Anyone regreted selling a horse?

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I've just sold my lad and i know I'm just having a moments "seller doubts" but has anyone sold there horse and regretted it?

I think the problem is that i sold him but the new owner for various reasons couldn't collect for 3 weeks!!!

She seems a really nice person, left me a deposit and a months livery, she showed me photo's of her current horse and yard. Seems perfect for my boy and couldn't have asked for a better buyer...i just wish she could have had him sooner as everyday that passes i feel like i don't want to sell him.

I would never back out on the deal as it would break her heart...The amount of stuff she has already bought him, she texts me everyday etc but it was already a heartbreaking sale for me and these extra weeks are killing me!!!

Only one more week to go trouble is do i spend as much time with him as i can or do i start to distance myself now?

She's offered for me to go and visit, keep in touch, and give me first refusal if she ever sells him etc How many people keep in touch with their horses new owners...is it something that everyone is keen on at first and then over the months or years drift apart get annoyed with or are you still in touch years on from the sale?
 
I regreted selling my last one, as the person promised a 'Home for life' only to get a boyfriend within a few months of buying her and sold her on...

She ended up out of the country... but I managed to trace her and her owners keep in regular touch through facebook. She looks amazingly happy where she is and is completely spoilt and adored by all of the family. So I regreted it initially but it turned out to have a happy ending :)
 
I've been through this before & am going through it again at the moment - having the 'am I doing the right thing' thoughts. I just have to keep reminding myself why I decided to sell in the first place. I'm selling 2, they are going together & they will be fine but it was also a reluctant sale for me & I am starting to waver. I won't change my mind though, well at least, I hope I won't!

I always keep in touch with horses I sell & have visited them. I really love to hear how they are getting on. Some of them are doing so much more with their new owners than they would have with me, so that makes me feel good. I know I made the right decision & gave them the best start by getting them going & then finding them lovely homes.

I think it's natural for you to feel like this, but be strong. U put him up for sale for a reason so just try & keep that in your mind. Sounds like his new owner is lovely & he'll be fine I'm sure. I always think mine will 'break their hearts' when they leave me...... til I drop them off that is & they tuck into whatever is there for them & make a fuss over their new owners - they have no loyalities! :D
 
Yes. 2 of the ponies that I have had in the past, I regret selling them almost every single day.

First one I sold because I was intent on jumping, and a previous injury combined with old age meant the pony wasn't suitable. He was our family pony too, so esp heartbreaking.... Only 3 months after we sold him (new owners were LOVELY, super super people)....he had an accident in the field and had to be PTS.... I always think to myself 'What if I had decided to do dressage earlier??'

Second one I sold because of conflict with family, I had started putting horses before my education and it was getting harder and harder to cope with getting shouted at by everyone around me for not being clever enough. So I sold up. I see regular updates of him, and am friends with current owner and know she spoils him rotten; he definitely has a home for life! But I still get a bit emotional about it, I really loved that pony.

However, if I hadn't sold up.....I wouldn't be who I am today, and I wouldn't be where I am today. I try to think 'everything happens for a reason' :)

I would spend time with your current horse, it would be nice for you to spend some quiet time with him, because the sad truth is you won't be able to soon.
 
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I have only sold 2 and as soon as they went I massively regretted it both times just because I was so upset and missed them so much! It does get better with time and then I was able to realise why I decided to sell them in the first place etc. I took my time over both decisions so never felt that I hadn't fully weighed up the pros and cons etc, time is the best healer!!:)
 
Never regretted selling one (never sold one!) i have regretted not buying one I had on loan though and returning him to his useless owner. Still preys on my mind now as to what life that pony ended up having and I wish I could turn back the clock.
 
Not so much had to sell, but decided to give my full loan pony back after 3 years of having her whilst going through a tough time. Yes, after about a month of no poo picking or mucking out, the novelty had worn off. (not sure if this applies to you if youre getting another horse?!) I wanted nothing more than my pony back, me being me, very stubbornly did not want any other horse, I wanted her!

I was VERY lucky that Cassie (the pony) had been taken on full loan by a girl at my current yard at the time. It was probably very naughty of me but I made sure this girl knew just how much I missed Cassie and after about 5 or 6 months she said I could have her back (she already had another horse and was getting another anyway). Safe to say Cassie will hopefully be with me for life and will not be letting her go again!!!

Just answering the question about regretting it - this is not to say you should not sell your horse! If you feel it is the right thing and the lady seems nice and will give him a good long term home then you are very lucky to have found her. She seems very keen on your horse and that's a good thing :) Reality is with me I realised after a while that this girl would not have kept Cassie for life and she would have been passed onto another home within a year or so - couldn't bear to think about her being passed from home to home.

Btw, I'd spend lots of time with him now other wise you may regret not doing that afterwards. You have plenty of time to distance yourself later. Hope it goes well for you :) x
 
I would say you are best to distance yourself, I part ex my previous horse for the one I have now to the owner of the yard to sell on. It was horrible going to the field to get my new one and seeing him there for the few weeks until he was found a new owner, but The only way I could do it was to try to pretend he wasn't there. I said my goodbyes secretly in the filed the day before he went. Just deal with it the best way for you. I think I would have to put them on full liv in your situation and then do the big goodbye when they come to collect.
 
I had a horse on loan about 5/6 years ago and massively regret giving him back. As soppy as it sounds, I had an amazing relationship with him and a connection that I hadn't had with any other horse. I decided to give up horses completely and give him back because I couldn't stand the bitchiness at my yard and I let it all get to me.

Although I was only young at the time, it is definitely a mistake I will always regret. One good thing did come from it though - I will never make the same mistake again. So I have completely learned from it!
 
i know it would upset me having to say goodbye, but i would have to go and see her everyday and take her to our special places that we have gone to together. i dont know how i would cope if my loan pony go taken off me! :(
 
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