Spit That Out
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My stable is next to (lets call her S)
S and I have been friends for nearly 6 years now. We've helped each other out loads around the yard, been to shows together, events and even socialize off the yard i.e round each others houses for BBQs, Chinese's etc etc
My OH and her Hubby play golf together...you get the idea!!
They have a 15 year old daughter that is ace. A real individual and have known her since she was 9ish, we'll call her P.
I've helped her to learn to ride and every year we take her on holiday with us (folks can't afford having 2 horses and don't go on holiday themselves) She's generally a good kid and just a typical teenager that likes to sleep, hates school but is super brainy (did 5 GCSEs early and got 5 A*s!!!) likes to party with mates and dyes her hair every colour under the sun!!!
However...Last weekend P went to a party (friends 16th) and stupidly had her photo taken with a fag in her mouth!!! Her friend posted it on Facebook along with loads of other pics so was an honest error!!
As P is a friend on my Facebook the photos were available for me to view.
I saw the photo and text her straight away telling her that I'd seen the pic and to stop that s**t.
10 mins later the offending photo was removed from Facebook.
P is 16 next month.
So...Do i tell S? Do i take P to one side and have a chat? Do i leave it and don't get involved?
If S finds out and finds out i knew about it and didn't tell her it she'll hit the roof.
If i tell S and S has a go at P then P will know I've snitched on her.
I don't want to fall out with either of them and i would like to think that if P ever needed someone to talk to (teenager stuff) etc she would come to me as I'm the "Cool Auntie" that let her get her ears Pierced, has taken her to her first mosh pit etc!!!
I also feel a bit of a hypocrite as i smoke and have done since i was 14 (I'm now 30 something)!!!
I understand that teenagers need to find themselves...i wasn't a saint myself but i feel awkward knowing that she's smoking even if it's only socially?!!?
I don't have kids of my own so not sure how to handle this?!!?
What would you do?
Thanks for reading this war and peace post!!!
S and I have been friends for nearly 6 years now. We've helped each other out loads around the yard, been to shows together, events and even socialize off the yard i.e round each others houses for BBQs, Chinese's etc etc
My OH and her Hubby play golf together...you get the idea!!
They have a 15 year old daughter that is ace. A real individual and have known her since she was 9ish, we'll call her P.
I've helped her to learn to ride and every year we take her on holiday with us (folks can't afford having 2 horses and don't go on holiday themselves) She's generally a good kid and just a typical teenager that likes to sleep, hates school but is super brainy (did 5 GCSEs early and got 5 A*s!!!) likes to party with mates and dyes her hair every colour under the sun!!!
However...Last weekend P went to a party (friends 16th) and stupidly had her photo taken with a fag in her mouth!!! Her friend posted it on Facebook along with loads of other pics so was an honest error!!
As P is a friend on my Facebook the photos were available for me to view.
I saw the photo and text her straight away telling her that I'd seen the pic and to stop that s**t.
10 mins later the offending photo was removed from Facebook.
P is 16 next month.
So...Do i tell S? Do i take P to one side and have a chat? Do i leave it and don't get involved?
If S finds out and finds out i knew about it and didn't tell her it she'll hit the roof.
If i tell S and S has a go at P then P will know I've snitched on her.
I don't want to fall out with either of them and i would like to think that if P ever needed someone to talk to (teenager stuff) etc she would come to me as I'm the "Cool Auntie" that let her get her ears Pierced, has taken her to her first mosh pit etc!!!
I also feel a bit of a hypocrite as i smoke and have done since i was 14 (I'm now 30 something)!!!
I understand that teenagers need to find themselves...i wasn't a saint myself but i feel awkward knowing that she's smoking even if it's only socially?!!?
I don't have kids of my own so not sure how to handle this?!!?
What would you do?
Thanks for reading this war and peace post!!!