Antisocial?

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pippixox

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does anyone else find having horses has made them antisocial?!! any spare time I have is spent with them and I don't like late nights as then it's harder to get up in the morning to go for a ride! on top of work I am also doing a distance learning degree, so have no free time.
my idea of socialising is going on a hack with my friend! or chatting at the yard at feed time. bit of a pointless post, but I cant help but feel like a social recluse compared to my non-horsey friends, all their photos are of nights out and mine are of my horses! but even if my friend offers to do my horses one evening or morning I would still rather do them myself.
thing is I think I'm quite happy being like this, but my (completely non-horsey) mum always makes comments asking about when I last went out with people, other than my boyfriend. I just wondered if anyone else with horses actually has a social life or feels they miss out on things because of their horses?
 
I would completely agree.. but im sure you have to be social in the first place to be anti social!
Its even worse for me at the minute, as my horse is on box rest for the next 3 months with a fractured pedal bone, so I have to be at the stables even longer!
 
I'm exactly the same!!! Thing is I'm home early enough each night to still go out if I wanted but after being at work all day, then doin my 2, riding etc, I just can't be bothered!! My friends have even stopped asking me now.

I do keep telling myself to make more of an effort to go out as I'm never gonna meet a man down the stables but I just can't be bothered. I'm quite happy just spending time with my horses.
 
Sounds completely normal to me! Would always prefer the company of my horse to many humans anyway. What on Earth do 'normal' (ie non-horsey) people do to fill their time? :)
 
when people say how much money they have spent on a night out/ drinks, I always think of it in terms of horse shoes or a new bit of kit a could buy instead of going out! I don't think I would even see my boyfriend if we didn't live together and our idea of going out is round his mums for dinner! (helps he is also antisocial being in full time work and training for triathlons)
glad other people would also rather just spend time with their horses :)
 
totally agree. Im newly (ish) single and do want to date but haven't the time or energy!
I missed a lovely meal last night because id worked all day, ridden then was too tired to get changed and ready - plus like you I wanted to be up and out early this morning so just wanted to go to bed and get a goods nights sleep!

Don't worry about it - its what makes us happy.
Im resigned to being single for ever and the worse thing is im really not too bothered - no human man can compare to my horsey man anyway. My dates with him are far more exciting!!!
 
I get moaned at by my horsey mum for being anti social! Yard is my social time and then being at home with the other half and going for a walk/run together or playing Madden (only video game I can vaguely play) I had no social life all through my teenage years, it was horse and church. Had a Few close friends that I chatted to, they're still there but know I don't do going out, and if I do I don't drink and go home about 11 so I can be up early! Horses make us antisocial :-) but we love them so its not a problem :-)
 
You're not alone. I work with horses and have my own so the yard is basically my second home. I try and have the odd night out with the girls but tbh most evenings I'm happiest curled up on the sofa on my laptop or in bed reading a book. I'm single and not bothered about a boyfriend at the moment either, just love being with my horses. :)
 
I'm also antisocial and I also think why spend £100 on a night out when I could spend it on the horses. Last time I went out was months ago and I had my drink spiked, I've not been out or drank alcohol since and that was January. I'd rather poo pick my field than spend a night surrounded by drunken idiots!
 
I'm very sociable...

With my horses.

Why socialise with people I (generally) dislike when I can spend time with the beasts? I make exceptions for a very elite circle of people (not sure there's even enough of us to constitute a circle :D ).
 
I'm completely antisocial. I'd class myself as obsessed with horses. Things like work, doing things around my house etc are a nuisance that get in the way of my horsey time. I find myself really having to make an effort to spend time with my boyfriend and my friends, and having to talk about non-horsey things. I feel awful saying that but it's the truth!
 
I only ever get dressed up for weddings and funerals, I've no interest in going out, but don't mind the odd barbeque, usually resulting in giving people rides on the horses, even my understanding OH thinks given a chance, I would have the horses in the house, I admit he is only one of my 3 favourite boys in my life.
We even had our wedding reception at home and ended up in the yard with the horses, guests in their wedding finery and horses, great fun, general consensus was, best wedding ever
 
Ive found the older Ive got the more antisocial Ive got, animals dont bitch, gossip, judge or backstab unlike people do, so apart from my OH and kids, I prefer my animals anytime over people !
 
I have never liked people much anyway I like to have a chat with people from time to time but dont really have friends as such. I certainly couldnt muster up enough people I cared about for a party
 
Tessy needs a bigger boat, because I'm climbing in! I used to feel pressured into making an effort, but recently I've felt very happy in my own skin. Still have the same friends, but a couple i see much less of, as they know I'll be asleep on my feet by 10. :D
 
I love going out with my friends so I must be an exception :D

It can be a bit of a mad rush though, and atm I'm becoming a bit hermit like as I have insane amounts of work :( (teacher training)

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Having a horse has made me more antisocial.

I regularly put off going places and seeing people this winter as I had to factor in my boy and bringing him and his fieldmate in.
Now it's summer I want to get out riding and again blow people off.

I like to chat to like minded horsey people but most of the time they end up being bitchy and backstabbing so I tend to not bother wasting my time!

Think if I didn't have the horses I'd have more money, time, and people wouldn't think of me as 'the strange horsey one' (The joys of living in a city!).

On the other side of the coin, I think I'd be in a severe depression now if it wasn't for my pony keeping me going and giving me things to aim for.
 
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It depends on what people want to go out for and when. I don't have a horse at the moment, but when I do in the future I'll gladly give up clubbing and bar crawls with sort-of friends. But my meet ups with close friends at a pub we all like (usually only happens once every other month) would always happen - I'd just make sure that someone I trusted could look in on the nag in the morning in case I was suffering a little :o
 
pippixox said:
when people say how much money they have spent on a night out/ drinks, I always think of it in terms of horse shoes or a new bit of kit a could buy instead of going out!
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Me too! I only have time for work & horses, never ever go out anywhere / do anything - and on the very rare occasions I do, I'm always leaving first because I need to get back to feed the horses & put them to bed :o Much prefer spending time around the horses to spending time around other people!
I think it would be different if I had a lot of horsey friends as that way I could combine horse-time with socialising, but unfortunately I don't know many horsey people.
 
ME

I feel like I've been a rubbish friend for the last year! have 2 horses and a mini, I get up at 6am every day except sunday and go to muck out! I work 6 days a week! pop to the gym straight from work 3-4 nights a week. help out at weight watcher on a Wednesday night for 3-4hrs. I next to never see my friends, I hardly ever go out! I went out last night and I swear my whole weekend has just been rushed because of it!

not only do I do all that I am currently a part time student doing level 3 hair, so after the gym I often have to go and do hairdressing, either for assessments or coz people just want their hair doing and I want to build up clients so one day I might be able to work part time!

I don't have time for a boyfriend, I honestly don't know when Id see a guy, and when I don't have anything to do I just want to go to bed at 7pm!

last week, I worked 58hrs + the horses and the gym on top of that!

oh and just to add insult to injury, I still have NO money haha!!
 
Hoopsa said:
Sounds completely normal to me! Would always prefer the company of my horse to many humans anyway. What on Earth do 'normal' (ie non-horsey) people do to fill their time? :)
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I often wonder the same thing. If I didn't have my lot I am not sure what would fill my time. Maybe my house would be tidier and decorated more often!!:D
 
Yes!!

"What I've spent on beer on a night out, would've bought pone that new turnout rug he needs..." :o Plus working full time to afford horses in the first place, getting up at 5am in the morn over winter, crashing by 9.30pm after a 12-14hr day out at work / horses...
 
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