Anyone else just think they can't do this?

I wish I was nasty enough to post a copy of the pm I have just received....but in view on the content of said pm it has only confirmed what some posters are saying.

OP has serious mental health issues, Walter Mitty doesnt have a patch on this lass believe me......it is very curious and a strange twist of fate that she has chosen to tell a pack of lies in a pm, to probably one of the few people in a position to have experience enough in the field she mentions, to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that 99 per cent of her persona is fantasy.

I will try very hard to ignore anything she posts from now on - but I just hope to God that she NEVER gets a job teaching children - or for that matter, anything that might let her have any influence on any young people within her circle. Did she say she is a nanny???? Christ!!!!:eek: And her poor parents - I feel for them.
 
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queenbee said:
I don't really care what your true situation is, whether you cry wolf, use HHO to whinge and get pity or lie and mislead magazines. What is certain is that you will have to change who you are dramatically, you need to stop whining, get self respect and a backbone and take charge of your life if you don't like it. If he is worth it, he will follow (he will probably follow if he isn't worth it too). If it was me, I would leave things now since you have had the chat with your OH, I would get the horse put in my name, and if things didn't change I would walk, I wouldn't be reminding anyone a second time and I wouldn't be putting up with cr ap, and I would certainly be doing a hell of a lot more than going online winging about it.
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ohhh excuse me while i go all Oprah on you but 'you go girl' :D
 
grumpyoldmare said:
I wish I was nasty enough to post a copy of the pm I have just received....but in view on the content of said pm it has only confirmed what some posters are saying.

OP has serious mental health issues, Walter Mitty doesnt have a patch on this lass believe me......it is very curious and a strange twist of fate that she has chosen to tell a pack of lies in a pm, to probably one of the few people in a position to have experience enough in the field she mentions, to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that 99 per cent of her persona is fantasy.

I will try very hard to ignore anything she posts from now on - but I just hope to God that she NEVER gets a job teaching children - or for that matter, anything that might let her have any influence on any young people within her circle. Did she say she is a nanny???? Christ!!!!:eek: And her poor parents - I feel for them.
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Have you reported the PM?
 
queenbee said:
I see a number of similarities on some levels with me, My OH owns a lot of land, he has built stables where we live, it is my home but not my house, my contribution was food, cooking and cleaning. I did try to contribute more, but was not allowed (it was covered by the business) we both work full time,At many points I have had this flung in my face during arguments, we have had episodes where he cheated, then he became violent:(:( I suspect that your concept of breaking point is, not the same as mine. We are still together five years down the line and engaged, but would I still be here if someone told me what I would have to trapse through to get here? No! I did the bit where I was hurt, and grumbled about the injustice of it all, I was grateful for a partner who had a house, stables and land, I did not think it gave him the right for his behaviour or attitude. So I got some self respect and took control of my life, in all honesty, walking out on him for good would have not been a problem for me (I won't possibly go into the depths of detail I could on a public forum), It is why I considered moving counties, I moved my horses, I stopped doing anything for him, if I wanted to talk to him, I would, if not I diverted the calls so I could have peace. I took my life back and it was his choice if he followed me. It takes a certain type of person to change who they are from Victim to Cold Hearted/Strong Independent. I am a lot harsher, less forgiving, colder than I used to be, I still love him and am with him, will I always be with him for ever and ever and ever? probably not, love him as I do, and knowing his attitude about the house is just something to hurt me in an argument, he is still a ******, and I have changed because of it, I love him and am with him, I don't dislike it anymore but my fluffy wuffy focus has gone and I feel I am too hardened and selfish, If I didn't have him, I certainly wouldn't want someone else and not because I would be pining. I find I have an ability to zone out and switch my emotions off very quickly.
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:eek::eek::eek:

Why on earth would you get engaged to someone who you can say all that about....?
 
Spring Feather said:
Cedars if you love your life and your OH so much and if you're now sure that your BFs mother will take a bit more responsibility for her horse then surely you knew this all along? In which case why bother starting this thread? There are always two sides to every story and I wonder if the same story would be told if by your BF or his mother.

Many of your threads Cedars/Flamehead have been deleted. I often feel sorry for new posters who take you at face value. You've been banned from this forum a few times when your aggressive nature got the better of you again, so it's not quite as simple as saying to new posters that they can read every single post you've ever made because many of your posts are no longer viewable. I do think it was a great shame that you alienated and upset some very kind posters recently. I for one felt very humbled by the depth of concern shown and the genuine offers made to you at that time.
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The post about her riding one of the horses (she's not allowed to ride) in the school (she's not allowed to ride in) did it for me. 'Horse stung by wasp' posted by Cedars(8.9.11 @16.50). Having a lively imagination and a bad memory will come back and bite you on the bum:rolleyes:
 
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I am struggling to see how someone with such issues is hoping to go on and teach young, impressionable and vulnerable children who in fact need a strong, mentally stable and adult role model to teach them life lessons, not someone who appears to be as confused with life as this young lady appears to be?
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This has been my over-riding concern from the outset. Someone who posts a thread asking where she can get diazepam asap on a public forum is not the sort of person who should be in charge of children. I have always said that I am extremely concerned that Cedars is left in charge of young children. She appears not to be able to cope with her own life, let alone shaping the future of others.

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I think the disenchanted are a step or so behind me. I've been where you are now with this poster. She has utterly hated me. ...
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As many on here know, I have been called a bully and stalker by Cedars many times. Even in this thread. However, all I have done is pick up on her inconsistencies and downright lies and asked her to explain them. Like jemima_too, I rumbled her from the outset, but have been insulted by people. I hate to say it, but ....................

grumpyoldmare said:
... but I just hope to God that she NEVER gets a job teaching children - or for that matter, anything that might let her have any influence on any young people within her circle. ...
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You, me and an awful lot of genuinely worried HHOers.
 
WOW. I'm quite new on here.

I thought it was going to be about horses, blimey, didn't know what i was getting into :-)

I shall take everything with a pinch of salt & do my research on fellow posters.

Still, an interesting way to spend an hour with a glass of wine before dinner.

Good luck to everyone who's posted, i hope things work out.............
 
:mad:I was totally fooled!

I was even about to ask why she didn't change the locks while he was out, lol! Oh well. Screw her then. Just hope the horses - if they exist - are ok. Oh yeah, and the children too I suppose. Feckin kids;)
 
18 wheelbarrows????? How long since you pooh picked the fields? That must be a month at least!

Still move out and support yourself and put your horse on livery and pay for it then you won't have anything to complain about
 
My god, just caught up on this thread!! Even though iv been on this forum a few years and I recognise people's names, I can't say I remember their previous posts, what horses they have etc! That probably comes across as really bad but i think it's just because im such a forgetful person!! I really do think the op needs some help!!!
 
jelphick said:
WOW. I'm quite new on here.

I thought it was going to be about horses, blimey, didn't know what i was getting into :-)

I shall take everything with a pinch of salt & do my research on fellow posters. QUOTE]

I was beggining to think the same. Was totally fooled, really was sorry for her :rolleyes:
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grumpyoldmare said:
I wish I was nasty enough to post a copy of the pm I have just received....but in view on the content of said pm it has only confirmed what some posters are saying.
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Cedars often PMs people when they finally see the light and start to query her stories publicly. It's not the done thing to post PMs on here so I suspect it's her way of trying to diffuse negativity towards her. However there will always be new people who become lured in by her tales and they usually react the same as you have done when it starts to dawn on them that things may not be as they first appear.
 
Just for the record, I haven't reported pm - pointless really. A total blank and refusal to reply does it for me.

They say don't feed a troll, but I feel this is far more serious than a troll, far too hurtful and damaging to the real people in OPs life who she happily slates and accuses to boost her own frail and warped sense of self.:(

Off to find a really juicy thread with lots of lively debate and harmless banter and foot stamping about the colour of stable rugs or how to teach your horse to fart with clicker training.......much more harmless and entertaining.:D
 
grumpyoldmare said:
Just for the record, I haven't reported pm - pointless really. A total blank and refusal to reply does it for me.

They say don't feed a troll, but I feel this is far more serious than a troll, far too hurtful and damaging to the real people in OPs life who she happily slates and accuses to boost her own frail and warped sense of self.:(

Off to find a really juicy thread with lots of lively debate and harmless banter and foot stamping about the colour of stable rugs or how to teach your horse to fart with clicker training.......much more harmless and entertaining.:D
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Yes! far more wholesome :)
 
Whie you all worry about the kids and the horses, im a bit worried about Ceders.
If she's at such a low point to post lies (if they are lies) kicking her while she's down is not going to help, is it?
And no i am not shouting bully, before anyone says it, but just maybe draw a line under this and walk away forwarned.
 
Fii said:
Whie you all worry about the kids and the horses, im a bit worried about Ceders.
If she's at such a low point to post lies (if they are lies) kicking her while she's down is not going to help, is it?
And no i am not shouting bully, before anyone says it, but just maybe draw a line under this and walk away forwarned.
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Absolutely agree but think you are wasting your breath. Some posters on here seem to take great delight in antagonising the OP and I don't feel that is likely to change :(
 
Fii said:
Whie you all worry about the kids and the horses, im a bit worried about Ceders.
If she's at such a low point to post lies (if they are lies) kicking her while she's down is not going to help, is it?
And no i am not shouting bully, before anyone says it, but just maybe draw a line under this and walk away forwarned.
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This.
 
Fii said:
Whie you all worry about the kids and the horses, im a bit worried about Ceders.
If she's at such a low point to post lies (if they are lies) kicking her while she's down is not going to help, is it?
And no i am not shouting bully, before anyone says it, but just maybe draw a line under this and walk away forwarned.
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I do agree in the most part. I think there there is a small inkling of truth in the posts, that gets blown up outof proportion.


On a tangent, do people who teach children not have to go through some psychometric (sp? sorry! I'm not a teacher ;) ) testing or something to ensure they are mentally suitable?
 
ajn1610 said:
I can't comment on whether this story is true or not I've had no experience of the OP. Just wanted to add a couple of things.

It is not unusual for someone who has suffered abuse in their past to crave attention, even if this is a fantasy it doesn't necessarily mean that the stuff about her past isn't true. Even if she is making it all up then IMO she still warrants sympathy as she must be very sad, lonely and have a very empty life to go to such lengths.

Cedars whether everything you've said in the post is 100% true or not I hope you find a resolution and some peace and happiness in your life. Either way I feel sad for you as you seem unhappy.

Also I am a teacher, and sorry hun but Uni is the easy part! It only gets more emotionally demanding and time consuming as you start to teach full time. If
you are finding it that difficult to manage now I think you need to seriously give some though to whether this is the career for you. I regularly work a 60 hour week and although the holidays make you more flexible I'll work through most of them too. e.g. I was in school 2 full days of last half term (1 week) to do revision school a third day to catch up on my marking and did roughly 5 hours of stuff at home. So of the five days off I worked 3 and half! It's a brilliant job but it's not easy.
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An exceedingly compassionate and sympathetic post. I wish schools had more teachers like you.:)

To the posters who are now circling Cedars, if you believe she suffers from mental health issues, please don't succumb to scrutinisation. You believe she is ill, so don't start knocking someone when they're down and in mental dissaray. Nobody's a fool for replying in a genuine, concerned way and the intention was good.
 
This is worrying. I agree with Fii (and I am a qualified psychologist). If you are angered or annoyed by her posts, don't post. If you feel the need to warn others about her then PM them rather than posting your views on a public forum. People have committed suicide because of online activity.
 
:(But I like poking people with pointy sticks...especially when they're down! They can't run after me then!

Meh. I'm just cranky cos I wasn't able to spend any time with my horse today...had to get the YO to step in due to random meeting:mad: Plus, well I hate humans in general anyhow.

So when can I expect a nasty PM? I feel left out now...

And, yes, I am horrible. I have been told that this is actually healthy, since I spent years being nice to everyone!
 
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horsegirl said:
18 wheelbarrows????? How long since you pooh picked the fields? That must be a month at least!
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Actually, the three horses at mine (15.2-16hhers) probably produce almost exactly that in a week. And I have a BIG barrow :o

I am getting through so much haylage... :rolleyes:
 
Puzzle not allowed in school loose schooling because shes 'heavy on her big feet so leaves holes'. But she really doesnt...and its fine if you grade it, but I'm not allowed to grade the school cos I'm not allowed to use the quadbike...

Your not allowed to do this and your not allowed to do that - they treat you like a child at best their skivvy. I really feel for you - dont stand for it - get out NOW!!!
 
This thread makes me slightly uncomfortable. All I can say, and I think many others would agree, is that I sincerely hope Cedars gets the help and support she needs- regardless of what the actual issues may, or may not, be.
 
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