Dont want to be clingy. but........ sold him ............ and...

Mudmudgloriusmud. You have hit the nail on the head bigtime :) I still remember my very good friend on the forum rosiefronflen, she had as many people know health issues, also she would take issue with any poster, including me that's how I got to know her, so yes many a friendship is born and I miss her very very much, and mrsd123/misstoel may need help or some friends on here.
 
Shysmum said:
thanks BB - need to call mine asap , lol !

edit - MUD - i do not need to justify myself to anyone, and do not care what you think. The help is out there if needed, and I am sure the poster is not expecting help thru this horse forum - wrong place to look.

You need to calm down. You cannot change people's actions or opinions, as much as you may want to. You will grind yourself into a hole. Live and let live. people have to fight their own real (or imaginary) battles.

ps, I am bipolar. And proud of it.
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Did I ask you to justify yourself? You are as entitled to your opinion on this as any other....and so am I.

I don't need to calm down, I am concerned for a fellow human beings welfare, that is all.

As the saying goes, "Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference." I feel that by offering this person an ear I can change her perception of her situation. Yes, help is all around us, but when you are feeling the lowest of the low, are you really going to seek it out? I didn't.

Your pride in your Bi Polar is admirable, but does not negate your rudeness.
 
Shysmum said:
Mental Health is way beyond the remit of this forum, trust me ! I send out love to the poster if required, but the help she needs, IF she needs it is not to be found here.

And mental health is FAR from a taboo subject for a lot of sufferers - we are only too happy to explain what is going on. If I can help one single person then I will.
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Yes I agree this forum is not the place but if someone showing/expressing unsound mind on forum, isn't it better they get offer of support then none at all
 
Shysmum said:
thanks BB - need to call mine asap , lol !

edit - MUD - i do not need to justify myself to anyone, and do not care what you think. The help is out there if needed, and I am sure the poster is not expecting help thru this horse forum - wrong place to look.

You need to calm down. You cannot change people's actions or opinions, as much as you may want to. You will grind yourself into a hole. Live and let live. people have to fight their own real (or imaginary) battles.

ps, I am bipolar. And proud of it.
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You make good points and everybody on a forum should be aware that not everything they read is quite as it seems.

Unfortunately, somebody decided they couldn't "live and let live" when an inadvertent turn of phrase was used and they decided to make it an issue.

So now the OP is in limbo and whatever the reason for the thread, reality or fantasy, it can't be resolved for either them, by getting some attention, or for those reading who aren't sure what to make of it all.
 
In that case, the only thing to do is to let go (but with compassion). There is no sense to be made of it, therefore you just have to let go. What will be will be.
 
Oh god this has just gotten ridiculous!! I'm out as someone who has suffered for 15 years with mental health issues this sort of thing really annoys me. People spitting toys out the pram and trying to force guilt trips on people for not excusing behaviour of a poster. Honestly.
 
Black Beastie said:
Oh god this has just gotten ridiculous!! I'm out as someone who has suffered for 15 years with mental health issues this sort of thing really annoys me. People spitting toys out the pram and trying to force guilt trips on people for not excusing behaviour of a poster. Honestly.
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Uggh everything you write seems barbed and aggressive. Another one for the UI list I think.
 
Black Beastie said:
Oh god this has just gotten ridiculous!! I'm out as someone who has suffered for 15 years with mental health issues this sort of thing really annoys me. People spitting toys out the pram and trying to force guilt trips on people for not excusing behaviour of a poster. Honestly.
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I've not commented on this thread so far (mainly because I couldn't make head nor tail of what was going on for the best part!) but I'm totally with Black Beastie and Shysmum on this one.
 
Black Beastie said:
Oh god this has just gotten ridiculous!! I'm out as someone who has suffered for 15 years with mental health issues this sort of thing really annoys me. People spitting toys out the pram and trying to force guilt trips on people for not excusing behaviour of a poster. Honestly.
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My toys are still in my pram...so are my dummies... No-one is trying to force you (or anyone else) into anything.

I get it, you think the poster is a fake or not in need of help, and that we are hysterical, that's fine, we don't need your particular brand of help.

I don't know why you need to continue to post if you are so certain that we are wrong/the OP is not worth bothering about?

Perhaps I have seen more suffering than you, perhaps you have been soured by a previous attempt to reach out to someone...whatever the reason is, I will certainly keep trying to reach out to this poster, whether HHO is the 'correct' place to do it or not, and I would thank you and your bilious comments to go away.
 
MudMudGloriousMud said:
My toys are still in my pram...so are my dummies... No-one is trying to force you (or anyone else) into anything.

I get it, you think the poster is a fake or not in need of help, and that we are hysterical, that's fine, we don't need your particular brand of help.

I don't know why you need to continue to post if you are so certain that we are wrong/the OP is not worth bothering about?

Perhaps I have seen more suffering than you, perhaps you have been soured by a previous attempt to reach out to someone...whatever the reason is, I will certainly keep trying to reach out to this poster, whether HHO is the 'correct' place to do it or not, and I would thank you and your bilious comments to go away.
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Was wondering when it would get to this point just because someone on the other side of the fence doesn't agree with you, have to say bilious comments is a new one, rather like it actually.

Not likely to go away either as my views are just as valid as yours are and I'm not the one getting upset over this as you seem to be. I'm plain speaking. Always have been always will be, it seems to get applauded by some people and if your not popular enough slammed by others so go figure.

I have never said at any point I don't have sympathy for anyone suffering but posting nonsense on horse forums is not the best way to get help, speaking to friends and family and your doctor is. Forums cannot provide the correct hands on help that is required when you have am episode and can actually make your episodes worse. Learned this in my years on forums.
 
I'm not upset :) The way I'm typing is calmly, I don't know how you/others read it though. The written word can be easily misconstrued.

I completely understand, and agree as it happens, that forums can make episodes worse, particularly if you don't get the answers/response you want.... but I'm working on the supposition that if OP is spouting gibberish on an open forum and in PM's then A) she isn't stable enough to be making rational decisions, and B) She probably doesn't have any friends or family.
We are the lucky ones BB, we have people who care, who will call the experts if we need it, or just give us a hug and a tissue... not everyone has that luxury xx
 
MudMudGloriousMud said:
.... but I'm working on the supposition that if OP is spouting gibberish on an open forum and in PM's then A) she isn't stable enough to be making rational decisions, and B) She probably doesn't have any friends or family.
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OP has been a member of this forum for 4 or 5 years now. She's always written in greater or lesser extents of 'gibberish'. I think she's survived this long, it's likely she'll survive another 4 or 5 years on this forum being exactly the same as she's always been. I don't know how anyone can surmise anything about OP except that when she posts it's almost always incoherent or mildly aggressive. Tbh I'm bemused by her most of the time. I like reading her posts even though sometimes it takes a bit of imagination to understand what she's actually saying but she certainly seems like a character. I hope she's fine, I imagine she is, and she figures out the simple way of remedying her perceived problem :smile3:
 
I have to say - The compassion from MudMud, Wagtail, and others the thread, along with the efforts to reach out to this lady are humbling and heartwarming to say the least.
I hope the OP is OK.
 
I sold a horse a long time ago and the buyer promised to keep in contact but did not. You pretty much have to assume this will be the case when you sell a horse, and if they do keep in contact you are lucky.

But don't let yourself worry - you have more than likely done the best thing for him.
 
Daytona said:
I hope the pathetic button pusher is chuft for what they have achieved
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people that button push remind me of being at school and those kids who were always running to tell the teacher on someone.
we are adults here, i think we should be able to deal with things ourselves on this forum in certain circumstances without running for outside help to get someone banned when the circs are not so clear.
 
amymay said:
But as the OP's details are not being asked for data is being compromised.
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email add amy>? Im not au fait with data protection. Either way, id be a little surprised if HHO gave out someone's personal email without any imminent concern for the safety of a member which i dont think has been actually proved, rather than people are a little worried about her. Think that concern is valid but, the OP actually might be quite cross about her email being given out even with the best of intentions.

Id be surprised if they would agree but be interesting to see.
 
lula said:
email add amy>? Im not au fait with data protection. Either way, id be a little surprised if HHO gave out someone's personal email without any imminent concern for the safety of a member which i dont think has been actually proved, rather than people are a little worried about her. Think that concern is valid but, the OP actually might be quite cross about her email being given out even with the best of intentions.

Id be surprised if they would agree but be interesting to see.
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My understanding was that posters were asking HHO to contact MrsD passing on their email details should she wish to contact them. Which is perfectly legal.
 
Just wanted to quickly post and say it was me who drew attention to the whole "racist term" but I actually don't think she meant it like that and a couple of people seemed to think she did which is why I brought it to her attention so she could edit or ask admin to remove it before it kicked off big time. However I didn't report her for it because as I say I really don't think she meant it in the way we now view it.
 
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