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Do you tell your OH/family if you fall off but have no serious injuries? I fell off yesterday. I was trotting at the edge of a seemingly empty green in the New Forest when a dog suddenly emerged out of the bushes. Pony shot sideways at warp speed – I didn’t. I have decided not to tell my OH because he will only worry and I am currently trying not to wince when I move around as I have now seized up a bit.

My pony has never spooked so violently before and it was understandable that she did so I don’t want to worry him unnecessarily.

So, do you ever keep anything to yourself?
 
no, i tell everyone and usually have a good laugh about it if it wasnt serious! what are u expecting to happen if you tell him? especially if your pony is known to be so good :) the only time i hold back details is when discussing slightly more dramatic falls to my worrying, non horsey mother :) x
 
why wouldnt you?

Blimey i'd be milking that for all i could 'hunny could you just 'ow' run me a 'ow' bath please, if its not too 'ow' much 'ow' trouble'

Surely they are pretty aware that riding can be dangerous and falls are par to the course?
 
I dont need to tell mine as he`s always with me :D normally pointing and laughing lol :rolleyes: :p but then again he`s the one who fell off at a standstill :D
 
I don't tell my OH either. He isn't horsey and although he's very supportive he thinks horses should behave like machines and thinks anything other than a mild spook is 'dangerous!'
If I've had a bad fall I might tell him, but I minimise it as much as possible i.e. 'I just lost my balance and slithered off', not 'horse reared full height and then bronced resulting in me somersaulting in the air and landing on my back'. He'd only worry!
 
I don't tell him unless its obvious..... eg returning from yard with a black eye, cuts and scrapes, leg in a cast...... and even then i'll play it down.

Again, non horsey OH who thinks horses are DANGEROUS and should be looked at and at most, patted, only. (even though he plays with rally cars, which i consider to be MUCH more dangerous than my horse..... last time he had a crash, he fractured a vertebra in his neck FFS)
 
Yes, I tell him but usually explain why I think it happened and how I could avoid that situation happening again.
Often he's riding with me when a youngster I'm on, does something unpredictable and it alarms him but TBH, it must look worse than it is, because I'm always surprised that it worried him.
However, he's a great guy and appreciates that I'm a grown up and make my own choices. I'm not an unnecessary risk taker,with a sticky bum, so don't come to much harm anyway.
 
My OH is definitely non-horsey and as I am now a 'mature' rider he may think I should take up knitting instead!!!
 
Usually tell him all of them unless its was that uninteresting that its not worth the effort. Funny ones usually get broadcast on FB too!
Parents on the other hand, hardle get told any of them unless i cant avoid it like having a plaster cast on etc!!!
 
I do tell him..but not much sympathy.

i had a bad fall and was in hospital 5 days with concussion in ICU. Doctor told me not to ride again. I did of course, but not really till about 3 years later. (I had trouble walking, driving, talking for a week or two). (That is could not drive). He was quite good and attentive at that stage, but...

The next time i fell off my young daughter was with me, (about 5 or so years later). I drove my self to hospital, as I knew I had concussion, and possible fractures. When I was having trouble staying awake and my daughter thought I was dying, and was panicking.... I got the nurses to call my sister in law who lived 5 mins up the road to pick her up. She of course rang the entire family and told them, my OH was out but he did not feel the need to rush to my bedside... when they let me out about 1.30am, I rang him and he came and picked me up...stood outside the emergency door and did not come in to get me, then told me off on the way home.

I don't think I have had a fall since, I did get a nasty kick, (surprised our quitest old ponies, when i was in a hurry)... flew through the air and had a massive bruise... could barely walk, he had a good laugh at that.
 
i have not told OH that my son has just bought a horse... will tell him it is a loan... if he notices it.

I don t tell him about the money I spend, I dont tell him when I have a lame horse, (although he can usually tell, because I look miserable), if he had his way all the horses would be packed off tomorrow

but he does not tell me every penny he spends either (although I do our accounts so i do find out)

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I know someone who doesn't tell their OH that they've got more than one horse - just tells them it's another livery "

" Why would you do that?..not a good way to be in a relationship. "

Because not every relationship is the same - some OH just do not get horses, and that is ok, but you learn to adapt to what you have and what is ok to share and what is not... if I mention horses to OH severa things may happen his eyes glaze over, he gets angry, he passes out, he decides to cut my allowance, he decides to look at the credit card bill more closely... so I have learnt discretion is the better part of valour
 
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My OH is usually riding with me so he would know and even if he isn't I would always tell, he respects that I'm a grown up who makes my own decisions and even though he's horsey and knows all the risks he supports me even if I have got a particularly difficult horse in. Don't always tell the parents though :-)
 
Yup, always, mostly for comedy value :) and also I'm trying to get him into riding so it's always good to prove that not everyone breaks their neck when they come off a horse.
 
I have to tell him! I have problems with my neck from a previous fall so if anything happens to me, I need someone to know cause of my medical history & he knows what to look out for!

He's very supportive though & would never try stop me riding regardless of the number of falls!
 
I do tell my husband. He would be mortified if I didn't. He has seen me sailing through the air before and has hurt himself in helping me before now as well. I guess it's a trust thing, as well as making sure that someone knows that I have come off, just in case it is ever more serious than I think...

JMHO
 
Slightly different to OH, but I have a very overprotective sister (even though i'm 30!!) I live with her and we have a very close knit family.

When I had a bad fall last year and ended up in surgery for 5 hours, she was beside herself and said I should sell my horse :( She was really worried bless her!! Burst into tears and everything!

So now, if I have a fall, she really doesn't need to know about it!! And god forbit I tell her I've jumped!! lol! It would only make her even more anxious, so no point!! hehe! :)

I generally ride with my mum (who has a horse as well), so if anything happened, mum'd know about it... and we'd probably have a good giggle!! :D
 
I have attempted to keep a fall from my mum but thats coz it was her horse that decided to randomly buck me off and my mum was suffering from a severe lack of confidence so I was worried it would set her back if she believed he was some dangerous beast! In reality I think a fly bit him lol.

She soon found out when she got to the yard!!!

I too would milk it with my other half and get him to do everything :D
 
Normally he is there pointing and laughing (often filming....)

But yes i tell him if he wasnt, regardless or severity.

I had a friend come off one, said she was fine, didnt ache hurt etc found it hilarious, that night she went home, did house work, cooked dinner, did washing, next thing passed out and was rushed to hospital. Luckily she was fine and OH was furious she hadnt told him, even though she'd felt fine at the time!
 
I do.
Not that they care :D
So far I have been bucked off and dumped into a ditch headfirst.
Fallen off over a horses head mid gallop, again headfirst.
Been rodeo'd off twice in 2 weeks.
Been rodeo'd off into a wall.
Slid off sideways bareback in trot :o
They are the falls that I can remember anyway!
I can't say any of my family cared when I turned up home, barely able to walk with a very sore head and probibily concussion a few times..
 
Hmmmm, I dont know if I would? I guess it would depend on severity.

Having not fallen off of horse whilst I've been with him (3yrs) then I don't know! I generally ride before work, so if I fell off, nothing serious, I would probably have forgotten about it by the time I got home that evening lol.

Not bad considering I've broken in a 3yr old in that time, evented, sjed etc. Shows how good my horses are :D

However, if I didn't tell him, it wouldn't be because I was keeping it from him!

bexcy-bee x
 
Mine used to treat it like I was being a total wimp. We rang him 27 times after my last fall, I know this coz my phone record told me. He still didn't come get me. It wasn't till my friend drove me home and I turned up in the living room with no recollection of what happened and my, by now quite frosty with OH, friend told him to take me to hospital that he acknowledged. Too busy on PS. He was very put out at being dragged away from PS and kept telling me there was nothing wrong with me. T

ill we got to hospital and he saw the magic effect of the words; fallen off horse at speed' and 'broken riding hat' in a and e!! They were immediatly very concerned and gave him lots of instructions re concussion. He acknowledged it could have been very serious after that and now tells people proudly how tough I am!

More recently I have been for physio following a car accident and been asked if I have broken my neck in the past as it feels like I have a calcified vertebre typical of such an injury along with a very damaged and thickened ligament. See OH that's what happens when no one takes you to hospital!

He now answers phone by atleast 2nd ring or if he doesn't answer on 1st he calls me straight back, which was handy when I ran car out of petrol recently!!
 
I tell my OH. He is non horsey, but isnt particularly over protective. He did get a bit funny about my previous horse...but he did have reason to. Especially when he came home to find me trying to cook a fathersday bbq for my dad with bad concussion, cuts, bruises and grazes everywhere after my horse went bezerk at a funride!
but with my current horse he is fine! That said i havent fallen off her yet....unless you count the rather interesting dismount when riding her out to the field bareback i got off a bit overzelously and ended up flat on my arse.....when i walked into the house, he just smiled and said "fell off by any chance" i didnt realise i had a really muddy bum that gave the game away!!
 
The last time I fell off was my bad one, in 2007. In hindsight it was probably not the best idea to phone him from 100 miles away to tell him I'd fallen off, was completely alone in the middle of a forest (friend had gone to catch the horse and then wait on edge of forest to direct ambulance), unable to walk and waiting for an ambulance... ;)
 
I'm quite lucky that I've only fallen off once while I've been with my OH (5.5yrs) and he was with me watching me in the manege (which he never normally does-maybe he's bad luck?!) He laughed, I cried in shock then we both laughed, it was a really pathetic loss of balance/plop off the side as me and horsey decided we were going in opposite directions at no particular speed!
I would tell him if I fell off, and most horsey things in general although he's not that interested he puts up with it all, as long as I'm paying for them he doesn't mind!! He shocked me a few months when he agreed to me buying a youngster but I wouldn't get away with any more than I've got, which is fine by me, 3 is plenty for now!!
 
Ohhhhhhh yes I milk it! I say can you make me a cup of tea as I fell off today, and am lucky to be alive lol... he tuts and makes said cup of tea!


Nobody hears the end of it, by the end of the day it will be the worst ever fall, and I will have convinced myself haha
 
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