ANGRY!! She's always like this!!

You say you couldn't help at a riding school because of family issues but could go to the field, are there no yards in walking distance that you could offer help at?

I will hold my hand up and say that I was quite harsh at the beginning, I still stand by most of my comments except the petulant one. the title of the post and vigour it was written lead me to that however I applaud your considered responses and attitude. I have horsey friends in Skipton and I am sure there are other HHOers that may be able to help :)

Good luck
 
Batgirl said:
You say you couldn't help at a riding school because of family issues but could go to the field, are there no yards in walking distance that you could offer help at?

I will hold my hand up and say that I was quite harsh at the beginning, I still stand by most of my comments except the petulant one. the title of the post and vigour it was written lead me to that however I applaud your considered responses and attitude. I have horsey friends in Skipton and I am sure there are other HHOers that may be able to help :)

Good luck
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Thank you:D
There is one, but like I said long story and wouldn't really want to go into detail.
Thanks for your help though:)xx
 
Haven't read all the replies OP but where abouts are you based??
If your not that bothered on ridding maybe there will be someone out there who wants a sharer just toncuddle and fuss the horses! I know I'd die to have someone do that!

Good luck xxx
 
Beans2000 said:
Haven't read all the replies OP but where abouts are you based??
If your not that bothered on ridding maybe there will be someone out there who wants a sharer just toncuddle and fuss the horses! I know I'd die to have someone do that!

Good luck xxx
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Skipton area, north yorkshire:)
xxx
 
Maybe place a free advert on gum tree, ad trader etc offering a helping hand with horses. not looking to ride, etc - you might get someone really close who would love someone to come groom and fuss :)
 
Yeah, its a shame you're not closer to me.
Maybe continue to save up your cash for another few years until you've finished all of your education and started working. Then you'd be in a better position to buy your own.
 
For the brief period of my life when I was ponyless after first pony went on loan I walked around my village daily until I bumped into the various horse owners there and offered to help, which ended up with me being offered about 10 horses to ride a day! Far too many! I got a lot of experience and new horsey friends and ended up buying my dream horse off one of the owners
 
Sorry i am with your mum on this.. looking at your previous posts you were asking questions about riding shetlands.. and also asking how people get hold of off the tracks TB's. I honestly think you just want a horse, any horse as long as its cheap.

Im sorry. I think you need to share first and understand the amount of responsibility having your own is no matter how cheap to keep they can seem to be.
 
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Tbh I was astounded that a 16 year old is having to pay rent to her own mother, but maybe that's just me :o
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Just been skimming over this thread, and I think it is really only fair to help your mum out a bit. I could maybe agree £25 is quite a lot at 16. I assume you only work weekends?

I am very lucky that at 17, I do not have to pay my mum rent, however, I do buy all my clothes etc. and she doesn't really give me money for anything except the bus to college 3 days a week. I do however pay for all my horse costs, so I think she takes this into account.

I will just say, though, that I planned well for owning my own horse but I often find myself coming a bit short now it's getting to winter and I'm not able to go out with friends for meals and cinema etc.

If I were you, I would put my money towards a part loan. This way you are not committed financially without a 'get out of jail' card, and you will be able to show your mum that you are responsible with your time and money.

Just think, the longer you wait for that perfect horse, the better it will be!
 
OP, good luck on the pony front!

I really just wanted to comment on the rent thing. Lots of you must be so lucky that you are in a position to not pay rent, or charge your children.

My mother is a single parent, and as soon as I left school, started college and had a part time job I've paid rent, and a lot more than £25 p/w.

Atm I'm rising 21 and doing my nursing degree and my bursary just doesn't cut it. I pay a nominal amount of rent, but I still buy my own food and pitch in where I can. It's good manners, my mother supported me for 16 years so I owe it to her now.

It's not disgusting, or shocking, and I take offence at people who deem it so :mad:

I have friends who haven't paid a penny in their life and remain that way at uni. If anything (god forbid) happened to their parents they'd be deep in ***** as they have no idea on how to budget or support themselves.

Rant over!
 
EKW said:
If I could go back to the start and do everything again I would.

I have always been a spoilt brat - yes I admit it :D - and I have always had ponies. I had generic ponies in England and when we moved to Scotland I got the ride on a cracking Welsh A and that got me hitched on the showing bug. Ever since then I have always had top class natives - yes I got all bar 1 of them as youngsters and brought them on myself but mother dearest bought them. They live at home so no livery. I quit school at 15 and started working in a racing yard and since have brought home 4 tb's ... The problem with my mother is she never says no!

If I could go back to being 15/16 when I had Flint, my fell pony, a stallion, broodmare and the yearling colt I would! I would stay at school,do it all properly and not gain any more animals!

Instead I earn a decent wage for the job I do and every penny of that goes on the 17 equines I appear to have accumulated ... Not all mine! My mother gathered some and so instead of paying her rent I pay for the ponies.

I'm now 24yo, I'm stuck in a job I no longer really want to do but I can't afford to leave it until I have another job to walk straight into that pays the same if not more than I currently get - really not easy! It's a good job I don't drink, smoke or dance because even if I wanted to I couldn't afford to. I really need to sell some beasts and move out of home but that is easier said than done.
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This sounds very familiar! :o lol We havnt quite got to your number yet though, 11 so far.

If only to have a life again :rolleyes:
 
OP you sound a lovely young girl and I'm sure you will get your dream shetland when the time is right :) Its lovely that you are looking for things that would help your brother with his learning difficulties, maybe this is something that worries your mum though? Especially if there are issues at home like you already suggested. It may be that your mum has a lot of worries and stresses of her own right now so the pony idea seems trivial to her although it means the world to you. Keep your chin up, keep saving and maybe talk to your mum about the other issues, parents are good at hiding things from their children but there may be something you could do that makes life a little easier. She will see that you are growing up and later down the line you may be able to discuss a pony properly xx
 
jaye1780 said:
OP you sound a lovely young girl and I'm sure you will get your dream shetland when the time is right :) Its lovely that you are looking for things that would help your brother with his learning difficulties, maybe this is something that worries your mum though? Especially if there are issues at home like you already suggested. It may be that your mum has a lot of worries and stresses of her own right now so the pony idea seems trivial to her although it means the world to you. Keep your chin up, keep saving and maybe talk to your mum about the other issues, parents are good at hiding things from their children but there may be something you could do that makes life a little easier. She will see that you are growing up and later down the line you may be able to discuss a pony properly xx
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Thank you Jaye, I try and talk to her but she's having none of it, and that's what's making it so difficult. Sorry for saying no to all your ideas, i'm sorry xx
 
OP, I think you should get together with Sam, aka PinkCob. She's from your neck of the woods and desperate for a pony too;)
 
As a couple of others have said, just get it and don't tell her!

I was a lucky child, had my first pony as a 4 year old and always had them paid for by my parents until i was 15 when i stopped riding because i didnt click with my horse (he was bought with my mum in mind as well so she could ride it so he wasnt competitive enough). We always had our own land until my parents split up when i was 13. When I was 18 I wanted a horse again so I bought one, borrowed a trailer and my dad came and picked her up, dad said he wasn't sure about me getting a horse again but really he was chuffed, it was always his hobby as well and he loves me competing, even though i have never lived with my mum since they split up, i didnt tell my mum that i'd bought a horse until after 6 months. Theory was that i've already had her 6 months so you can't moan or do anything about it now! I reluctantly told her when we had a nice mother/daughter day out - she wouldnt want to ruin it as i dont see her very often and she was fine about it but if i'd said 'im thinking of getting a horse again' she would of gone out of her way to stop me at all costs!! x My dad loves me competing and im lucky that he pays for the lorry-although i pay fuel but i wouldnt be able to do it without him, I then bought my second horse and ten my third......but wouldnt be able to afford to compete them because i wouldnt be able to run the lorry as well as pay for all their keep and competition fees etc. I'm 25 now and owe alot to my dad, he is amazing. His job is struggling now with ecomonical downfall and it may be my time to support him soon - even if i have to downgrade to a trailer or buy the lorry off him :( x Without my dad i wouldnt be able to do what i have done, my mum got banned from coming to shows with me when i was 12 as she stressed me out wingeing, although without her i would of never really got into riding to the degree i did, my sister wasnt as good though and my mum refused to give her the chances that i had.

Its not impossible to do what you want without a parent on board, but its a bloomin lot easier if you have some support? I only read the first few pages so not sure if you've replied as of why you want a shetland, but i personally wouldnt do it behind anyones back for a shetland or a horse i couldnt ride - or probably even compete but thats a personal preference.

Maybe once you've got one, your mum might be supportive but if your paying rent already perhaps she's struggling financially and needs every penny and doesnt want extra costs although you'll be paying? xx Good luck with whatever you decide xx

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Yep but i've matured and left those profiles behind, this is why I was trying to be careful because no doubt it would have got out and you'd have changed your thoughts on me.
I was really immature back then and I know you people don't like how I was and I apologised over and over. I am mature now, and all this i'm telling you is true!! Please don't suddenly hate me because of how I acted in the past, i'm truely sorry.
How do I apologise for my past accounts? I swear I only use this one!!
I couldn't delete the other accounts and so now i'm multi accounting and will get banned? But I don't use them!?
I'm sorry guys xx
 
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OP, I think you should get together with Sam, aka PinkCob. She's from your neck of the woods and desperate for a pony too;)
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I'm sorry!! I've tried so hard to stay hidden on the forum and not be known as the immature one who kept coming back and trolling. I truely am sorry and I just want to continue on the forum as a normal HHO'er.. please? :o
 
You only needed to put a smiley and "Good Idea". No-one bears you any animosity, I don't think you ever did any trolling - not that I saw. You're just very passionate, I've said before it's a shame you're not nearer me, goodness knows I need some help!

Did you ever have a look and see if there were any Pony Club centres near you? Ok so you'd be one of the older ones but if you had the time to join and go along you'd meet loads of people with the same passion you have and it might open doors for you:) Plus if you did badges etc you'd have certificates you could show to a potential share owner, plus referees from PC, which are always helpful. As well as that there are often events going on which look for a source of helpers from Pony Club which again provides you with a useful way of getting your face known, and it's fun too:D
 
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You only needed to put a smiley and "Good Idea". No-one bears you any animosity, I don't think you ever did any trolling - not that I saw. You're just very passionate, I've said before it's a shame you're not nearer me, goodness knows I need some help!

Did you ever have a look and see if there were any Pony Club centres near you? Ok so you'd be one of the older ones but if you had the time to join and go along you'd meet loads of people with the same passion you have and it might open doors for you:) Plus if you did badges etc you'd have certificates you could show to a potential share owner, plus referees from PC, which are always helpful. As well as that there are often events going on which look for a source of helpers from Pony Club which again provides you with a useful way of getting your face known, and it's fun too:D
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Thank you:), I was a pony club member but they only good one is Pendle Forest and you need your own pony :l xxx
 
I've been in a similar situation to you, since I started riding (aged 4) I've wanted my own horse, but my parents couldn't afford to buy or even loan me one. Every year I asked for one for my birthday or Christmas but they just couldn't do it, as I got older and moved out I still couldn't afford one!
I'm now happily married, got my own house and 5 months ago bought my own horse at the age of 24. Believe me it's worth waiting for.
But until I managed to afford him I spent countless hours working at a local riding school which gave me a lot of experience in caring for horses, I was able to pay for some horsey courses and even had a horse on loan from the school which again gave me an idea of what it was like to have my own.
Good luck!
 
KateandSpotlight said:
I've been in a similar situation to you, since I started riding (aged 4) I've wanted my own horse, but my parents couldn't afford to buy or even loan me one. Every year I asked for one for my birthday or Christmas but they just couldn't do it, as I got older and moved out I still couldn't afford one!
I'm now happily married, got my own house and 5 months ago bought my own horse at the age of 24. Believe me it's worth waiting for.
But until I managed to afford him I spent countless hours working at a local riding school which gave me a lot of experience in caring for horses, I was able to pay for some horsey courses and even had a horse on loan from the school which again gave me an idea of what it was like to have my own.
Good luck!
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I appreciate where you're coming from, it's just I am financially stable enough i'm sure of it, and he's been offered to me on a plate, it's too good an opportunity to miss.. I'm stuck:')
 
Black.Shadow said:
I'll still go.. and if I can't make it some friends in the village offered to check on him and feed him for me, but i'll try my best!!
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you sound very passionate about it and thats good, sounds like me at your age! :) But they are such a big responsibility (not that I'm saying you cant cope with it) but they take up a lot of time, and they are hard work! especially if your going to keep him in a field and not on a livery yard (i assume from previous posts?)

What if this pony hadnt been offered to you, would you still be as keen to get one? There are always ponies/horses that people offer cheap or even free.

I really think that for the moment you go to a riding school/ PC, get used to working with horses and looking after them and see if you can share/loan one with someone else, you'll then get a lot more support than doing it by yourself and its cheaper. Then in a few years once you can do what you like you can get your own! :D
 
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