Are OMGs and Hugs a substitute for constructive comments?

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I have just looked at (and commented on) a post by _daisy_, who has not only had her tackroom burglarised but serious wanton damage caused to her waterpipes and trailer.
I may be a middle-aged GOW but could someone please explain to me why some posters just respond to posts such as this one with OMG or Big Hug or various other Totally Useless Platitudes?
Surely, a constructive comment as to what people should be doing in this sort of situation would be far more useful?
Having been burglarised myself on two occasions, I am well aware that one's brain does not always kick in as to exactly what needs to be done and who needs to be contacted.
I know what I would have preferred at the time - and it would not be an OMG from someone who did not even know me, pretending to be solicitous!!
 
And thus you land upon a perfect manifestation of the male / female dichotomy! There's nothing wrong with it, it's just different people interrelate differently. Provided everything's supportive and helpful, whether emotionally or practically, it should be welcomed.
 
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Yep, male brain-tries to solve the problem. Female brain-tries to offer comfort and support.
Its the way we are wired, so MrWoof-get on _daisy_'s post and offer her practical solutions and we females will dish out the tea and sympathy.
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It might well be that as many of us are aware of some of the problems she's experienced before, and what action and investigations have and are taking place - there no need for any more than a bit of moral support. Aka a (((( hug ))).
 
Yes, sympathy and understanding are always welcome. Perhaps not a substitute for constructive advice, but then sometimes people don't want or need advice. They know perfectly well what has to be done and would like a virtual hug.
I'd rather have a hug than resolute silence because someone hasn't got the proper and accurate advice for that particular situation, and if the advice has already been dispensed, why repeat it?
 
But i thought MrWoof was a woman
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Does it really matter how we respond to someone on a post, at least we do respond
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Is the point of this post to rile people up again, or get yourslef a bit of forum clout MrWoof????
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Sorry not read Daiseys post yet, but when i do i wil see if i can do a little better than give her a hug and offer her an OMG
 
Just as well that we are all different and have different opinions and points of views. Just because you seem to think your way is the right way, not everyone does. Think I agree with above poster re rile and clout!
But anyway {{{{hugs}}}
OMG - can't believe I just did that!!
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C, I have to agree with you BUT we are both of a similar age where we don't hold our hands in the air and shriek OMG, but we do get on and fix whatever's happened with as little drama as possible and expect others to do the same which doesn't always happen or they haven't the experience to cope with that particular situation - the only advantage to age as far as I can see!
I also have to say, by our age alone, we are probably the smallest minority on here and I know for a fact, I won't see 60 again which does mean I'm not an OMG type person at all BUT it is how the vast majority on here would seem to react so I think we just have to accept the age differences and let them react in their own way if that is how they feel they are helping the affected person. Each to their own on this one I feel, live and let live and all that - it doesn't mean it doesn't drive me up the wall too but if that is how they offer support to someone stricken, then I'm all for it; we do need to be able to count on each other and each response counts I feel.
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Yep, male brain-tries to solve the problem. Female brain-tries to offer comfort and support.
Its the way we are wired, so MrWoof-get on _daisy_'s post and offer her practical solutions and we females will dish out the tea and sympathy.
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ROFL! No way women can solve problems as well then, we are known for multi tasking you know - and "Mr Woof" is very much female too!
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Yes.

because sometimes you don't have the answer to a persons problems, but want them to know that you understand their pain/struggle/difficulty with the issue(s), and hope that it works out for them.

If I post saying that my day has been crap, often I don't expect a member of an online forum to come round to my house and organise my life with flow charts and diagrams. I just want someone to say "oh thats sucks, you have my sympathy!"

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Your naff language is charming - and just so proves my original point - thank you.
Yes, I have offered _daisy_ advice, having been burglarised twice myself.
Why not take a look at _daisy_'s post before passing comment on mine??
 
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Slightly weird comment in my opinion. I don't have any advice to offer in many situations but I do feel sorry for what has happened to people and express it in my posts. What's wrong with that?
 
I thought the whole point of this forum was to offer support / advice etc...
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So what pratical advice are we supposed to offer Daisey???
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I am grateful for all the ((Hugs)) or OMG or PMSL that anyone wishes to offer me when i post.... as i am sure most people are??

Daisey has already rung the police and they were on the way...

And while we are offering "constructive" advise its "burgled" not "burglraised"
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How rude and offensive I find this post.

I dont find the argument that you have put forward right and just to be so rude to other people on here. People have been well meaning with their "hugs" comments, (and lets face it, under such awful circumstances as being burgled, anything nice that comes your way would be much appreciated), what right have you got to say such things?
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And while we are offering "constructive" advise its "burgled" not "burglarised"
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I thought it was just me thinking - burglars burgle, they don't burglarise!
 
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And while we are offering "constructive" advise its "burgled" not "burglraised"
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and advice not advise (which the verb). Sorry!

I have to say I am another who tends not to go in for too many hugs unless the poster is somebody I know personally - seems pointless otherwise and I find OMG just a tiny bit offensive so would never use it.
 
To answer the question, hugs and OMGs don't hurt anyone, do they?

What does cause damage, and I think is really quite dangerous on forums like this one, is people giving advice which is incorrect.

I've seen people advised to leave horses with tendon strains in the box when they are at a stage where they need to be walked out in hand; people advising how much and what to feed to keep weight on a horse without asking how big the horse was or what work it was doing; people described as national experts when they are barely known in their own county, never mind country. It is great to be able to use a forum like this to seek other peoples' points of view, but I do worry about the potential for harmful advice. I can't see a solution without losing the good stuff though, can you?
 
Now Mr Woof, whilst I sympathise with your observations, I do feel that underlying all the (((hugs)) and OMG's is probably someone who wants to say

" hunt them down, tie them up, torture them slowly for information, and shoot the ba876543ds!!!!"

Unfortunately, we are not allowed, therefore tea and (((hugs!))) to poor _daisy_
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its not offensive and people mean well by it so who is it harming??? and if its not your cup of tea then you dont have to take any notice??? its all in good faith
 
Expressions of sympathy/empathy are nice in any shape or form. Better to post something nice than not at all!

p.s. can someone tell me what "OFFS GAL" means, that's a new one to me!
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