As people have said, it takes two to tango. People need to be responsible for there own actions!
Now that is a step further!
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Imagine if his wife read it? If it were me- I would be furious.....
he works with mainly women and he is a manager of mainly young women. I don't doubt for one minute that several of them fancy him.....that's fine by me, I fancy him too and I like to think I have good taste....I don't mind banter, but if I thought someone was being over-friendly or they were trying to lead my OH astray I would be pretty pissed. I don't for one minute think he would stray but its the fact that someone - who knows he is married with kids- would even TRY to tempt him. Thats not on really.OP for what its worth, I do not agree with people who target some one who is in a relationship. Its plain wrong.
HOWEVER, I just re-read your post and if I was asked to sum it up it would be "Horsey women spend all their time flirting with farriers, who hate them, hate their horses and only do the job because it pays the bills, and actually, hate people in general which is why they all want to turn up to a deserted yard. Horsey women need to get a grip and stop calling out farriers so they can laid and just make sure their horse is shod instead."
That's quite insulting. The horsey world is not full of women who are throwing themselves at any thing filling out the front of trousers on a yard. Most of the women on my yard can only afford a horse because they are in a relationship where there are two incomes coming in. As for people who stalk, they are in every walk of life.
Flirting and a bit of banter does happen, and personally, I think flirting makes the world go round. If its fun, makes the other person feel good about themselves and no one says anything they would not be happy to say in front of each other's partners, there is no harm. I have a lovely farrier, who is always laughing and joking (not necessarily flirting). It would be awful to think he viewed me, my horses and every one else on the yard in the way you claim your OH and all his peers do. That's what everybody meant.
Stressage21, as another poster pointed out, no one would be able to gossip about the farrier if your friend hadn't posted about him, in quite a bit of detail, on a public forum. If she wants to talk openly and honestly with friends, invite them round to her house for a gossip over a glass of wine. If the said farrier does get angry, I don't think he will be blaming the OP for making a holy show of him, do you?
PS. I don't hate you either OP!
HAHA that was just like my farrier who I stabled my horse with, he would take me in the woods with the horses and say right I am going to get lost in here with you now, stuff like that, but was soooo harmless!! I just used to tell him to bleep off, he loved it! Infact he spoke to me exactly the same with my husband present, much to everyones amusement, I think some people can just get away with it and you know full well its just light hearted fun!
There is a big difference tho, we were at a party once and this girl who is the local slapper told my husband she had no knickers on, and would he like to feel to prove it!!!!
Lesson then....don't broadcast your fantasies about real people all over t'internet
My OH is a very fanciable bit of rough
HAHA that was just like my farrier who I stabled my horse with, he would take me in the woods with the horses and say right I am going to get lost in here with you now, stuff like that, but was soooo harmless!! I just used to tell him to bleep off, he loved it! Infact he spoke to me exactly the same with my husband present, much to everyones amusement, I think some people can just get away with it and you know full well its just light hearted fun!
There is a big difference tho, we were at a party once and this girl who is the local slapper told my husband she had no knickers on, and would he like to feel to prove it!!!!
Well you shouldn't have been shot down in flames!...If both parties are single, and their behaviour isn't harming a career rep or anyone else, then there isn't harm caused...but if one of them isn't single, then hello, there's SOMEONE else - an innocent at that! - in that 'picture', and it's not on! And it ISN'T right to broadcast the 'matter' as if there isn't a third party who could get very hurt, involved...so why on Earth is there uproar because a woman, who does have morals, and does care about the girlfriend/wife, pops up and says: "Hang on a second...that bloke isn't single!"...Why attack the women who say; "That isn't right. That isn't fair" and bounce up the flirt who doesn't give a monkey's if the girlfriend or wife read about it? Doesn't make sense to me...But like I said...we all have our opinions, and we're all allowed to air them...I stand on the side of women who speak out for the innocent.