Does anyone mind there gelding being turned out with a mare?

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Just wondering does anyone have a problem with mares and geldings being turned out together? Last yard they were seperate and there was always horses coming in with kicks etc Now at new yard we have 1 small field so mares and geldings together. Put my mare out with about 4 geldings this morn, everything was fine none of the geldings really cared next thing i no the owner of one of the geldings that was out started having a go at my little sister so i went and asked her problem. (Another livery had rang her and told her my mare was out). She basically said she doesnt like mares out with her horse (didnt tell me this before) as it causes conflict and she doesnt want her horse breaking a leg!! I told her that iv had a horse with a broken leg and im not stupid if there had of been any bother then she would have came in but there wasnt a problem. So im really annoyed now and i will turn my horse out when and how i please tbh she also had a go at another mare owner for the same thing, so mare owner went to the boss and he said turn out as you please! No one else has a problem apart from her!! Am i being bitchy here?? Shes only out for like 3hrs :confused:
 
If the turnout is mixed then she'll just have to lump it. They all go out together on my yard and we've never had any problems. The worst that ever happens is someone comes in from the field with the odd bite mark, but that's normal and would happen in single-sex herds as well. Tbh my mare can be a grumpy cow but I've found that she's much happier and more settled in a mixed herd.
 
I`d love to be able to turn my gelding out with my mares, it`s my dream lol sadly he`s a bit riggy and one of my mares is a tart so for now they`re ketp apart....dont see what peoples problems are with mixed sex herds
 
I think it depends a lot on the gelding. My gelding has always been turned out with mares and has never been any problem even when they were in season, but perhaps this woman's gelding gets silly when mares are in season and she's worried. If there's only one field she'll either have to let it go or move if she's that concerned, couldn't she section off an area or something? I guess you'll only be able to tell what the gelding's like when your mare comes into season (I assume she isn't atm).
 
I don't think there's a problem with having geldings with mares. We've very often put mares in with geldings.. never had any more problems than when its just been geldings.. Dont get why it would cause problems :confused:
 
Well i dont feel like such a cow now lol ... Yeap one very small field, well theres one were we go over the motor way bridge which were moving to next week but then we cant use the one were in now as it will be rolled and reseeded. Apparently she wants a rota :rolleyes: but personally i think 3 hrs a day isnt alot considering there not allowed out over night!! And now my friends wee gelding that moved with us has become protective of her (he wasnt out when said womans horse was) so if a new gelding comes near he basically warns them off and everythings fine but another livery will now not put her gelding out when hes out with my mare in fear he will get kicked!! So friend is getting a bit peved now as the woman wants him in whilst hers is out for an hour arghhhhhh!!
 
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i like my lad being turned out with mares. He's a cocky, cheeky personality and i love how the main mare puts manners on him!
 
I have only been on one yard where they were kept separate and it was a night mare. They all behaved like a bunch on teenagers. Geldings all charging around and having play fights and being a bunch of thugs and the mares stood round pulling faces and bitching at each other!!!

I would just tell her, if she doesn't want her's out with mares, she should find some where, where they are kept separately. Have you mentioned what she said the the YO?
 
We are supposed to keep mares and gelding seperate on our yard but my three year old gelding keeps jumping the fence! I don't think he's a rig but he does seem to like the girls better. They were all flirting with him the other day and he looked very grumpy being dragged out of a circle of female admirers by his ear! :) His breeder kept them in mixed herds at the stud he was born at.
 
MinskiKaii said:
I have only been on one yard where they were kept separate and it was a night mare. They all behaved like a bunch on teenagers. Geldings all charging around and having play fights and being a bunch of thugs and the mares stood round pulling faces and bitching at each other!!!

I would just tell her, if she doesn't want her's out with mares, she should find some where, where they are kept separately. Have you mentioned what she said the the YO?
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ETS I agree RE seperating them you have basically described my old yard there ^^^ which resulted in my gelding breaking a leg so tbh accidents happen weather its geldings out with geldings or mares no difference to me!!
Iv been at the yard not even 3 weeks shes been there a few years :o But i have been told she has caused arguments in the past, sure she told me im not allowed to leave a bucket of haylage outside my mares door as her horse gets upset!! Her OH does the photography at all the shows so she aint going anywere. I havent mentioned it to YO yet but i might later. She had a go at the other mare owner yeaterday for the same thing so that mare owner went to YO and he said its mixed turnout so dont take notce of her! But its kinda hard not to when she comes ranting at you :eek:
 
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I was once on a yard that had mares and geldings out separately. It was such a ridiculous setup as you were paired with other mare or gelding owners in shared fields and it caused so many problems. The more insane thing was I had two of each who were used to being out altogether in a field and yet I was made to pair up with other owners and mine were not to be turned out together. It was a needs must to move there and as soon as I could I was off and all of mine are happily together and are quite a well balanced group and will happily play together or just mooch around and never any injuries like when they were seperate.
 
My gelding has been turned out with a mare for the last year and a half. In his new field next week he will be out with another mare. Not bothered at all.
 
My mare's out with my 2 geldings, although the geldings are only 2 years old and one of them is the mares son, not sure if this has any bearing on the effect as a herd, but they get on very well, the mare rules, the boys are kept in order, no kicking etc, and the boys still have each other to play!
 
I would continue to turn her out in the field with geldings - Its not your problem that her gelding dosen't like mares ;)

It's up to her to come up with a comprimise or similar, you guys have restricted grass anyhows!

Lol We turn geldings out with mares all the time, infact we have one very hormonal mare-in-foal turned out with a gelding atm ;)

And I have found having a mare a field of geldings is much more settled, rather than a group of geldings who tend to play more :)
 
Fany is a mare turned out at present with 4 geldings. But there is no way I would want Captain in a field with mares, he hates them. The exception being Fany, he is stabled next door to him and they generally get on fine. I think it is down to the mare and gelding, some, like one on our yard is fantastic with mares and loves them. But some don't like mares and find them too aggressive. As ever down to individual horse.
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only_me said:
I would continue to turn her out in the field with geldings - Its not your problem that her gelding dosen't like mares ;)

It's up to her to come up with a comprimise or similar, you guys have restricted grass anyhows!

Lol We turn geldings out with mares all the time, infact we have one very hormonal mare-in-foal turned out with a gelding atm ;)

And I have found having a mare a field of geldings is much more settled, rather than a group of geldings who tend to play more :)
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I think i will still put her out regardless and in the process probably get more harassment from said person tbh. Apparently her horse got kicked by another gelding last year when there was a mare out but i think shes being ott!! Her horse doesnt mind and my mare is as sweet as pie, when im over protective i put boots on not harass (I like that word :p) liveries!!
 
My gelding goes out with a mare all the time... he can go out with other geldings, but he and this particular mare are devoted to each other. If one goes out before the other, it will wait at the gate until the other arrives... if either goes out with another horse instead they just wander off!

Another gelding on our yard was out of work due to mouth sores, so the mare got turned out with him instead of Monty, and Monty was incredibly grumpy for the few days seeing the mare go out with someone else! (He still went out but with a different horse).

He'll turn out with absolutely anything because all he's interested in is eating, but he and this particular mare adore each other, it's very cute. They're fine even when she's in season.
 
Ok just went to get my mare in and feed and said woman has had a complete attitude transplant and was super nice to me!!! She said she'll give me her number and if im putting my mare out i can text her and bring her gelding in or she'll put my mare out!! But apparently she has been told previously by YO that it is mixed turnout and she has to basically deal with it!! So she cant go to YO anyway so her only way around it is to be nice (well thats what im thinking anyway). The part that really annoyed me was the fact she started on my 15yr sister and not me :mad: and the other mare owner who she started on was i think 14-15!! So i dont know weather to be nice or go for the "il turn my mare out when i please" route:confused:
 
I think she was probably just trying to establish her position and now she knows you won't stand for it she will take the nice route.

I would be nice back as it is far easier to have no conflict at the yard. Just thank her for the offer but it doesn't mean to say that you have to take her up on it. Go about business as you normally would but let her know that you appreciate her offering to put your mare out for you. If you are nice and civil she will be easier to deal with in the future. I make it my mission to be friendly with everyone on the yard and try to get off on the right foot which usually works out well but only change my mind on people if something happens.
 
I've always mixed mine. Only time I had any problem was when a Welsh D I had (who'd been gelded late) began trying to mount my shetland when in season! She's too old for that nowadays so never been any issues.
 
TBH I don't understand why this livery is having a go at other liveries directly about their horse/s going out with hers; particularly if there's only one big field at the yard. Surely her gripe is with the YO who she'd need to ask to set up a strict turnout schedule for everyone to adhere to or to divide the field into two small paddocks? Or, I guess... she could just ask the YO to kick all mare owners off the yard just so her boy is 'safe'??!

Are there any other mares on the yard ATM? What do they do? And would all the other liveries on the yard (who are using the same field as you guys) be happy with the implementation of scheduled turnout times simply because this one girl has an issue with a mare going out with her boy? Or, equally, would they be happy having the current grazing divided into two?

I'm not saying this girl's wrong in her gripe but realistically if she chose to be at a yard with only one small field for shared turnout and with no 'turnout rota' set by the YO, then she's more or less accepting a mixed turnout regime. If it turns out that she can't get what she needs set up at this yard, she'll just need to look for another yard with more grazing and/or segregated paddocks. It's really not YOUR problem - although it might be down the line when your mare comes into season and starts flirting with the boys. Frankly, mine's a pain in the &^$" for 5 days out of every month and I have to keep her in and away from the boys she's turned out with.
 
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My mare and gelding have lived together for the last three years with no problems what so ever,they are a right Mrs and Mrs.I am toying with the idea of another horse but i wouldn't want to break the pair bond up.
 
Spyda said:
TBH I don't understand why this livery is having a go at other liveries directly about their horse/s going out with hers; particularly if there's only one big field at the yard. Surely her gripe is with the YO who she'd need to ask to set up a strict turnout schedule for everyone to adhere to or to divide the field into two small paddocks? Or, I guess... she could just ask the YO to kick all mare owners off the yard just so her boy is 'safe'??!

Are there any other mares on the yard ATM? What do they do? And would all the other liveries on the yard (who are using the same field as you guys) be happy with the implementation of scheduled turnout times simply because this one girl has an issue with a mare going out with her boy? Or, equally, would they be happy having the current grazing divided into two?

I'm not saying this girl's wrong in her gripe but realistically if she chose to be at a yard with only one small field for shared turnout and with no 'turnout rota' set by the YO, then she's more or less accepting a mixed turnout regime. If it turns out that she can't get what she needs set up at this yard, she'll just need to look for another yard with more grazing and/or segregated paddocks. It's really not YOUR problem - although it might be down the line when your mare comes into season and starts flirting with the boys. Frankly, mine's a pain in the &^$" for 5 days out of every month and I have to keep her in and away from the boys she's turned out with.
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The field is very small tbh id say about 30x60 arena sized field. There are 5 mares including mine but only mine and one other got out regularly (about 3hrs per day) the others dont get turned out. Shes the only one with this problem know one else cares if a mare is out. Tbh i cant tell when my mares in season as shes the exact same and doesnt seem to become flirty etc
 
NicoleS_007 said:
The field is very small tbh id say about 30x60 arena sized field. There are 5 mares including mine but only mine and one other got out regularly (about 3hrs per day) the others dont get turned out. Shes the only one with this problem know one else cares if a mare is out. Tbh i cant tell when my mares in season as shes the exact same and doesnt seem to become flirty etc
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With a turnout area that small it's not feasible to divide it, obviously. Sounds to me as if this other livery will need to arrange for her horse to go out during the other 21 hours yours ISN'T! Since she's the only one with the problem, she's the one who should put herself out to accommodate what it is SHE wants. Sounds fair to moi! If you're only turning out a max of 3 hours a day, I'd just tell her what hours your mare will be being turned out (try and keep it a regular time, to be fair) then ignore her as far as you can - and just carry on as you are :)
 
We have two geldings and my mare in a field, they follow her around like love sick puppies, both before together had been top dog but my mares now the top.

If there not causeing a probllem I don't see why the mare shouldn't be out with them.
At a previous yard she ended up with one gelding taking her as his mare and really bullying the others if they got anywere near her, to the point it was getting bad so had to seperate then. But normally we mix as have nomore then 4 anyway :)
 
My Mare and Gelding live out together as a pair very happily, I've come across people at yard who say they shouldnt be turned out together but i have never had an issue with it myself...
 
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