Bad name for both horse owners and farriers!

I have to say, the way I read the posts about "the farrier situation" was that the poster quite fancied the farrier but stated in no uncertain terms that she would wait for him to become available before making any sort of move.

I understood that they were friends outside of work in any case and so I disagree that he behaved unprofessionally- he turned up on time, shod the horses well, did not take drugs (or sausages) in work hours and never threatened anyone with violence.

I have often fancied attached men, my OH was attached when I met him (through work) as was I. Both relationships ended and ours started. I doubt very much that said farrier was "using his position" in order to land ladies- I would have thought he would use his good looks and seemingly considerable charm to do that. Whether it is sensible to speak of your fantasies and desires on the internet is another thing altogether and I have no real opinion on it.

If I saw that someone fancied my OH that much? I would laugh hysterically, probably post on the thread and tell him to wind his neck in regarding texts. I am not worried, he works hard and if he flirts to get through the day then good for him. I occasionally flirt (although obviously I am in fact an evil husband stealer)and I will not apologise for it. It might even work if I wasn't such a giant lard arse and I'd have tonnes of admirers.....

Anyway, I wanted to say that I think your opinion of the postings may be slightly skewed somehow. I don't think there was any intention at all to steal the man, just general hoping that the girlfriend might run off somewhere and join the circus or something.
 
Farrierlover said:
I have to say, the way I read the posts about "the farrier situation" was that the poster quite fancied the farrier but stated in no uncertain terms that she would wait for him to become available before making any sort of move.

I understood that they were friends outside of work in any case and so I disagree that he behaved unprofessionally- he turned up on time, shod the horses well, did not take drugs (or sausages) in work hours and never threatened anyone with violence.

I have often fancied attached men, my OH was attached when I met him (through work) as was I. Both relationships ended and ours started. I doubt very much that said farrier was "using his position" in order to land ladies- I would have thought he would use his good looks and seemingly considerable charm to do that. Whether it is sensible to speak of your fantasies and desires on the internet is another thing altogether and I have no real opinion on it.

If I saw that someone fancied my OH that much? I would laugh hysterically, probably post on the thread and tell him to wind his neck in regarding texts. I am not worried, he works hard and if he flirts to get through the day then good for him. I occasionally flirt (although obviously I am in fact an evil husband stealer)and I will not apologise for it. It might even work if I wasn't such a giant lard arse and I'd have tonnes of admirers.....

Anyway, I wanted to say that I think your opinion of the postings may be slightly skewed somehow. I don't think there was any intention at all to steal the man, just general hoping that the girlfriend might run off somewhere and join the circus or something.
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Your name is sooooooooooooo wrong for this thread, made me laugh hehe xx
 
MrsdipWCF said:
Speaking as a farrier's wife, I was horrified to read posts on here from a 'lady' who, despie knowing her farrier WASN'T single, relentlessly pursued and flirted with him anyway!!!

The farrier, should be reported to the Registration Council and The Worshipful Company of Farriers, as he is bringing the profession into disgrace by behaving in such an unprofessional manner with a client...Farriers are there for the sole care of the horses feet, and to get paid for it!

The horse owner in question should take a long hard look at herself and question her own morals.

Most farriers have hundreds of clients, and each client is just a drop in a big ocean of other female horse owners they have to visit....In fact, most farriers prefer it when the owners aren't there, and they don't have to deal with the humans!...A lot of farriers - and I know many, including my hubby - have less than positive or attractive comments to make about their many clients, and most wouldn't "touch a horsey woman with a barge pole"...Whether you want to face it or not, most, if not all, farriers, are in it for the hourly rate!...Money. And most, after a few years, would gladly pack it all in.

Every farrier I know has either a partner or a wife, and ALL of those CHOSE their partners and wives - they weren't pursued by women with no self-respect or void of morals...and funnily enough (although, to farriers' wives, it's common knowledge) not a single spouse of a farrier I know is a horse owner.

So what does that tell you?

Keep your shoeing/trimming/remedial dates professional! It's about the HORSE!
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TBH you sound a little insecure OP...my hubby gets female attention (he's not a farrier!!) we laugh about them, I'm secure in my relationship and if was going to stray he would and would prove he wasn't the man I thought he was!! But I never feel I have to protect him from any harlet's advances, he's more than capable himself!!!
 
MrsdipWCF said:
Yes, I am "for real"...and I don't think a farrier's GF or wife would see any laughable side if she recognised her old man or his client openly talking and joking about her and her man. Would you?
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I have read only a few pages, but would just like to ask,
If you are not horsey (not liking that word :( ) what brought you to this forum?
 
DipseyDeb said:
TBH you sound a little insecure OP...my hubby gets female attention (he's not a farrier!!) we laugh about them, I'm secure in my relationship and if was going to stray he would and would prove he wasn't the man I thought he was!! But I never feel I have to protect him from any harlet's advances, he's more than capable himself!!!
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I agree with you...I've since read over my first posting, and can see how I've been perceived...I came on very strong, I know, but, it's a subject I do feel very strongly about...It hasn't happened to me - contrary to what people may imagine - but it has happened to my best friend, and others I know very personally, and I've been privvy to the devastation it can cause.

I don't need to protect my own husband either - not to my knowledge - but agree that if he were to stray then he'd simply prove himself not to be the man I thought, either...It would, however, devastate me, if someone were to run off with him..and I'm sure many others would be crushed if it happened to them...and so, I feel for the 'innocent girlfriend/spouse' whenever I hear of things like this...and with this being t'internet, the temptation to speak out, was far too great! So, I did, and I have.
 
Fii said:
I have read only a few pages, but would just like to ask,
If you are not horsey (not liking that word :( ) what brought you to this forum?
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See now, here we go again, folks not fully reading my words!...Who said that I wasn't "horsey"???!!! Not me!

And by the way, just so it's out there...my husband uses the word "horsey", so too do many others...there's nothing wrong with the word! It's not an insult!
I thought it was ME who was supposedly oversensitive?!
 
I understand the sentiment of the OP, however I am good friends with my farrier and was even invited to his wedding.

We have a chat and banter but that is as far as it goes.

If the posts that the op is talking about is the one I think, then it is bad timing and was only ment as a light hearted post x
 
MrsdipWCF said:
..A lot of farriers - and I know many, including my hubby - have less than positive or attractive comments to make about their many clients, and most wouldn't "touch a horsey woman with a barge pole"...

.and funnily enough (although, to farriers' wives, it's common knowledge) not a single spouse of a farrier I know is a horse owner
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Ok so you don'tactually say you don't have horses, but this^^ led me to beleive you arent horsey..

And i am not sensative, lol far from it, i just dont really like the term "horsey", i don't find it insulting , now who's not reading properly!
 
horserider said:
All the farriers I know keep horses at home and their wives and children have horses too. For them horses are more than a job, its a way of life. Thankfully.[/QUOTE

me too - every farrier who comes to our yard -all 7 of them (except one) has a horsey partner and horses themselves and most ride.
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Why doesn't everyone keep their noses out other peoples business? Some people make mistakes, there's enough repercussions in their lives without a load of old gossips on the Internet popping in their 2ps worth. Save your breath, your time, and go brush your horses!!
 
Jenni_ said:
Why doesn't everyone keep their noses out other peoples business? Some people make mistakes, there's enough repercussions in their lives without a load of old gossips on the Internet popping in their 2ps worth. Save your breath, your time, and go brush your horses!!
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OI, who are you calling old?? :D
And i notice it's allright to put your tuppence worth in!
 
Must admit, the old Yard I was own, farrier got flirted with all the time. Think it's just the novelty of having a man on site. He had a face like a smacked arse.
 
Jenni_ said:
Why doesn't everyone keep their noses out other peoples business? Some people make mistakes, there's enough repercussions in their lives without a load of old gossips on the Internet popping in their 2ps worth. Save your breath, your time, and go brush your horses!!
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I brushed my horse last week. :mad:
 
Right.

I've not read all of this, as I've been in hospital for the last couple of days and am so tired I'm struggling to remember my own name. HOWEVER, there are a couple of facts that I want to get straight, and then I'll say no more about it.

Firstly, Stressage is right, the farrier in question is extremely professional, and is absolutely incredible at what he does. My horses' feet have never looked better, and if there's a problem he takes the time to explain possible causes and solutions, rather than just getting on with it like my old farrier did.

He is a friend, and makes me laugh so hard I inhale jelly babies. He also makes a cracking blueberry muffin.

I was never in a relationship with him. There were a couple of flutterings, but just to get the facts straight - I never dated him.

Also, as has been said before, I made it very clear that when I discovered he had a girlfriend I decided not to make my feelings known to him, for fear of making life difficult for either of them. Nothing happened between us until well after he had split with his girlfriend, and even then I was far too chicken to make the first move.


I think it speaks volumes for my farrier's integrity and good nature that he has read all my insane ramblings, and although we had a rather spectacular fall out, we're now back to being really good friends who can spend hours talking about cake and quoting The Goonies. He's a truly lovely person, with a wicked sense of humour (and a lovely dog, which I think says it all), and I'm very lucky that we've sorted out our issues and are friends again.

Oh, and just as an aside, no I'm not stalking the poor man. I am lucky enough to have found and fallen for a truly wonderful man, who happens to be a soldier (and therefore very useful for moving jumps and hefting bales of hay), and am very happy in spite of my illness and all the complications surrounding it at the moment.


ETA - Stressage - you wanted funny.... have a snog, and when are we going out to play bingo please? I wish to spend an evening winning money and getting to draw things with a giant felt tip pen.
 
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Bless you starzaan, we shall play bingo and we shall draw things with big felt tips.....
I wish that i wasnt doing more important things so i could have this debate as the most important thing in my life!!!
I think that all is good now and everyone has moved on.
I love the equine world, its very amusing, no one can do anything without being caught, especially round our way hey starzaan.....
 
stressage21 said:
Bless you starzaan, we shall play bingo and we shall draw things with big felt tips.....
I wish that i wasnt doing more important things so i could have this debate as the most important thing in my life!!!
I think that all is good now and everyone has moved on.
I love the equine world, its very amusing, no one can do anything without being caught, especially round our way hey starzaan.....
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HA! I just spat coke all over myself. Go back to your reports you brazen hussy, and don't gas yourself with your nails please. You won't be nearly as sexy dead.
 
Only read four pages of tripe then skipped to the end.

OP you are lecturing us on life itself. We all have hardships, would be a long thread if we were to list them. We all have the odd insecurity, be it about OHs, jobs or otherwise.

And there are scummy men and slutty women, back stabbers, home wreckers and nasty individuals in all walks of life, we all meet them daily. But at the end of the day the only person to blame for cheating on their partner is that person themselves. If that's the point you're getting at? There's no need to be so angry, i find if you let them most people turn out to be quite nice really. The rest, well just ignore them. There, life is sorted again now :D

Starzan, just read over the last few replies and glad to hear you've found a nice and useful man. I enjoyed all your previous posts and hope they cheered you up through all those naff times. Hope the naff times are soon to be over too. Keep us updated x
 
Ohhh Starzaan you're back!!!!!! I've such a girly crush on you, I've so missed your posts and my computer will never really recover from all the tea I've spluttered at it whilst peeing myself reading your posts - not literally, well actually sometimes literally but not every time (pelvic floor exercises really do work!!)

Mrs Dip/Troll whatever she calls herself needs to wake up and smell the coffee and take your posts with the frivolity intended - like we all know, you didn't actually do anything wrong, you were just rather vocal on here about a crush you had, and we've all had crushes haven't we? I too cannot abide unfaithfulness in any form by men or women, but I can fully understand how much fun casual flirting can be, and miss the times in my life when I have worked in a more mixed environment when flirting used to be par for the course to some extent on a daily basis (thinks back to twenty years and a few stone lighter ago when I was actually remotely attractive in some men's eyes!!)

If someone is the cheating kind they will cheat, if they are not they won't. End of. Starzaan didn't cheat, the Farrier didn't cheat, so what's the big issue here! There are far more important things in this world that Mrs Troll should be worrying about than this. Methinks she needs to get out more?
 
I didn't mean you were 'old' ; )

I'm staying neutral on this. I enjoy a window shop and a bit of banter with the farriers!

You brushed your horse last week! Crikey - mines got bathed last week and didn't see s brush for about a month before that!!
 
We have a great farrier and we are mates with him and his other half, I knew his other half before he started doing our horses, he did arrive at our yard the one day all flustered and told us that a women client had just cornered him in a stable! I couldn't stop laughing, he said he had a few hints that she was interested in him the last few times he'd done her horses, but had brushed it aside.......until that day! his other half found it amusing as well, they trust each other and she knows he would not cheat on her, needless to say he doesn't do this womens horses anymore she scared him to death!!! I do pull his leg about it on occasion hehehehehehehehe
 
ruby1512 said:
We have a great farrier and we are mates with him and his other half, I knew his other half before he started doing our horses, he did arrive at our yard the one day all flustered and told us that a women client had just cornered him in a stable! I couldn't stop laughing, he said he had a few hints that she was interested in him the last few times he'd done her horses, but had brushed it aside.......until that day! his other half found it amusing as well, they trust each other and she knows he would not cheat on her, needless to say he doesn't do this womens horses anymore she scared him to death!!! I do pull his leg about it on occasion hehehehehehehehe
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hehehehe the same kind of thing happend to my hubbie, he turned up to shoe a girls horses to find her waiting for him topless sun baithing! scared the life out of him! she was a bit nuts befor this though in a stalker-esk kind of way. much as its out of order i near enough wet myself when he told me!
 
Jenni_ said:
Why doesn't everyone keep their noses out other peoples business? Some people make mistakes, there's enough repercussions in their lives without a load of old gossips on the Internet popping in their 2ps worth. Save your breath, your time, and go brush your horses!!
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Reading this is much more entertaining than brushing a muddy horse:rolleyes: You could always do it for me if you feel like less people should be on here putting their 2p's worth in:p
 
feisty_filly said:
hehehehe the same kind of thing happend to my hubbie, he turned up to shoe a girls horses to find her waiting for him topless sun baithing! scared the life out of him! she was a bit nuts befor this though in a stalker-esk kind of way. much as its out of order i near enough wet myself when he told me!
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Can you imagine how humiliating it is being turned down by a man while you are shaking your nudey baps in his face?! It must be hard work being a stalker! :D
 
Until recently my OH was head of security at the Union. He's had scantily clad, inebriated women throw themselves at him on a regular basis. I would never go out ranting, saying how immoral they were and giving women a bad name etc. In fact, all I need for him not to cheat is for him to say no (which he does, and I trust him implicitly). You can't ever stop someone being flirted with or being attractive to other people - you can only ever love them, trust them and give them every reason to be yours and yours alone. I do, and it works!

I'd also be concerned if the farrier at our yard didn't want the owner to be there: the owners are responsible for discussing any special needs (e.g. that their vet has recommended remedial farriery of some kind). The farrier that doesn't want the owner there is unlikely to receive all the up-to-date info on the horse either: I'll take the farrier that cares and asks questions every time.

Starzaan: you didn't disobey The Spag and fail to give him your stash when he requested a Chocolate Orange amnesty, did you? Get out of hospital and get well soon woman!
 
Fine, I'm only commenting again as it is still on the front page ok?? I would like to say that I meet my farrier at the yard in mini skirts, cowbow boots, low cut tops, stockings and high heels sometimes. I also occasionally corner him in the hay barn/ "accidentally" trip when I walk past him/ pinch his bum/ make lewd comments about how Hot he must be in all those clothes etc.

He has a VERY nice girlfriend, nicest person you'll ever meet.
 
Farrierlover said:
Fine, I'm only commenting again as it is still on the front page ok?? I would like to say that I meet my farrier at the yard in mini skirts, cowbow boots, low cut tops, stockings and high heels sometimes. I also occasionally corner him in the hay barn/ "accidentally" trip when I walk past him/ pinch his bum/ make lewd comments about how Hot he must be in all those clothes etc.

He has a VERY nice girlfriend, nicest person you'll ever meet.
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Ha ha like it. My husband gets 'If my wife were this dirty I would be at home!' written in the dirt on his van lol
 
If my farriers hadn't flirted with me I wouldn't have had 2 fantastic (one short one 5 years) relationships. Both are now in other relationships and we have stayed good frineds to this day. Not in my current location btw - this was where I used to live.

I'm friends with many farriers all over the country and let me tell you they love to flirt with their clinets, but that's all it is (as far as I know) harmless and makes the day go quicker :)

I think you maybe have suspicions that your hubby's head may have been turned and so did a little digging online - up pops Starzaans thread! :p

You do seem to be over thinking this a bit I think :confused:
 
I find this funny ... My farrier is to do one job only and thats to do my boys feet i dont look at him like that but hey its not just a farrier you get this in all walks of life Mrsdip your hubby must have done it to you as your getting your knickers in a twist
 
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