Do your partners help pay for the horses?

Nope. But if it came to it he would. My parents own the land, so they (mainly dad!) help out with things like fencing at the stables, with us helping with the grunt work.

He does contribute towards my holidays though, as I can't always pay up front - but if he wants me to go with him, plus he earns twice what I do! I do end up paying more for household stuff, we do have a joint account, but only use it for certain bills - I generally pick up shopping etc as he hates the supermarket. :rolleyes:
 
Sophstar said:
after a discussion with my farrier and a few friends they were horrified to find out that my partner doesn't pay a penny towards my 2 boys or offer to help with finances.
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How bizarre. Who have they encountered previously? Or are you a non-worming mum? I'd hate to be financially dependent on my husband; we have plenty of money but I make enough of my own too.
 
We have a joint bank account and have never had your/my money. If my boy needs the vet, farrier, dentist etc I just pay out of it. Never occured to either of us to do anything differently. Maybe we are old fashioned as well as being old!

I can spend on my boy anything he needs but I wouldn't buy things for the sake of it, well, mostly not!!

My OH is very supportive and takes an interest in my boy and mends fences and will bring him in for me and has been known to pick out his feet, (my boy picks his feet up and tells him which one to do next) but draws the line at poo picking.

Jane
 
Sophstar said:
I am simply intrigued to know if anyone else's partners help with the cost of keeping their horses? I have 2 ponies who are bringing in a very large vet bill every month currently with painkillers, blood tests and daily medication and after a discussion with my farrier and a few friends they were horrified to find out that my partner doesn't pay a penny towards my 2 boys or offer to help with finances.

I have never asked or expected him to contribute as they are solely mine and he has no interest at all, but others seem to find this situation odd:rolleyes:
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Absolutly not, the horses are mine and he has nothing to do with them - not interessted what so ever. So I pay for everything myself.:)
 
Nope, and he wouldn't under any circumstances, as I have recently discovered, and he easily could, He'd rather I didn't have any, and he'll probably get his way eventually.
 
My hubby brought me all my horses and they all needed new saddles which he brought me. He pays all the bills mortgage etc I work to pay for my horse and car. He also brought me my trailer and car to tow it with. He doesn't really like horses and moans occasionally how much they cost but as long as im happy so is he.
 
Yes....my 6 horses are kept on the OH's family farm for free. I have taken over a barn for stabling and I have free hay and straw. I am under no illusions as to how lucky I am! He will also pick up the odd bag of food for me if I need it and he is passing the feed store. I offer to pay him back but he won't let me. Also, I have a whopping vets bill on its way due to complications after gelding my youngster....he knows I am worried about this and has offered to help me out. :o
 
My husband doesnt have any interest in neither my cobblet or section A for that matter.He often moans about them YET he was the one who got the bank loan to buy me the cobblet in the 1st place. He says I still owe him £300.00 for getting cobblet broken in. He's got some cheek!!!
 
yes he does and always has, our marriage is a partnership and we are equal partners;) we used to have a joint account but when he went bankrupt that changed and we now have separate accounts but it's never a case of my money/ his money, it's OURS:D
I work part time to boost funds and he's now self employed so will put in long hours when the work is plentiful, he appreciates that i do all the cooking, cleaning, childcare, shopping and laundry, if he dared complain about my hobby he'd be finding himself another wife!!
I am careful with what i spend on the horses though, i don't spend money just to have the latest gadgets etc
 
my OH pay for everything, as i look after the children this is my 'me time' and its said i am happier when i return back home from being at the yard.
 
Im so lucky but not rich i dont work and my partner pays for all four of them. He says if im happy hes happy broke the mould when they made him.
 
Yes, he does do his bit, but them he bought our current pony, so he has to.

My old boy was mine and mine alone, so all bills were mine unless I had no money and then he would help me.

So in short if they are yours I do not see why anyone else should HAVE to pay unless they are helping you out :)
 
We have a joint account but I am doing a degree with the OU so I bring in pennies compared to him as I only wor 10hours a week.

When I met him I had 3 horses and was struggling I ended up selling 2 and now I just have my gelding my OH doesn't mind paying for him. He works away and likes knowing I have 'me time' sort of thing :)
 
my partner bought a bag of reduced to clear 19p mini carrot at co-op once and hmmm let me think....... well, that's it!

I'm definitely going to show him this post though! but honestly I would hate it if he paid for my horse expenses (I do get horsey christmas/birthday present), even if I desperately need it and it would help a lot, I'm way too proud to ask him for money. we earn about the same, and I have borrowed money from him in the past but always paid him back, similarly I don't expect my parents to pay for my horse either (I got my horse when I was 22)

I use his car for towing and even if I'm only going down the road I always pay him for the fuel I use.
 
My OH has already said when I eventually get a horse he'll help pay for it. I think he actually offered to buy it! But he will always have the better paying job and he'd like to learn to ride so it'd benefit him too. Although in that case I'd probably want another horse for him! Out of principle I would prefer to pay for the horse myself but I doubt I'll be able to afford it without him. He knows it's my release and it's good for my mental state so he's happy to pay towards it if it means I'm happy, and less likely to get annoyed with him!
 
I generally cover everything but there's been the odd occasion when he's helped out and he's changed his lifestyle to accommodate mine (he seems to like it though!). he's my husband, we are a partnership :) he wouldn't say no if I needed help and he could give it. if we got into dire straits all but one would go if needs be, I would not put the horses before relationship etc.
 
He doesn't pay anything towards mine but that's because he isn't able to work as he's disabled. When he was working he gave my horse £1000 for Christmas, not me, the horse!

He can't really get involved with the horses but loves to buy bits and pieces for them, he would spend a lot on them if he could.
 
Apart from buying me my first horse for my 30th birthday present my hubby doesn't pay for my horse, but then he pays most of the bills and I pretty much just work to feed us, pay for my horse and Childcare. He has his own expensive hobby to pay for so I wouldn't expect him to pay towards Matilda.
 
I think it's lovely so many of you have supportive OHs, it must be a great comfort when things get rough. I would never have expected mine to pay for anything, but I admit I wish he'd kick in an extra bit toward the household, especially as he earns so much more than me. It would mean so much to me
 
My hubby and I have a joint account therefore by default he pays for an element of the horses keep,but not sure how much.Sometimes he moans about the cost of keeping them all,but other times he's not to bothered.
 
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