Does anyone think they are a rubbish rider

R2R said:
I do!! I keep thinking I really should be a lot better than I am. I am very defensive :(

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Im extremely lucky that we have a AI on the yard and i have lessons from her. She is great. she builds my confidence. I have strenghts and development points in my riding. We are alllllll learning - from William Fox Pitt to the novice at the riding school.
 
Yep- but to be honest i dont give a toss.... I dont need to be an "amazing" rider to do a bit of schooling/hacking.... I just enjoy it- as you should! :)
 
Hehe. All the time!! I get especially self-conscious at a show, but I think that's the nature of the horsey world. You always worry that people are slating you behind your back and you're usually right. No wonder we get paranoid!:p
 
Am sure most of us do at some point or another. I certainly will after my complete failure to ride a prelim dressage test tonight and ending up with 50%. Love my XC and SJ but somehow find dressage the most stressful thing ever. You have to remember what your strenghts are, keep learning and accept that some things will always be not quite right.
 
Yes and I keep making the mistake of telling everyone too so's they all know but HONESTLY go to a show without a horse and sit and watch (even BE and BSJA). Guaranteed you will feel much better. I think we are just realistic and self aware but should NOT put ourselves down like other post. Loads of good qualities and I know my horse would pick 60cm with me over Advanced 3DE with competition rider. Bet yours too.
 
I know. Take this pic (below) I think I look all defensive. I approach a jump and I dont believe my horse is going to jump it. Trouble is I should. He is quirky but talkented...I just dont think I have the ability with him.

I adore him though.

I am terrified about taking him to a show as it is bad enough at home, but thats the reason I bought him

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I am total rubbish! I used to be good :D In my defence I have had 2 very barren years through illness/accident etc but I beat myself up every time I get on him :(

My problem is a total lack of fitness.

My friend (Who is riding him for me at the mo) said the other day "He (my horse) makes me feel like Carl Hester"

My reply was "He makes me feel like crap" :D He is way too good for me :D
 
I wouldn't say I was a rubbish rider...that would be a tad harsh :D but I could certainly benefit from weekly lessons to make me a good rider, there is a lot I don't know and with all the years I've been riding, I should know more than I do if you see what I mean, if I ...or should I say my horses, were stabled at a competition type livery then I'd feel more of an urge to improve and I'd take advantage of a regular tuition, then I'd be a better rider, basically I could do with someone pointing out my faults!

Just because one can stay on a horse, doesn't mean one can ride well. :D
 
I've been hacking before I could walk (literally!!) so always thought I certainly can ride but I don't know the technical stuff and put me on anything but my lad and I go to jelly!! BUT on Friday I had my first lesson with a qualified AI...and she said I was a much better rider than I though I was which was a lovely thing to hear!! Don't get me wrong we've got ALOT to work on but it was nice to know I wasn't just getting by on luck alone. I usually look at the other liveries and wish I was as confident as they are but when I offered someone to have a go on my cob one girl I thought was very confident said no way cos he scared her and she didn't know how I coped with his messing around in the fields (he likes to bounce and have a gallop)...I LOVE that side of him and he most definately doesn't scare me!!.

So guess we don't know what others are feeling.
 
I do!
But, TBH, I dont need to be a great rider all I want to do is have fun. I have been with current pony for 6 weeks and I adore him already. My only concern with my bad riding is that I will affect his way of going and that I will spoil him. But, he is an ex riding school who is dead to the leg poor boy, so perhaps the relatonship between us, and voice/seat aids, will do us better than delicate refined leg aids anyway LOL

I mean look at this for example. What ARE my toes doing? This is common for me not just an outtake!! hope that makes you feel better (I suck :D)


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I have a new horse and I suddenly feel very pathetic and a complete bloody nervous wreck. I think I have good stick-ability, but I find getting used to a new horse, really REALLY hard.
 
I have "ridden" since I was a little girl. (Now 30+ years!!!!) From the beggining sitting on my Grandads huge mare following him around the field, to learning at various riding schools as I grew up, and into adulthood. Tbh I considered myself to be a pretty good rider. Then aged 35 I finally realised my dream and bought my own horse and started having lessons from "real" instructors. And pretty quickly realised that all the years spent at riding schools had actually taught me very little. So yes I do occaisonally think I'm a rubbish rider and when I'm having a low period I have thought that my horse is wasted with someone like me. But I love my boy and I love having fun with him. He's an ex-racer and had a pretty tough start to life and since being with me he's changed so much. (all for the better) I get loads of compliments on how he looks, how relaxed he is now and how much he seems to enjoy his new life. I now mostly think "who cares" if we're never going to be world beaters and I'm certainly never going to be the next Mary king. Life really is too short!
 
Better than thinking you are a great rider when your not like some people think, nothing wrong with having some self doubt as you can always strive to improve.

I wouldn't say I was totally rubbish, afterall, I seem to stay on most of the time ;) I ride to my ability, am a happy hacker and ride a horse who seems suited to me. I would say I am a competent novice as I have my own kind of style going on, which seems effective. Gone are the days when I would get on anything and not bat an eyelid. Noooooooo. Archie is the only horse I would ever ride now and he puts up with my shortcomings wonderfully.

If I have one wish it would be to have the facilities to be able to have some lessons and Tarrsteps on here is the person I would call, she is fab.
 
Mee! All my own fault really and I could be far better but for a number of excuses! :o

Didn't have lessons from the age of about 7-12 and any riding I did was hacking or random jumping with no structure... Then at 15 moved over here and had the shock of regularish lessons again, but buggered joints/the lure of just hacking stopped that and now my position/effectiveness is shot to bits due to pretty much only having one useful leg and no lessons for years...

I can bimble about hacking and stick on most things so I'm happy enough but I should really get back into it... :o
 
Me!!!! But thanks to everyones post I am now feeling soooo much better about myself. I too did the riding school stuff as a kid, own pony as a teenager who was a fantastic boy who taught me to ride. Then nothing for many years..... Then 3 years ago I got a youngster (crazy thing to do) who has had many problems (beaten, broken ribs, scared of everyone and everything!) had him rebroken twice, the first time was told to get rid he was dangerous:confused:
Now 3 years later we are slowly progressing, more down to lack of time really but I can sit to his sharp sideward decamps now and so far (fingers crossed) we are getting there. I too think that I am letting him down, he is or at least could be really talented but I am not competitive, so hacking is where we are at. I also think I should get some lessons but again it worries me that I will get an instructor that just makes me feel even more c"*> about myself.

But I love him and am in no rush, least we will be old together lol
 
I have low confidence about my riding ability, despite being repeatedly told to stop being daft by people on the yard and trendybraincell! I enjoy my pony though, and at the end of the day that's what matters.
 
Yes, but I don't just think I am, I know I am!

However, with my horse currently giving me a hard time I've realised I really need to step up to the mark and am starting a campaign of intensive riding and lessons to step up to the mark.

Slight daunting!
 
I'm about as rubbish as anyone can get. I fall off with monotonous regularity and with increasing dire consequences - last time I broke my back!! The injury has meant enforced rest during which time I'm losing weight, getting fitter and praying I'll improve when I start again. The only way is up >g<
 
I am total rubbish - every time I get pro photos at shows my horse always looks amazing, the jumps and background look amazing and then all i can see is a total twit on top with either my elbows or toes sticking out or I have my mouth wide open - very annoying!
 
Hahaha...I can't ride for toffee!! I used to be ok when I had regular lessons but now I'm unfit and all I do is plod around the forest. My horse doesn't care, we're both a bit lacking in skill but full of enthusiasm! Who cares as long as you and your horse are happy. Maybe I'll book a lesson for next week?! x
 
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