Bitchiness at yards and loaning :o(

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Well I know longer have H on loan, his owner went up the yard last night and collected him - straight out of the field before I even got there :cry: She didn't even tell me, one of my mates at the yard told me and said that his owner had said not to say anything. Apparently one of the liverys rang her and then she turned up with the box to pick him up! She text me later on on the night to say that she'd been told other people were doing him more than me which wasn't true at all - I was down there at least 5 days out of 7 and on the 2 days I couldn't get down someone else fed him for me, he was allowed to be left out at night - again not true, she said was I going to leave him in at night or out and I said probably out for a bit longer until it gets really cold and I told her last week that he would be coming in from this thursday which she said was fine. Also apparently I handled him in appropriately at times and he was picking up habits
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I know who rang her and this person has been kicked off another yard before for stirring things up, shes old enough to know better aswell (shes in her 40s I'd say), she told me the other day she though H was underweight (he doesn't look it at all - her horse weighs 680kg and is a 15.2 cob x!) and shes not even down in the week after work - I go down every night (or at least 3) after work so get there about half 5, then I'm there all day Saturday and Sunday unless I go to my mom and dads for dinner - shes there at half 6 each morning, after 2pm on a Saturday and a few hours on a Sunday!

I can't believe she just came and took him without letting me know, I even text her to ask if she was still ok for sunday as she was coming up to help me with the school and she text back saying 'I'm fine, hows Hugo? Now this was 2 hours after she had picked him up!!!

We signed a loan agreement and it said that we had to give each other 30 days notice if either I didn't want him anymore or if she wanted him back unless he was been neglected - which I don't think he was.

She also got someone to let her into my barn (which was padlocked - my best mate has the spare key and had left it in her stable so someone must have gone and got it as she wasn't there then) and she took 3 bales of shavings (as she said thats what she give me when he came but she said I could have them), her saddle and 2 of MY rugs. She said she took the rugs as she couldn't find his bridle but she knew that I'd took it home to clean it as I told her that when she came down to see him and ride him on Monday!! She said I can have my rugs back when she gets her bridle back and that I was to drop it down the yard by the weekend, then she would return the rugs!!

She came down Monday night after shed finished work (she finished at half 3 so I used time that I'd got owed to me so I could leave early to get down in time for her to ride before it got dark) but didn't say anything to me at all.

I worked out today that since I've had him (22nd September until yesterday, 30th October) I've spent £277 on him :doh:

I really can't believe shes done this to me. I've attached 2 piccies of him, the 1st is one she took last Summer and the 2nd is a piccie of him from when I had him (22nd September) - do you think he looks underweight or neglected??:

Hugo Summer 2006

Hugo 22nd September 2007
 

Definatly not under weight.

This woman sound off her head and to be honest, you are better off out of it. Im sure there must be something you can do as there was a loan agreement. Have you spoken to your YO about this trouble maker on your yard? Think Id of kicked her head in by now!
 
OMG, that woman is in serious need of a slap! Get that horrible evil gossip off your yard - and report her horse for being overweight to as I know what mine looked like when he weighed 680kg - like a cow!

But, look at it this way to - thank lord you are out of that situation as she sounds like she would have been a nightmare to deal with!
I hope you get your rugs back, did she tell u that in a text? If so can u download your texts to a pc - I believe nokias can do that.
 
I agree talking to your YO and explaining the situation would be helpful, in order to protect others from this busy body woman. She may well do something similar to other liveries in the future.
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Trouble is, most yards have at least 1 resident that are more interested in other people's business than their own.
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If I had any concerns as an owner about a horse I had loaned out, I like to think I could talk these concerns through with the loaner and try to come up with a plan to put things right (if they need to be that is!)

I'm afraid you are going to have to let this horse go. Try to find an alternative horse to loan and move to a different yard. In effect start again, hopefully with more supportive people. I would make a suggestion that the owner can come and see the horse once a week in the beginning to make sure all is going well??? That way no one can criticise you as the owner has a good ongoing idea of what care the horse is getting.
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Sorry to hear your story. Try to brush yourself off and move on if you can???
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If i were you i'd talk to consumer association or small claims court. she broke your contract on hearsay and let herself into your barn and removed your property...that is ridiculous and if you have been paying her money or have paid her anything in advance you should certainly be entitled to it back seeing as how she broke the contract.
 
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If i were you i'd talk to consumer association or small claims court. she broke your contract on hearsay and let herself into your barn and removed your property...that is ridiculous and if you have been paying her money or have paid her anything in advance you should certainly be entitled to it back seeing as how she broke the contract.

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Totally agree. AND this woman has broken the law aswell, in affect she has stolen your rugs!!
 
I havent paid her anything although I was supposed to pay for his vaccinations that had to be done the week after I had him, though the bill hasn't been sent through yet luckily. He was due to have his shoes done this week so I've now got to cancel that to!

She knew she could come up anytime to see him and has been up around 6 times in the last 4 weeks, I even phoned her when he refused to hack out on his own.
 
I know it's sad that this person took the horse away, but what a horrible way to go about it. When you get over it sounds like you dont need her in your life, or the vile peeps involved. There are so many great horses and places to go, feel for you. What a nasty bunch! I am sure you love the horse and it sounds like you did your very best for him. Hope you can get something sorted out and get him back. Have you got any family or friends who can help you get Hugo back?You have a loaning agreement, contact the BHS, they might offer advice. Good luck.
 
OMG - Sounds like most of the people involved in this are a little insane...the fact the agreement is with you and no one else means the lady should have called and gone through things...its hardly mature to rush up to a yard, take the horse and then pretend she had not been there by telling people not to say anything....what if you arrived and believed the horse had been stolen...it would have wasted alot of peoples time and caused upset....
Unfortunately there are quite a few strange people in this world...most of them are reasonable and pretty good but you tend to get the few aliens surrounding horses that become jelious or even feel inadequate and pick on others to feel better about themselves...
Sounds like you are better off out of the loan if the woman is that guliable and cant speak to you in a fair and rational way really...
Can you move yards...? Set up a loan with someone else...?
I checked on my pony every other month and she was kept local...any problems or concerns were spoken about in a respectable and understand manner and anyhting I didnt like or want done I wrote into the contract so it was completely clear....
I would count your chickens your out of that situation...sounds like a time bomb of trouble....
dont feel too sad..there are plenty of good horses with normal people looking for loanees...:0)
 
hun so sorry to hear about this bitch of a woman id move on and get a new yard and try not to fester over it !
alot of people who loan out there pony or horse maybe wish they hadnt so try anything/belive anything
so pick yourself up and move on give bridel back get rugs sell on ebay and find new yard and horse
good luck
your better off without all these people in your life !
 
First off I should say i don't know you, or anything about you, and have no reason to believe that you have neglected this horse. having said that, plenty of people over the years have posted here, saying that they believe that their horse out on loan is being neglected or mistreated - and the first advice that is given to each and every one of them by several people is to just go and get the horse and sort out the details after.

That is exactly what this owner has done.

It may be, when she realises that she was misinformed and you get a chance to talk it over, that she will regret what she did, apologise and offer you the horse back. She shouldn't, however, be criticised for acting in what she believed to be the horse's best interests.
 
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