Annoying girl at my yard!!

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hi. When i have finished school/college, i go up the yard to put my horse to bed. When i get there i usually start walking over to my stable and muck out. A girl (dont want to mention her name) keeps coming over to me and totally taking over what i am doing. First she says to me "Im going to go over the field and get Buddy(my horse) and i said "no i will get him when his stable is ready"Then she would rush me and do everything super fast like if im mucking out she would get a spade and do it for me, if i was filling my hay net she would fill it with me, if i was waiting for the tap to fill my water bucket she would wait with me (think you might get it now, lol!) and would talk about my horse and she tries to give advice on things that im doing wrong when there is nothing i am doing wrong. When my stable is finally ready i go and catch my horse and when im leading him she takes him off of me and trots him to his stable. If i grab the lead rope off her she unclips it and trots him with the headcollar! She says things to me like he will kick me cos she does not know me! lol! how stupid! She says that she is more experienced than me! ( I wish i could get more experience if you could give my horse back!) It is really annoying and i keep telling her everytime that im quite capable of doing it on my own but she just carries on and i can't get her to leave my alone. She is really annoying me and im not the sort of person to shout at her to leave me alone or anything. Im quite laid back and i just like to get on with things myself and i like my own space and she is driving me crazy!! One time my horse got stuck in a barb wire fence ( did not cut my horse but still) which was with electric fence (lucky it was not on!!!) It turned out that she was chasing my horse round the field!
I think this is all about having a taller horse than her. She has an 11hh pony and i have a 14.3hh cob! It is really stupid. Can you think of anything i can do to get her to leave my alone?!
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How rude!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tellher sharply to leave you alone to do your jobs and your horse - rude girls need abrupt rude telling!!!!xxx
 
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lol! she is 11! i know she is quite young but she should know that she should not do that. Her dad is ok but he just lets her do it and its so annoying!
 
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ah have a little sympathy - shes 11 and sounds a little fixated on you - think hero worship - so if she wants to help, give her some chores! but do say to her Dad that when it comes to handling your cob, she needs to back off as he could well (inadvertantly) hurt her.
 
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tell her to mind her own business and not to touch your horse EVER without your permission.
it doesn't matter how old she is, she is out of order!

ETS maybe speak to YO too?
 
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You don't say how old you are, but maybe your mum or dad could speak to the girl's dad about it? They don't have to be awful, just say that while you are flattered that X wants to help you, you love looking after your pony yourself and would prefer to do it on your own and could the parent speak to X about it as you don't want to upset her?
 
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Yeah but i want to do it on my own. Why else would i get a horse if i did not want to look after it. It my hobby and she is taking over it.
She does need to back off as my cob can be quite spooky and she will get hurt one day. its not only her im worried about, im worried about my horse getting hurt from her. She says she is experienced but i think i know more than her if you know what i mean.
 
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to me sounds like she's quite in awe of you - this may be because you have a larger pony or could be because you're older.

I wouldn't let it worry you OP, i'm sure she'll grow out of it. If it's really bothering you, speak to the YO or something.
 
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Just tell her to back off...she sounds a right muppet...

Shes trying too hard but in the process becoming a bit of a liability to you and your horse which could end in tears.

Hate to say it but tell her to leave your horse alone, don't touch him and when you have finished your yard duties you will come and find her for a chat.
 
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Sedgemoor Chaos said:
Just tell her to back off...she sounds a right muppet...

Shes trying too hard but in the process becoming a bit of a liability to you and your horse which could end in tears.

Hate to say it but tell her to leave your horse alone, don't touch him and when you have finished your yard duties you will come and find her for a chat.
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Seriously ??

The "so called muppet" is only a child !!

Again, How old are you OP ?
 
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I am only 14 so not a massive age gap. Its not like im an adult telling a little child off! lol!

She wont do any of the yard chores. when everyone at the yard has come back from the ride she gives her pony to her dad and her dad looks after her horse and then she runs over to me and really annoys me. i tell her to go over and look after her horse but she wont! she is always trying to trot my horse round the yard and my horse is not the type you can mess around with. He gets angry easy.
 
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OP don't you remember having an older girl that you really looked up to and wanted to impress.

You need to get your mum or dad to have a quiet word with the yard owner and let them know a gentle rebuke is in order.

She is only a child & just needs an adult to take her to one side and explain her behaviour, whilst understandable, is not acceptable.
 
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yeah i know she is young and everything but is there a way to ask her to leave my horse alone? I really do not want to upset anyone. I just want my own horse if that i to much to ask for.
 
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Oh come on, we've all been a wee kid at some point, and looked up to someone on our yard, especially a teenager or older kid! ie, I'm sure we've all been an annoying little ****er at some point! Don't be so harsh. yes, she's a little over the top and doesn't seem to know boundaries of safety and interaction with elders, but a quiet, SENSITIVE and grown up word with someone who holds a position of authority will help. Or how about you delegate her a task that is not going to put her at risk but will make her feel responsible - she sounds like she's trying too hard in a very naive way to please. There are a few like this I deal with on a daily basis on the yard - its a riding school and I have a private yard on the side but there are usually kids clinging to the gate watching me do my horses! How about you ask her if she would like to help you tack clean, wash your stable windows, clean your grooming kit? Something innocent but to keep her out of mischief? I usually use excuses like "another day you can poke/pat/prod X but for the moment he's eating/in a bad mood/resting etc!
Please don't totally crush her enthusiasm and outgoing attitude - for every one thread like this there must be about 10 about disinterested horse owning kids.
 
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horserider0912 said:
I am only 14 so not a massive age gap. Its not like im an adult telling a little child off! lol!

She wont do any of the yard chores. when everyone at the yard has come back from the ride she gives her pony to her dad and her dad looks after her horse and then she runs over to me and really annoys me. i tell her to go over and look after her horse but she wont! she is always trying to trot my horse round the yard and my horse is not the type you can mess around with. He gets angry easy.
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Yes but OP you are still only a child yourself so therefor I think it would be best if you got your mum and dad or the yard owner to have a word with her and her parents .

I think that would be best .


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please, is there anything i can say to her to leave my alone. you might think she is a really nice girl and everything but she is just not. I would like to be her friend but i just need SPACE.
 
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horserider0912 said:
please, is there anything i can say to her to leave my alone. you might think she is a really nice girl and everything but she is just not. I would like to be her friend but i just need SPACE.
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Horserider0912, lots of people have given you ideas about talking to her parents, your yard owner, an older livery on the yard, or ideas of how to keep her out of your way.
Are you not old/mature enough yourself to pick up the matter with an elder person of authority?
People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I feel a bit sorry for the poor kid!
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