Ended the Share - Am I a horrible person???

You did the right thing, stop beating yourself up about it.

At 16 years old she should have been mature enough to at least talk to you when you went round, that is very immature and certainly not something I would allow a child of mine to get away with.

Of course she is bound to be upset but you are not dealing with a 10 year here so she needs to stop being a baby about it.

You have offered her a reference & been as kind as possible in the circumstances.

In the end it does come down to the fact that it is your horse and he is there for your enjoyment you should not feel guilty for doing what is right for you and him.
 
flamehead said:
What, refusing to talk to the owner isn't a bit spoilt? My mum woulda smacked my butt if I'd refused to speak to someone.
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I have to agree that it does sound a bit spoilt, but then again... if it had been me at that age I can understand how she's feeling and why she wouldn't want to speak to OP.

I don't think you're being mean OP, you were doing it for the right reasons and he is your horse afterall.

I think that sending a thank you not to the girl for helping you, and saying that you'll keep an eye and ear out for a suitable pony and write her some references is a lovely thing to do. She should hopefully realise that you weren't being horrid.
 
I think you did the right thing personally, it wasn't working for you and to have found out later about the YO/mother incident so long after the event, is not on, this is something that should have been mentioned. It would make me wonder what else has not been mentioned.

At the end of the day they are your horses, therefore your choices.
 
No, I dont think you are horrid. I also think you have done what you could to help, as someoe else said, she should find another horse to loan. Loaning IS just that though. Sixteen year old girls are not always the most level headed bods bless them.:p
 
Thanks guys, you have made me feel better :D I dont think i'd do this again, or at least not without having a little more supervision with what was going on - lesson learned!!

Im hoping to try to ride Charlie 3 or 4 times a week now he's got used to that, no reason not to really. But where she was jumping him a lot (something i had a little issue with as i had said not to, and she was riding all the time in a dutch gag!!! Had to tell her not to lol) i will just stick to hacking him as i think thats better for him, or at least for his sanity, jumping makes him rather excitable!! And maybe hack out my youngster from him like i used to so i get them both exercised at the same time, not that the old man really needs it, but he seemed to have enjoyed it while she was riding him :)
 
Why on earth would you offer a horse for share when you don't have enough tack?!

Seriously, back in the day when I was a sharer if I'd have gone to see the horse and the owner had told me that they only had one saddle and she'd have to randomly use it, I wouldn't have bothered!
 
Dizzle said:
Why on earth would you offer a horse for share when you don't have enough tack?!

Seriously, back in the day when I was a sharer if I'd have gone to see the horse and the owner had told me that they only had one saddle and she'd have to randomly use it, I wouldn't have bothered!
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Because when i had advertised for the sharer i had not yet broken my mare and wasnt riding her, also there was a tack room so there would have been no need for her to take the saddle home. The sharer and her mother were made fully aware of the situation when they came to try him, and that I would want to use the saddle. I didnt think it would be as much of an inconvenience as it was as i have never shared/loaned a horse out to anyone before :) They were quite welcome not to bother, wouldnt have been a problem for me afterall!
 
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