Do you... (Its a rant (sorry) and a question)

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OK, over the last few months I have worked really hard to improve my horse, and everyone on here must know that to get results you have to put work in. I don't have any transport so can't compete but I'm hoping to get out to at least one or two shows or dressage competitions by the end of the season (even if its only something low key at a local livery yard). I'm getting some wonderful results from my horse which is making me really happy and even more focussed. But from all the non-horsey people I work with I'm being told "Don't you think you should broaden your horizons?!" or "Don't you think you should try something new?!" Well, if I had the time and the money I probably would. But I felt really very insulted today when someone said "Don't you have anything else in your life?" I have a dog that I have shown this year winning several classes. I work. My horse is the biggest and most fullfilling part of my life, why would I want to and why should I broaden my horizons????

So my question is... Do you do anything else besides your horses??? This question is aimed at those who keep their horse on a budget and work fulltime (in my case 3 jobs to keep my horse!!!! Don't I have enough to do???!!! There's no one else to do the house work or gardening either as I live alone!)

THANKS PEEPS JUST NEEDED TO GET IT OFF MY CHEST!!! Just had a thought, maybe they're jealous, I live alone, not interested in being in a relationship, I've recently lost nearly 4st and all I want is my horse and he makes me sooooooo happy!!! What else could a horsy girl ask for????????
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if they are non horsey it is because they do not understand the animals and the bond that you can build with them - better than having a fella sometimes except for the one obvious loss !!!!!

I work to keep my horse and work full time and having nothing else - the money is plit between horse and mortgage - other half works aswell but that makes no difference - he hass his footy.

I dont compete or anything either.

Ignore them they just dont understand
 
You said it yourself, you're happy. Who cares what ignorant people at work think. I work with most men (for a construction co.) and am under constant ridicule for my 'amusing' hobby. I don't have huge amounts of time and only get to ride a few times a week because my job and masters are demanding - i think it's the same with a lot of people - there just isn't the time/energy.

What is it that these super interesting people with their wealth of time do then? just wondering what they have that you don't?!!!
 
I am exactly the same apart from I don't show the dogs!!
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I love it and wouldn't change it for the world! Good luck to you if your happy that is all that matters!
 
You mean to say you don't do things like watch Eastenders and go into town to get drunk?
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You are wasting your life putting all that effort into something you enjoy....

What rubbish! Tell them to mind their own business! I'm sure they are just jealous because they have nothing that they enjoy doing enough to want to put a serious amount of effort into it like you do.
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I work full time and have my 2 horses, I literally have no time for anything else, I leave work and don't get home till 8.30 - 9pm, I'm lucky because I have transport so compete fairly regullary, I have a social life, ie out with friends drinking once a month or so and a very understanding OH who has interests of his own swimming training / racing and surfing. 'Friends' have criticised the time and money I invest in horses but in the next breath moan they're bored and go out drinking evey Friday and Saturday nights spending the equivalent on booze and clothes, for me I get the better deal and life is good, do what you enjoy its the only way you'll be happy.
 
well i am very much like you, my horse is my life outside of work & im (hopefully) getting a dog next year. i dont compete much, i just enjoy his (horses) company i do have a lorry but cant do much as have no-one to come out with me but mainly want to do fun rides & local showing classes
 
As long as YOU are happy don't worry about them! They probably go home after work and just cook tea do a bit of cleaning and then sit watching TV every night (how exciting NOT!!!)
 
Just think how much more happier we are than our non-horsey counterparts. We get fit and stay healthier than then, their past times (usually drinking) is killing them slowly.

We also have something in our lives that loves us unconditionally, how many people can say that
 
You know what peeps, keep your opinions coming coz I'm going to ram this thread down the throat of anyone else who tells me to broaden my horizons. Do you know what else two of them are men, they both quite obviously fancy me, bet they're miffed coz I'm not interested in them!!! LOL!!!! I know one goes sailing and the other does amatuer dramatics (sp?). I'm off home soon to cuddle my boy, ride him and tell him how much I love him!!!!
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Sound like real morons!! It's the blokes that are worst - they prob fancy you, after all, why else would a bloke try to get under someone's skin - don't give them the satisfaction!!
 
You are happy that is the main thing and from what you have said your horse must be happy too........ Ignore those people, they don't know what they are talking about. I have four horses, work full time, have a relationship with a lovely person who helps me at much as he can.......... and do try and compete, but at the end of the day I enjoy my horses and they are happy......

You have it all, so stuff them..........
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Tell em b***s!

I work full time and shifts as well, with one horse in work and another on its way there isn't the time/energy or money to do anything else. Plus nowdays I just don't want to go and stand in a sweaty bar being eyed up by creepy blokes and have to take my drink to the toilet with me so's it doesn't get spiked. If that's THEIR idea of a life and a good time well........
 
I work fulltime and I have only just got my horsey but my life suddenly seems so much more fulfilled and of course busier! My somewhat cr*p job is now bearable as it now pays for something really important (other than food, bills and the mortgage!). I am married and love my OH dearly and we are still able to go out with friends, away etc. Lets face it most people do not have hobbies or outside interests so they are probably just jealous and unfulfilled!!
 
Thank you guys, I knew I was right. After all how can something non drug or alcoholic but keeps you fit and happy be wrong. My boss said my head is so full of my horse there's no room for anything else!!! (in a nice way) and my other boss's wife used to 3 day event so every monday he gets the lowdown on what we are doing and he's very impressed with my results which means the world to me. He's gone from thinking of me as a silly little girl that plays horses to a serious horse woman who he respects and admires which surprised me tremendously! So with all of that in mind, I'm going to bid you all farewell and thank you for your input. I will look forward to reading some more opinions in the morning. I hope you all have a wonderful evening with your horses and the sun is shining here for me I hope it is for you!!
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Sounds like you are having a great life & far more interesting than your work colleagues! Some people where I work are amazed that I see my horses every day even! What, EVERY day?!
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I have little time left over for other interests but that doesn't matter to me, like you I just want to improve my horse & do some low level competing, and that is where my energies go.
 
I do not think that non-horse owning people understand the time and financial commitment involved in keeping a horse. It most certainly has driven my ex non-horsey partners to distraction.
 
The problem obviously lies with your workmates. The two guys who fancy you are obviously used to boring women with no hobbies or interests who would be able to devote all their time to their greatness; never mind that youre not interested. Tell them its not the 1940s and women are allowed to have interests outside the home!

The arrogance of some men knows no bounds. I recently had an awful, boring first date with a guy, wasnt going to contact him again, but he texted me to say that he thought I had too many interests to have time for a relationship! The answer of course being that if you are interested in someone you make time for them and cannot but help become interested in their interests.

I do two sports and work full time. The other sport is running. I have been pleasantly surprised by the interest of non-running guys in the horses, two want to come and watch me compete and another came up to see my horse (though he obviously hated every minute, although not admitting it was not really his thing, bless).
 
I don't work but am at uni and my uni friends don't completely understand the whole horse thing. My horse is my life even though she is not at uni with me but everytime we have a holiday from uni I am on the first train home and last train back to uni so that I can get home and ride. They all want me to stay at uni during the holidays but I get bored. I can't spend the whole holiday going out drinking. None of them have anything you could call a hobby. When the house is built, my parents will be closer to uni and so I will go home at weekends to ride.

When I do graduate I would want a job that I could fit my horse around, I hate being without my horse.

You are happy, that is the important thing.
 
Good for you!!! They prob slop in front of telly every night and think that is interesting, I am obsessive about my neddies too, they helped me get through the worst part of my illness so I owe them everything.
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Same as you but I do live with my boyfriend.

In my experience, non- horsey people really dont want to hear about your horse, they find it boring and odd that you get so wrapped up in it.

I never talk about my horse or what I've done with her to anyone at work! No-one can acuse you of "talking about boring horses"
 
My horses and dog rule my life. I work full time and I'm doing a degree in health and social so have very little spare time. I'm very lucky in the fact that my, quite frankly, amazing fiance is happy to muck out the horses or poo pick the paddocks whilst I ride, and I have lovely parents who are happy to tow me to competitions at the weekend.
Other than my horse, work, dog and studies...I have no life. I barely get chance to speak to my fiance, let alone have a social life!
 
I own, ride,compete and keep my 2 horses at DIY livery. Am single again after ex dumped me for another female. I work full time, thoroughly enjoy my horses, socialising with friends, and don't know how I would've got through the lonely months without them.

Don't feel you have to broaden your horizons - its yours life, he's/she's your horse - anymore than you feel you want to. Ignore those people they don't know what terrific bond they're missing. I agree, horses offer unconditional love and they're often a lot more satisfying!
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Been there too. My current job every one is interested in the horses and what we get up to, but I've had a couple where they just don't get it. One where I was exluded from all the lunches the team went on and nights out because I don't go out and get out of me tree at least 3 times a week. Its funny that they think that we're narrow minded about our horses but there interests revolve around sitting in fornt of the telly and drinking themselves unconcious.

I've even had collegues moan at me cos I can eat like a horse and not put any weight on, but what do they do when they get home, they don't make it off the couch till bed time!!

I've got 2 horses to ride and shetland, 2 dogs that go to classes, are walked 3 times a day and are therapy dogs, oh and Colin the snake, so I've got plenty to keep my busy and fit.

I just ignore them, if people are so small minded as to not apreciate that people have alsorts of different interests then I don't care what they think of me.
 
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