Being made to feel rather mean...

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metalmare

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YO brings all her horses under a lean to field shelter against a barn. They have concrete or mud underfoot. I let mine come 'in' once during extreme weather a couple of weeks ago and he was wetter than ever in the morning and clearly hadn't been allowed under the shelter by the others.

He has enough grass, a couple of slices of hay, solid ground underfoot, a daily feed, a large hedge and a 350 gram rug on...


Don't like feeling guilt tripped.
 
I know how you feel. My boy lives out, he is naked and the biggest fluffbag you have ever seen, yet people keep commenting that he should have a rug on or be stabled. He does not need a rug and would go mad in a stable and probably jump out.

Just do what is best for your horse and ignore the rest :) xx
 
metalmare said:
YO brings all her horses under a lean to field shelter against a barn. They have concrete or mud underfoot. I let mine come 'in' once during extreme weather a couple of weeks ago and he was wetter than ever in the morning and clearly hadn't been allowed under the shelter by the others.

He has enough grass, a couple of slices of hay, solid ground underfoot, a daily feed, a large hedge and a 350 gram rug on...


Don't like feeling guilt tripped.
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my lot r out whatever unrugged i must b evil :eek: ;)
 
Quite so; I've almost always had every horse I've ever owned out 24/7. The only time I have ever stabled is to tame a couple of youngsters and get them into a routine of being handled and fed.

I've nothing against stabling, per se... living out suits me and my boy well enough just now, though. Besides, I'm not being offered a stable... just a field shelter.
 
metalmare said:
Quite so; I've almost always had every horse I've ever owned out 24/7. The only time I have ever stabled is to tame a couple of youngsters and get them into a routine of being handled and fed.

I've nothing against stabling, per se... living out suits me and my boy well enough just now, though. Besides, I'm not being offered a stable... just a field shelter.
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well then just smile n wave at those talkin bad about it, sounds very happy to me :)
 
I don't follow, has your YO said something to make you feel guilty or is it something you've taken upon yourself because she choses to bring hers in? Either way, neither of your business to judge what the other is doing tbh.
 
I am asked on roughly a weekly basis whether he is coming in with the others, so I feel I have to justify why he isn't.
 
Well maybe she's just asking so you know you can if you want to? Why assume you're being guilt tripped?
 
Because I know her and you don't ;-)

Seriously, I'm not all that bothered; we get on well enough and she has my horse's best interests at heart... I'd just rather not have to feel like I'm arguing my case, that's all.

It's not a 'yard' as such but a private home, so I have to conform to the owner's ideas rather more than I might otherwise. It's worth the compromises for the general solitude.

Do you get the impression I like being left to my own devices? :-)
 
I forget sometimes that this is a forum and you don't know my personality.

Suffice it to say that 80% of what I say is tongue in cheek and that I rarely take genuine offense at much these days... life's too short.

I just like to voice my thoughts in the most aimless manner on long, dark, boring winter evenings.

There, I'll shut up now and go and do something productive.
 
We have an Arab X mare and I've had to leave her out 24/7 but rugged as to her needs (she can't seem to tolerate the wet) this year was the latest I've rugged mine (last week of Nov) but if I put the Arab X in the stable she would go nuts and fret like mad, so why should I make her miserable because other people think I SHOULD?! B*ll*cks!
 
No need to get defensive :confused: You had a rant in your op, but didn't actually say whether your YO was saying anything to make you feel guilty (and in fairness, they aren't explicity, you're inferring it, from what you say). Are you always this sensitive? Because I haven't questioned your personality, and I wonder if the two issues might be related...
 
Bah! I was walking home in a foul mood today past some ponies that live near mine, I stepped aside for a cyclist and she said 'oh my god have you seen how cold those horses are?' I made a noise, although I would have liked to say er, no I can't? Said ponies are three fat (one extremely so in my opinion probably because they get fed by idiot public) cobby types, they actually have a shelter with straw in it which mine doesn't! They weren't shivering!

When I do poo picking I get warm in just a hoodie, so I don't really get it.
 
LOL - I'm not being defensive; you've given me lots of good advice before and I respect what you have to say.

These forums just don't convey tone of voice, do they? I'm really quite light-hearted.

Anyway, I'm always too sloppy in my initial posts and don't give the right information. She hasn't actually said anything unkind, no, it's my inference on the fact that I'm often asked. As I say, it was only a light-hearted observation.
 
You're right, tone massively affects how stuff comes across on here. The other slant on what I'm saying is that you shouldn't feel guilty because your YM may well not mean it the way you're taking it, which is probably a more positive way of wording it. Whether that's the case or not, though, it's not a big deal in the scheme of things, especially if you are amused by it.
 
No it's not a biggie - you're probably right anyhow, she means well in her own way.

I should learn how to use these smiley things properly and make better use of them to express myself.
 
metalmare said:
No it's not a biggie - you're probably right anyhow, she means well in her own way.

I should learn how to use these smiley things properly and make better use of them to express myself.
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Oh don't do that :eek: you'll be accused of using sarcastic smilies to further insult other posters :D
 
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