Disturbing horse owner behaviour

To take a mother-child relationship with any non-human animal? Disturbing and disasterous for both parties. To use the term mummy as a quick way to convey ownership, love and affection for an animal? Perfectly fine.
 
bunnereeny said:
no but neither should you be boss, horse and rider/owner is partnership of mutual respect.
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It's not a mutual partnership - I am their boss - if I ask my horse to walk past something he thinks is scary, I bleedin' well expect him to do it without question or debate, because I am in charge and I pay the bills. I'm a considerate boss - I won't force them to work if he's in pain or similar, but I expect them to do as they are told. As rhino says, we make the decisions about feeding, management, work. That doesn't mean I don't respect them though ;)

Actually I think I prefer the term enlightened despot. That probably suits my mentality better.
 
I have always referred to myself as BH's aunty. I don't say I am Nitty's mummy but tbh, in the early days, I was basically a doting aunt to BH. I have no idea how else I would have described it.

He belonged to someone else and was paid for by someone else but I rode him and took care of him sometimes although jobs tended to be shared. And then started to pay for bits and pieces here and there. He wasn't on loan to me or anything like that. Auntie seemed to about cover it really. What should I have said I was? Owner didn't cover it, boss didn't cover it ( I didn't make decisions about his management). Anywho, I still say 'be nice or Aunty Jess will give you a smack' to him. Shoot me now.

And I'm not new to horses, I come from horsey stock. I don't feed hard feed unless needed, I don't rug Nitty at all and BH wears minimal rugs, I am not scared to jump over 3 foot and I've even been known to go hunting. I've worked in the industry and neither of my horses are fat or in any way coddled. Where do I fit into this stereotype then?

And I chat to both of them, although not in a baby voice. I just talk to them. I talk to the dog too. So does my mother and if you want to take it up with her, be my guest. She is scary and old school enough to take it on the chin!
 
trickivicki said:
I agree I find the Mummy thing a bit wierd, perfectly harmless but a little odd.... BUT this is coming from the girl that has conversations with my horse doing a fake mans voice for his replies???

(in my defence my yard is very very very quiet and quite often Peej is my only company!)
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haha I do this too, we have full on conversations. I often think god if he could actually understand me he'd think I was a right k**b, I bet I get him totally wrong :-D!!!
 
Anglebracket said:
I would like to propose a thread title change:

"Mildly irksome horse owner behaviour"
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How about:

"Horse owner behaviour I don't understand but which is totally harmless and has no impact on my life"? Or even "Whinging pointlessly about other people's horse ownership makes me feel part of the horsey clique again...I hope everyone agrees with me" :D
 
pookie said:
How about:

"Horse owner behaviour I don't understand but which is totally harmless and has no impact on my life"? Or even "Whinging pointlessly about other people's horse ownership makes me feel part of the horsey clique again...I hope everyone agrees with me" :D
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All those in favour say "I" ..... IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII
 
I think you are all quite safe.

It's not as if your very serious farming neighbour and his wife had turned up when you were in the field, on all fours, barking at a puppy....:o:o:o

(Well, it was some very serious scientific research into the barking voice patterns of dogs. If they'd stuck around, I could have explained:rolleyes:).
 
I talk to my pony, and call my mam his grandma. He doesn't like his grandma, he nips her and stands on her foot.
My mam says i'm the ponies mam, but i never call myself his mam.

There are a few who talk away to their horses, but i haven't heard many call themselves their horses "mam".

But i can't see any harm in it, there are far more irritating things than this.
I wouldn't say it's "disturbing" as people call themselves a dogs "mam" etc..
To say its disturbing is a tad harsh i think
 
Dry Rot said:
I think you are all quite safe.

It's not as if your very serious farming neighbour and his wife had turned up when you were in the field, on all fours, barking at a puppy....:o:o:o

(Well, it was some very serious scientific research into the barking voice patterns of dogs. If they'd stuck around, I could have explained:rolleyes:).
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If you're neighbours, you must have met them before, so I imagine they were expecting such a sight and didn't think anything more of it :D
 
Oh it does make me cringe sometimes but it doesn't do any harm, it's nice to see people so besotted with their four legged friends, better than seeing them as dumb animals with no feelings! Plus I am quite guilty of a bit of indulgent 'oh who looks pretty today, oh yes you do, look at this pretty face, yes it is a pretty face!' but I don't really do it in front of other people, just bemused equines!
 
Cedars said:
What else would I say to the dog instead of 'go to daddy'? Go to that man over there who paid £650 for you?
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Go to *insert name here* ;)
For example, "Go to Cedars. Good boy." :D :D

Cedars said:
Bigger things in the world to worry about.
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Never agreed with you more lady from the internet who I occasionally speak to on Horse & Hound and Facebook :)
 
Archiesmummy and proud.

I look after him, ensure his every need is met, love him so much it hurts and will ensure he wants for nothing until his dying day.
 
I pay for it, clean up after it, wipe it's arse, nurse it's wounds, teach it wrong from right, therefore feel perfectly justified to call myself it's mother from time to time....in a light hearted way of course.

I can safely confirm I didn't give birth to it however.

Yes I do refer to my horse as 'it'

*applies tin hat*
 
I sometimes refer to myself as Lou's "mam" or "ma" but not very often. It's mainly just jokily when she's in a sulk. So when she turns her bum towards me because her feed doesn't taste as nice now she has to have lots of supplements in it and she won't eat it, or she doesn't want to be turned out in the rain, I'll say things like "oh are you sulking at your mam then?". I don't do it in a soppy way, but you'd all think I'm mad anyway because I actually hold proper conversations with my horse :p
 
I paid for 'it'. I'm not hurting anyone else, and they might as well be my children, take up all my time and money! Proud to be a 'mummy' to my ponies <3
 
Well, that was certainly an interesting first post. I didn't honestly expect any replies. It was merely a lighthearted observation, and was not intended to offend. Yes, I do have a life, and yes, there are worse things going on in the world. I'm off to buy a sparkly browband. M
 
No offence taken here OP, I was merely convincing myself why the hell I call myself its mother at times, started a list....then realised yeah that why lol

Don't get me started on the husband!
 
Guilty as hell,but honestly who really cares? I even refer to myself as 'Granny' to Mini TX;s horse. OK, I happen to be a 50 year old owner with two much loved horses. Its my passion and escape from my very high powered job. I love my two like family members, but they are horses, live like horses, are treated like horses, not over-rugged, turned out as much as possible. How do you define pampered? They have the best of everything that I can afford to buy, but are not over-fed and indulged with treats (I do not feed treats). On top of that I like to buy myself and my daughter nice riding clothes (dont do the matchy matchy thing though, not our thing), and have nice quality tack and rugs.

Are we gross people, all the gear not idea people who pamper their ponies? Those of you who know me in the flesh know that we are not. However, quite honestly who cares. If you are returning to the horse world after a break, I guarantee you will find a dam sight worse.
 
I have to admit to feeling a bit odd at having being referred to as our horse's 'Dad', but have just accepted it as a peccadillo of 'horsey people' (a label that I guess applies to me these days too! ;))

I don't really see any harm in it, it seems quite endearing in a way, but I doubt you'll ever catch me referring to myself as 'Dad'
 
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