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boy in the village walks his 11 yr old dog for miles upto 6 hours a day..dog is limping , by the time he gets home it cant move.. he has colapsed in the road.. he just drags it along.. i have told him not to walk it for so long , he only needs 2 20-30 min walks a day... but he wont have it.. lots of other people have told him about it... he is a family member , but we dont talk to that side of the family, (long story) anyway should i phone the rspca? he might listern to them.. the boy is 25 and has asperges.. no excuse really.. but still..i am only concerned about the dog..
 
I f you have tried to talk to him, thenyes I would call the RSPCA and I would maybe take some footage of the poor dog collapsing, it's great he gives alot of exercise but obs it's not the right dog to do it with:(
 
Talk to the kid's parents. Aspergers kids can learn, but need reinforcement and don't like changes to their routine, but this boy needs to be made to understand. :(
 
cinnamontoast said:
Talk to the kid's parents. Aspergers kids can learn, but need reinforcement and don't like changes to their routine, but this boy needs to be made to understand. :(
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hes my stepson... his dad has told him.. his mother encourages him..:mad: hes now living with his gran.. we kicked him out a few months ago... hes 25 yrs old... so not really a boy.. hes not stupid, he should know better..!!
 
tango'smum said:
the boy is 25 and has asperges.. no excuse really..
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Don't get me wrong in my answer, the poor dog needs walking less if it is struggling with these long walks but Aspergers sufferers HATE change to routine, so if this dog has been having the same walks for the last 8-10years, thats a long time of a set routine for this bloke to change. Having worked with Aspergers sufferers I also know that a majority of them have no concept of time so he may not realise he is out for so long with the dog? Maybe research up about the syndrome and you may understand a little more why this lad is doing what he is. It's going to take a lot of support for him to suddenly cut down the dogs walks.
 
RolyPolyPony said:
Don't get me wrong in my answer, the poor dog needs walking less if it is struggling with these long walks but Aspergers sufferers HATE change to routine, so if this dog has been having the same walks for the last 8-10years, thats a long time of a set routine for this bloke to change. Having worked with Aspergers sufferers I also know that a majority of them have no concept of time so he may not realise he is out for so long with the dog? Maybe research up about the syndrome and you may understand a little more why this lad is doing what he is. It's going to take a lot of support for him to suddenly cut down the dogs walks.
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he understands time... he always tells you how long hes been out... he walks so fast the dog cant keep up.. poor thing is being dragged...
 
If that was a family member if mine I would be removing the dog myself... Where are his parents in all this. I realise he's an adult, but for me it falls into the same category as the elderly who shouldn't be driving. We tried the official route (GP/DVLA) for my gran. It was nigh on impossible, so for other road users safety we removed her keys.
Same should apply here, if he can't be educated to cut back for the sake of the dog, it should be removed by another family member.
Just my opinion
 
millimoo said:
If that was a family member if mine I would be removing the dog myself... Where are his parents in all this. I realise he's an adult, but for me it falls into the same category as the elderly who shouldn't be driving. We tried the official route (GP/DVLA) for my gran. It was nigh on impossible, so for other road users safety we removed her keys.
Same should apply here, if he can't be educated to cut back for the sake of the dog, it should be removed by another family member.
Just my opinion
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obviously his dad lives with me... his mum see's him once a fortnight. she aint got time for him....she encourages him.she wont spend time with him.. she has her favorate son she sees all the time, hes normall so no hastle..stupid woman.. she dumped the boys when she walked out with her boyfriend 4 yrs ago.. theres been a big family fallout, so we dont see any off them... we kicked the son out when he kept bringing his mum round my house, we told him it was not on, he went of on one, so we told him to get out.. plus he was saying nasty things about me. thats not on either, after everything i did for him...he had it easy here..
 
we kicked the son out when he kept bringing his mum round my house, we told him it was not on, he went of on one, so we told him to get out.. plus he was saying nasty things about me. thats not on either, after everything i did for him...he had it easy here
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Wow, supportive.
 
tango'smum said:
obviously his dad lives with me... his mum see's him once a fortnight. she aint got time for him....she encourages him.she wont spend time with him.. she has her favorate son she sees all the time, hes normall so no hastle..stupid woman.. she dumped the boys when she walked out with her boyfriend 4 yrs ago.. theres been a big family fallout, so we dont see any off them... we kicked the son out when he kept bringing his mum round my house, we told him it was not on, he went of on one, so we told him to get out.. plus he was saying nasty things about me. thats not on either, after everything i did for him...he had it easy here..
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You (along with the rest of this poor kids family) clearly have a very limited understanding of what Asperger Syndrome actually means. I feel sorry for the dog, but even sorrier for the lad.

I suggest you read this:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Freaks-Geeks-Asperger-Syndrome-Adolescence/dp/1843100983
 
A few people in my family have aspergers, most notably my sister who is incapable of living in the 'real world' and still lives with my parents. Every day (mon to fri) regardless of the weather at half past three in the afternoon she takes my dog for a walk. A few months ago he stoped wanting to be walked at all in the afternoons but she dragged him out then one day he ran away and returned to my parents house without her when my mum was home. My mum questioned my sister who said admitted she had to force him to go out so mum told me what was going on. I'd reduced his walking time and he was fine to walk with me so I told her to do the same. She refused, I threatened to take the dog away from her totally. She only walks him for 45mins - 1 hour now.
 
I'm surprised a member of the public hasn't said anything to him if the dog has collapsed, its so sad when things like this are ignored.

It sounds as though your family situation means that you are not the best person to talk to him directly, is there anyone else the boy knows that you could talk to? Perhaps one of his friends, or a sensible neighbour? I think if it comes from someone he knows it will be easier on him especially if he likes them and respects them. Upsetting his routine is going to be unsettling for him so someone who understands his condition would be best.

If you don't know anyone then I would definitely call the RSPCA. I would talk to him for you if I lived near enough. Where are you, maybe someone else on here could help....
 
Call the RSPCA to deal, this is more common than people realise and the officers have a lot of experience dealing with people with all sorts of conditions.
 
i wont do anything.... yet them get on with it.... wont be me carrying a dead dog home....he will have to deal with that.... might teach him a lesson...
 
Spudlet said:
You (along with the rest of this poor kids family) clearly have a very limited understanding of what Asperger Syndrome actually means. I feel sorry for the dog, but even sorrier for the lad.

I suggest you read this:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Freaks-Geeks-Asperger-Syndrome-Adolescence/dp/1843100983
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The point is, whatever condition someone has it does not mean that we should allow animals to suffer at their hands. If someone who, for example, suffered schizophrenia, and let's say stabbed their dog, we wouldn't excuse or ignore that because of the person's condition.

The situation needs dealing with asap, albeit in a very sensitive and supporting way.
 
Moomin1 said:
The point is, whatever condition someone has it does not mean that we should allow animals to suffer at their hands. If someone who, for example, suffered schizophrenia, and let's say stabbed their dog, we wouldn't excuse or ignore that because of the person's condition.

The situation needs dealing with asap, albeit in a very sensitive and supporting way.
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I am not suggesting the dog should be allowed to suffer, however I am suggesting that this lad needs help from his family. As they're clearly incapable of that, it's going to have to be the RSPCA isn't it? Another example of people shunning their responsibilities and expecting someone else to pick up the pieces.
 
Spudlet said:
I am not suggesting the dog should be allowed to suffer, however I am suggesting that this lad needs help from his family. As they're clearly incapable of that, it's going to have to be the RSPCA isn't it? Another example of people shunning their responsibilities and expecting someone else to pick up the pieces.
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not my kid so not my problem......
plus hes not a kid, hes 25 yrs old....
 
Dobiegirl said:
The dog is the one suffering here so my advice would be to contact the dog warden and RSPCA.
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^^ this. OP is looking for support here, she's in a difficult situation.

Families are complicated, we don't know the full details, however it is clear that this dog needs someone to help.
 
Just a word of advice to save OP's phone bill! The dog wardens won't get involved as they don't deal with welfare issues to any great extent - they only deal with stray dogs and barking issues. That being said, if the dog warden is actually also the local authority animal health warden then they are afforded full powers of the Animal Welfare Act so they will deal. Good luck OP. :)
 
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