Does your OH/partner like your horse?

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Does your OH/partner like your horse?
Do they get jealous?

When i first met my OH he came riding with me all last summer, and then suddenly things changed he wouldn't come to yard never mind ride. (He's not scared, nothing happened to "put him off" as I believe.

Rather confusing and upsetting, he'd rather play with the dog.
H is really fond of my OH and when he does come see him he just follows him about the fields, he's very good for him to ride, (he's never rode before), I can't see the problem.
Whenever anyone mentions him coming to the yard he says he does "sometimes" and he rides....er nope not anymore you don't!!

I like that he has his own thing to do & I have mine, but I show an interest in his hobbies he doesn't give a hoot about mine. I booked a lesson late on an evening and asked him to come watch, he spent the entire lesson playing on his phone which just pi$$ed me off even more!! :(
 
Mine likes Nitty ok. Not that keen on BH.

He doesn't watch me ride or compete though. Infact he only comes to the yard if I need DIY doing. He has his own hobbies to be getting on with so I just leave him to it. I quite like having something of my own to enjoy.
 
Thankfully mine has always been supportive of me having horses and eventually suggested we moved so we could keep the horses at home, since then he's got to know them all much better he's not very knowledgable but he tries and loves them. He goes out to the field every Sunday with a bag of carrots for them! He never begrudges the time I spend with them, only time we rush things is on Christmas day when we're off to visit his mum, so he helps so it gets done quicker.

In return I dont complain about the hours he spends watching football.
 
My OH will come to the yard now and again maybe once a week to help out, and will come to shows most of the time, it isn't his hobby its mine so I dont expect him to show the same drive and enthusiasm for it that I do, I don't ever ask for him to watch me ride as for him thats like watching paint dry, he has however tried to help me practice dressage tests by calling them but as he doesn't know alot will often be too far in front or behind. He will also put jumps up and down for me, but they are also hard to explain ie upright, double, spread, related just means nothing to a non horsey person.
We have a dog so often he will walk the dog and I will ride the horse and that works well.
 
Being jealous of a horse seems an odd reaction and very immature. How old are you and your OH?

My bf is allergic to horses :rolleyes: however he is happy to come to the yard when I need help (ie when it snowed and there was lots of heavy work to do, getting water to the field) He also spent much of Xmas break accompanying me and my 4 year old on hacks when I needed a walker.

I would think he'd really like to see my riding lessons, but as they happen on Friday afternoons then he is busy working. I expect that he'll come along some times once we are out competing; he enjoys watching horse sports and had been to watch eventing before we met. He is also rather hooked after I took him to the local P2P a little while ago. I am worried his mother will think I've got him into gambling. :D

I find it really odd that a bloke would be jealous of a horse/hobby. My bf really encourages me with my hobby and knows how happy it makes me. Equally, he has his own interests, which I also enjoy hearing him talk about.
 
Mine is jealous of the horse as he works away all week, so he thinks on a weekend we should have time together, however im competing or riding and wont stop just for him (yes i am selfish-but he knows this and weve been together ages) therfore he comes to watch me ride if competing or having lessons and will also come to yard to see the horses too.
 
I should clarify that although mine doesn't really come to watch me ride, he is amazingly supportive from a distance. He likes me having the nags as they make me happy and lends me money quite often to buy things. he lent me the money to buy Nits and he just lent me the money to buy my trailer too. I don't take him not wanting to sit in the cold and watch me ride as him not wanting me to have the horses. We've been together long enough now that we can spend time apart doing our own things without either of us throwing a paddy! I very rarely watch him row because it is blooming cold so why would he watch me ride?!
 
Mine has always been really supportive even taking some groundwork lessons so he could handle the beast if I was ill and he needed to bring in and muck out etc.

However since V-man has been on full livery I have noticed his support takes a total nose dive in the winter and gets better once it is warm and sunny.

Can't say I actually blame him :-)
 
Well considering mine bought my mare for us - I say us, but he has no designs on riding her but he loves being around horses. He bought more or less everything for her that I didn't have already and is constantly telling me "I'm off to see those three" (my mare and our two companions) I'd say he loves them just as much as me :)
He'd always come to watch me compete if I ever did, but doesn't come to watch me ride - although I can always rely on his help with stable duties, he'll even go up to do her himself when she was on livery.
He's pretty perfect :)
 
Mine is very supportive, but not at all horsey and is a bit afraid of them. He did learn to ride (I taught him), and sits very well but just isn't into it. Fair enough, it's not for everyone and you either "get it" or you don't.
 
Yes he does. He always asks how my horse is doing and when he comes to the yard he come to talk to him and feed him mints. He even came down every day with me when I needed someone to hold my weird old horse while I attempted to sort a mounting issue. He was brilliant with her, and was as fond of her as I was even though she was a PITA. :)
 
Mine doesn't resent the horses, but does resent the time they take a little bit, typical man as it's mostly around what time dinner is put on the table! I don't ask him for money for them at all, but sometimes if he wants to do something else together that I can't afford, he'll pay for that.

However, he has no interest in the horses, other than the fact they make me happy. He will sometimes come out walking when I am hacking if the weather is nice, Especially if I box over somewhere else. He'll come watch any competition I ask him to, but I don't tend to ask. His definitions - Jumping or poncing? :) He'll sometimes volunteer to come and watch jumping, SJing or XC. Dressage (poncing) he finds very, very dull. :)

For some reason his favorite thing to do around them is coming XC schooling, where he's got the camera and the dog and the loose horse catching job and I can be a lot more sociable, but then I don't do that when the weather is shocking!

He has his things to do, I have mine, mine just take more time and money. :D
 
He luuurves her...... :rolleyes: and she luurves him :rolleyes: mainly because he is as soft as grease when it comes to treats :rolleyes:

Seriously we share our horse and both care for her and ride her so he'd blooming well better like her!
 
Mine has met pony twice, he was interested to meet him and see where I go but that was it. He doesn't have a horsey bone in his body, up on the moors he stonks on over to the ponies expecting them to allow him to pat them whilst I am stood behind him in despair holding the camera but having nothing left to take photos of!

I am actually really enjoying him not taking an interest. My ex was really controlling and he also loved the ponies my boy and my boy loved him too and it seemed great but it ended up he always wanted to come up then after 5 mins "I'm bored" and I'd never get to do what I wanted, if I went without him he moaned I was out too long and I always felt I was in a rush to get back so as not to have an atmosphere at home yet when I confronted him it got turned around on me (you don't realise what's going on til you're out of it do you).

It is so refreshing that I go up after work, get home whenever I want and have absolutely no questions asked, no "what time will you be back" and if I am a little later than normal nothing is said and sometimes dinner is almost waiting!

I guess if there was one thing I didn't like about him not being interested it would be that if I get home on a high because me and pony did something exciting, new, fun or whatever I try and tell him and just get a blank face!!
 
He's besotted! He used to help me out with my old horse, and never begrudged time spent with her, even though she was a bit of a one-person horse and pulled a lot of horrible faces at him.

Five years after she died, he suddenly came up with the idea of buying another, and though I am not as mobile as I was, I let him persuade me. Of course, the horse is totally unsuitable, I haven't ridden for 7 years, OH can't (couldn't) ride at all, and the horse hasn't been sat on for a year.

But he is a lovely horse, though big, and OH can't spend enough time with him, even if it's skipping the field out with Murphy as his shadow. He also takes him for walks around and about. And he has started lessons, he's a natural, and although he has only had two half hour lessons he is already trotting around the school.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ff9QwHbzcl0

Murphy is booked in to boarding school, where we will find out if he is as quiet to ride as we have been told, and suitable for a middle aged couple, one who can (could) ride, if I should get a look in, and one who is determined.

We are all three very happy! Even if it does turn out that Murphy is a rather large and expensive pet!!!!!!:eek:
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He's super supportive and loves the Red (gave him a kiss on the nose once and it shocked me!). All surprising really as 18 months ago he was scared of horses and now goes to muck out/turn out for me so I can lie in. He also stands and chats/watches me ride in all weathers/takes pics!

I'm also mega proud as he's learning to ride and can now canter (I go and watch him if I'm not at work). If Red was bigger and not on 3 months box rest I'd be happy for him to ride him too :D

I am blumming lucky I know :D One day we'll get to hack out together ;)
 
My OH hates the horses, the money i spend and the time I spend on them. He did not start out like that, used to take an interest, went riding and had lessons, but he always had other interests, he really only took an interest to please me I guess. Bought me a 4WD, a trailer and a horse property and hates them even more than before. I guess he mostly hates seeing the money go. Plus the fact that owning horses does not really make me any happier than not owning them ( I am too busy working to enjoy my horses etc).
 
Equinus said:
He's besotted! He used to help me out with my old horse, and never begrudged time spent with her, even though she was a bit of a one-person horse and pulled a lot of horrible faces at him.

Five years after she died, he suddenly came up with the idea of buying another, and though I am not as mobile as I was, I let him persuade me. Of course, the horse is totally unsuitable, I haven't ridden for 7 years, OH can't (couldn't) ride at all, and the horse hasn't been sat on for a year.

But he is a lovely horse, though big, and OH can't spend enough time with him, even if it's skipping the field out with Murphy as his shadow. He also takes him for walks around and about. And he has started lessons, he's a natural, and although he has only had two half hour lessons he is already trotting around the school.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ff9QwHbzcl0

Murphy is booked in to boarding school, where we will find out if he is as quiet to ride as we have been told, and suitable for a middle aged couple, one who can (could) ride, if I should get a look in, and one who is determined.

We are all three very happy! Even if it does turn out that Murphy is a rather large and expensive pet!!!!!!:eek:
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what a lovely chap, you can express post him here, if you like
 
Mine has no interest what so ever (plus he is allergic to them), twice I have got him up on mine. The odd occasion he will come up with me & thats only if we are out & I need to stop of at the yard to feed/check them. If anything he can't stand them so we don't talk about them :(
 
Natz88 said:
Mine has no interest what so ever (plus he is allergic to them), twice I have got him up on mine. The odd occasion he will come up with me & thats only if we are out & I need to stop of at the yard to feed/check them. If anything he can't stand them so we don't talk about them :(
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Ditto. But then I don't like motorbikes or tatoos so we're even :D
 
See his hobby is Football.
I love football. Been to see him play, and we've been to watch Lpool @ Anfield a few times.
Ohwell huge domestic this am i guess i won't have to worry about it now :D


ETA he's 26 im 22!
 
I have the perfect horsey partner, although would be better if he rode I guess then I would always have a hacking partner. He will help me muck out or do it for me if i can't. He can now handle all 3 horses and has even taught naughtily pony some manners, and this is after being to scared to even lead them at the beginning. He takes time off work to help me take them to the vet, comes to all shows, came to Olympia and even sat through a confidence presentation by Charlie Unwin at Hartpury to keep me company. He likes to see how the horses are going so will watch a bit of a lesson but does get bored so just takes himself off home and picks me up when I'm ready. Sometimes I feel I would like it to myself a bit more but he loves being around the horses so I can't begrudge him.
 
Mr Moose and my BF had a love hate relationship. Moose likes to annoy him then hide behind me when he gets cross. (BF is a barefoot trimmer and resently Moose tried to knock him out with a front leg) Moose constantly gives him wedgies and is a pain in the bum....But deep down Andy loves him too......we were together when Mr. Moose joined the family. Andy does not come to watch me ride at home but always comes when we take him to a friends house or when we go to your first show (in April)
he is very supportive and has gone to look after Mr M when I have been ill love my BF
 
My partner has met my horse twice in the two years I've owned him (the horse not the partner!), and they got on very well together, but it's not his passion, just as x-box isn't mine! We have shared interests and we have seperate intrests, my horse is one of those which is seperate, and we're both happy with that. Sure it would be great if he took a sudden liking to mucking out stables in the depths of winter, but that's not going to happen, just like I'm not about to embark on an x-box marathon in 'the man cave', would much rather be shoveling... :)
 
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