Bad name for both horse owners and farriers!

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Speaking as a farrier's wife, I was horrified to read posts on here from a 'lady' who, despie knowing her farrier WASN'T single, relentlessly pursued and flirted with him anyway!!!

The farrier, should be reported to the Registration Council and The Worshipful Company of Farriers, as he is bringing the profession into disgrace by behaving in such an unprofessional manner with a client...Farriers are there for the sole care of the horses feet, and to get paid for it!

The horse owner in question should take a long hard look at herself and question her own morals.

Most farriers have hundreds of clients, and each client is just a drop in a big ocean of other female horse owners they have to visit....In fact, most farriers prefer it when the owners aren't there, and they don't have to deal with the humans!...A lot of farriers - and I know many, including my hubby - have less than positive or attractive comments to make about their many clients, and most wouldn't "touch a horsey woman with a barge pole"...Whether you want to face it or not, most, if not all, farriers, are in it for the hourly rate!...Money. And most, after a few years, would gladly pack it all in.

Every farrier I know has either a partner or a wife, and ALL of those CHOSE their partners and wives - they weren't pursued by women with no self-respect or void of morals...and funnily enough (although, to farriers' wives, it's common knowledge) not a single spouse of a farrier I know is a horse owner.

So what does that tell you?

Keep your shoeing/trimming/remedial dates professional! It's about the HORSE!
 
Hear hear! Some of the indecent things that have happens to my hubbie involving customers most people wouldn't believe! You get your farrier out to shoe your horse! Nothing else!
 
Im good friends with my farrier- and his wife ( who is horsey )
He often tells me about female clients who want to 'pay in kind'.
He just wants the cash ! He has no respect for those women, and avoids them if possible. Hes good at his job and doesnt need to be fending off despatate women when hes running late !
Kx
 
Ireally think that the posts you are referring to were a lighthearted joke, and mild compared to the way groups of men express interest in women. And I am sorry that your husband is only in it for the money as that must affect his enjoyment of his job. My farrier is no t only in it for the money but goes the extra mile to help his clients , Also from time to time he brings his delightful wife with him and she has become a friend . Wht dont you accompany you husband one day and get to know some of his clients ,you may feel less threatened and get to know them as people.
 
Nothing to do with horses and farriers its the way of the world. As said above takes two and if your secure in your relationship you have nothing to worry about. What about those people whose other halves work away a lot in different professions. Yes its called trust.
 
btw who pays his wages? Oh yes horse owners and as you said OP they have hundreds of clients so I am sure you could get him to drop those you dont like.
 
MrsdipWCF said:
Speaking as a farrier's wife, I was horrified to read posts on here from a 'lady' who, despie knowing her farrier WASN'T single, relentlessly pursued and flirted with him anyway!!!

The farrier, should be reported to the Registration Council and The Worshipful Company of Farriers, as he is bringing the profession into disgrace by behaving in such an unprofessional manner with a client...Farriers are there for the sole care of the horses feet, and to get paid for it!

The horse owner in question should take a long hard look at herself and question her own morals.

Most farriers have hundreds of clients, and each client is just a drop in a big ocean of other female horse owners they have to visit....In fact, most farriers prefer it when the owners aren't there, and they don't have to deal with the humans!...A lot of farriers - and I know many, including my hubby - have less than positive or attractive comments to make about their many clients, and most wouldn't "touch a horsey woman with a barge pole"...Whether you want to face it or not, most, if not all, farriers, are in it for the hourly rate!...Money. And most, after a few years, would gladly pack it all in.

Every farrier I know has either a partner or a wife, and ALL of those CHOSE their partners and wives - they weren't pursued by women with no self-respect or void of morals...and funnily enough (although, to farriers' wives, it's common knowledge) not a single spouse of a farrier I know is a horse owner.

So what does that tell you?

Keep your shoeing/trimming/remedial dates professional! It's about the HORSE!
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While I can understand that you are aggrieved, you do seem to be attacking ALL horsey women which is not really going to get you any support on this board and does not reflect well on you. Neither does the description of your husband either to be frank!

Flirting happens in all jobs, its not "just" a farrier thing. My farrier is very happy with his OH, does a good job and gives and takes a fair bit of banter when he comes up. Thats how he is, other farriers at the yard act in a different way. Their choice.

And agreed about the comment about not keeping persistent pests as clients. In the south, our farriers are heavily in demand and there is no need for them to keep anyone who is a pain.

And I never took the post about the poster on here being serious about her farrier! it was definately tongue in cheek and looking from afar!
 
I think it's a shame that your partner is only in it for the money, i would like to think that the farriers i have used over the years have also seen it as a vocation too... Personally i have never found any of my farriers remotely attractive nor that flirtatious... They're usually too busy moaning about their own lot in life and their own personal circumstances whilst shoeing to discuss anything else! Lol!
 
Kaylum said:
btw who pays his wages? Oh yes horse owners and as you said OP they have hundreds of clients so I am sure you could get him to drop those you dont like.
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im sorry but just because they pay his wages does not mean they have the right to act inaproprietly!
i dont think OP was attacking the whole of the femail horse owner world at all, as a fellow farriers wife who has been to work with my hubbie numerous times some times a simple "no" doesnt suffice (sp?).
 
I understand your point although it comes across as you being a bit concerned. At the end of the day the OH should be trusted enough to handle themselves surely and, as said, it does take two and I personally do not see the harm in the posts that were put on here (I think I know which ones you mean), it is perfectly normal for people to have 'crushes' whether it be a celebrity or their farrier - it doesn't mean anything is going to happen, it's more fantasy land surely! That said, relationships DO end and maybe an attached farrier, vet, physio etc etc could quite possibly meet someone else through their work, These things do happen! It's not different than an office environment I'm afraid - these things go on. Everyone has their own mind and should be able to control themselves at the end of the day. People flirt everyday, doesn't mean they're going to jump into bed with each other!!!
 
I love my farriers, past and present but they are a breed that time forgot. Wouldn't want to take any of them home.

Do disagree with the comment 'most farriers prefer the owners not to be there '. Farriers often work alone, so having someone around in case of an accident and a chat and a laugh is good. Makes the day go quicker.

Mrs Farrier-wife-of; you do sound a little jealous/angry with several sweeping statements.
Being mad isn't the way to deal with a husband who has women throwing themselves at him because one day one of those trollops may turn out to be the sweet, funny woman that you were before jealousy took over.
 
O come on, are you for real?? Could you not tell that it was all tongue in cheek? really? i used to enjoy hearing about all the welly dancing etc etc, gave us all a giggle.
If you really think its a problem, then maybe you need to look at trust issues with your OH!!
 
When the 'saga' was going on, and MANY posters seemed to be spurring it along, and I pointed out the fact that the said farrier was indeed attached, I was shot down in flames.

It wasn't because it was a farrier, it was because it was a guy in a relationship, and the poster seemed to be oblivious to this relationship, and others were really quite scathing towards a woman they didn't know....

Bizarre....and I'm glad you posted this, I wanted to say so much more, but there was no point.

We aren't all like it, we have a great farrier who does a great job but that's as far as it goes. We pay him for a service, he does it to a high standard and off he goes again.....

Me? Happily married woman, but if I wasn't, certainly wouldn't be chasing a married man who has 3 kids!
 
Ah, are you serious? I didn't read the thread you're referring to. I do know however that the poster has been through some terrible, life-threatening times, so your timing isn't great now.
You're with the one you're with Op, that counts regardless of what you or your hubby do for a living, you have to have trust.
I have had 3 farriers in the past, and two of them had horses or ponies.
A farrier who wouldn't want the owner present wouldn't come near my horses, to be honest. I agree with you when you say that some are just in it for the money, and that explains a lot. Thankfully, 2 out of 3 of my farriers weren't, they were in it because they cared about horses as well.
 
DragonSlayer said:
When the 'saga' was going on, and MANY posters seemed to be spurring it along, and I pointed out the fact that the said farrier was indeed attached, I was shot down in flames.

It wasn't because it was a farrier, it was because it was a guy in a relationship, and the poster seemed to be oblivious to this relationship, and others were really quite scathing towards a woman they didn't know....

Bizarre....and I'm glad you posted this, I wanted to say so much more, but there was no point.

We aren't all like it, we have a great farrier who does a great job but that's as far as it goes. We pay him for a service, he does it to a high standard and off he goes again.....

Me? Happily married woman, but if I wasn't, certainly wouldn't be chasing a married man who has 3 kids!
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Very good point.My OH works with mostly women,and at first I didnt like it,but now I know/met some of them. It takes two to play around,so therefore both would be to blame.
My farrier is funny and is excellent at his job.
 
teasle said:
Ireally think that the posts you are referring to were a lighthearted joke, and mild compared to the way groups of men express interest in women. And I am sorry that your husband is only in it for the money as that must affect his enjoyment of his job. My farrier is no t only in it for the money but goes the extra mile to help his clients , Also from time to time he brings his delightful wife with him and she has become a friend . Wht dont you accompany you husband one day and get to know some of his clients ,you may feel less threatened and get to know them as people.
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Perfectly put!
 
MrsDip - Me thinks the lady doth protest too much......

As for farriers not wanting clients around when shoeing horses - that's never been my experience.

Tea and gossip on tap. Plus great advice and discussion on horses feet and condition etc., all so invaluable for the owner.

My farrier, his wife and kids all have horses, and are very involved in the horseworld generally.
 
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I agree with what the OP says BUT.............

She has come across as very insecure and possible had her husband cheat on her or suspect it maybe?

My farrier who I also did livery with was a right sod! He used to joke that he was gonna get lost in the woods with me ona hack etc, I always laughed it off and told him to bleep off, he was totally harmless just a total flirt, he was/is happily married is just his naughty side.

My other farrier also used to be a complete flirt with me, and the banter was fun, but that was the end of it, just banter, am sure he told his wife that he hated his female clients too anything for an easier life right?

Depends on your personality if you are a hopeless flirt then so what, doesn't mean you would ever even dream of doing anything out of hand!

Live and let live as long as nobody hurts anyone else and its 2 ways, banter is always good for the soul!

I have been married 12 yrs (happily) and would never cheat on my husband!, I have never initiated such banter but will laugh along, chill out a bit and perhaps go off with your husband a bit for the day, I am sure you will find he has a good rappor with his clients (if hes successful that is)

xx
 
On the whole question of money. Why shouldn't a farrier just do it for the money. How many of us would do what we do for a living unless we got paid. I work to pay the bills, I'm very good at my job and I do the best, most professional job I can, but that does not mean I wouldn't give it up tomorrow if I won the Lotto.

As for the originals posts, from a blokes perspective I read a couple of post and then avoided the whole thread and all subsequent posts by the OP, as I didn't enjoy the thread or the subject matter.

Some guys like flirting and being pursued, it's good for their ego's and some of us don't enjoy that kind of thing at all, I guess it's all down to the individual person.

As an aside, my OH and I both get on well with our present farrier and I used to go shooting with our last farrier, until he emigrated to Australia, he never mentioned amorous advances, but he did used to get very annoyed at bad / non payers.
 
Devonshire dumpling said:
I have been married 12 yrs (happily) and would never cheat on my husband!, I have never initiated such banter but will laugh along, chill out a bit and perhaps go off with your husband a bit for the day, I am sure you will find he has a good rappor with his clients (if hes successful that is)

xx
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Sorry DD, I had to read that twice :-))

"... will laugh along, chill out a bit and perhaps go off with your husband a bit for that day..."
 
Farriers not having horsey wives ? Nonsense. My farrier's wife has horses, my old farriers wife has horses, in fact pretty much all the farriers I know have wives who were clients and have horses. I am not saying any of my farriers have been flirtatious, but it does happen !
 
BigRed said:
Farriers not having horsey wives ? Nonsense. My farrier's wife has horses, my old farriers wife has horses, in fact pretty much all the farriers I know have wives who were clients and have horses. I am not saying any of my farriers have been flirtatious, but it does happen !
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Quite right too! Infact now you come to mention it my old farriers wife was a racing lass... farriers are no different from any other breed of man, tell you what tho I couldn't do that job, I was be a wuss with the big bad tempered horses
 
now im married to a farrier i dont see the appeal any moor! there all smelly and hairy and there clothes need washing every day!
trying to persuade my hubbie to shoe / trim my horses is a nightmare! it takes me threatening to get another farrier out and make hubbie pay for it befor it gets done sometimes!
love him to bits but sometimes i wonder weather hes worth the hassel! (joke!) ;)
 
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