
Gosh that's scary, especially as you are pregnant. I can't believe the owners didn't even come and check you were ok!

I've been barged to the ground (and into a hedge) by our own horse when she was in her rude girl phase but thankfully she never did it to anyone else. If she had done I would be beyond mortified and looking to prevent it from happening again asap. Sorry this has happened to you
 
Thanks for your replies everyone, I am normally quite capable of dealing with this horse's bad manners but yesterday she completely took me by suprise.

Unfortunately this is the best field situation I have managed to get but I will get my OH to fence off a walk way to my field so it can't happen again.
 
Her reaction is awful. I would calling you to make sure your ok and asking is there anyway I can make it up, it is her horse afterall. Maybe the horse takes after its owner !!

Hope Oh makes you a walk way but if its in her field whats the betting she will moan ??, maybe a longer leadrope chucked her way will make the mare stay away. Is there the option of asking the lady to get her mare in before you go to get yours ?
 
I know it is not her fault exactly but bad manners in horses are the responsibilty of their owners and this girl should be educating her horse not to barge people. Let's face it, bad mannered dogs, horses and children are a nightmare for everyone and should be sorted by their owners/parents. I have had many horses over the years who have come to me as rude and pushy and I simply work with them until they no longer do it. I expect you feel that you have no right to hit out at someone elses horse but when you and your baby are in in danger then I think you do have the right. Her attitude after the event just proves that she isn't concerned with teaching her horse any manners, an attitude I see too often these days which leads to problems for the horse generally as it then hurts someone and everyone labels it bad and dangerous when it is simply ignorant. For your safety I would certainly try to get a walkway put in but also ask your YO to suggest to this person that they educate their horse a little. I know horses can be silly about food but a bit of time spent teaching a horse about personal space can work wonders.
 
Quite often people with horses like this are completely in denial about how bad their horses are. Your yard owner should be more aware of how bad the horse is, and put it in another field. When we had DIYs I was always worried about someone getting hurt, and tried to keep problem horses apart. Having said that, when we did seperate one livery's disruptive horse from the others the owner was crying to our groom that we were being cruel to her horse leaving it on its own (it could touch the other horses over a fence) and soon left, giving us two days notice rather than the agreed month, and never spoke to us again!
 
In that situation I would have been running towards it flapping my arms and roaring! Maybe then the owner would have come to see what was happening.:D

There is no excuse for bad manners and they have to know who is boss.
 
Jesus! Glad u and bubba are ok! I know it sounds nasty but maybe take a lunge whip with you if you have to walk through the field just for your safety!
 
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Ouch :(
Hope your ok, You should ask your YO if you can change fields and expalin why...not a good situation to be in you WASNT pregnant!!!

Same happened to me last night but one of my beasts barged through the gate and had me on the floor and trampled me!!! evil mare :mad: i shouted because my other one was loose and no bugger came so Ayla run off to her stable on her own :(
 
I think that's terrible! She should have rushed out and caught her horse so you could safely bring your horse in. Unbelievable behaviour regardless of you being pregnant you could have been kicked in the head or anything. I'd be furious myself, as you say she couldn't have stopped the horse doing it but should have rushed to help after it happened.
 
First off, the very fact they heard you but didn't come to see why you were calling has me seeing red.
Secondly you ought to be telling YO that putting your baby at risk is seriously unacceptable.
Ask for the mare, or your horse to be moved. Until that happens, take yourself a nice long schooling whip, and should she even think about it, a good whack across the chest needs giving!
 
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