Eurgh! Pestering Parent?

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This is something very similar to a thread posted on here within the last hour.

We are on holiday in Wales and are due to return soon.
I had a text off my friend today which said about a woman with a young daughter (Single digit age?) Coming onto the yard and pestering about my small 12.2 pony. She said the pony is not for sale however she can come and visit and maybe ride the pony and she also passed on my number to them.

Since then I have been receiving texts about weather I would consider loan, sale etc. Saying he will go to a "very good home" but he isn't for loan or sale! I have told her this yet she keeps pestering.
I have told her the pony is not a first/second pony and requires an experienced rider as he spooks at his own shadow and has reared with me in the past. He has also kicked and nipped before.

She says here daughter has been having lessons for 2 years however he is not a small child's pony. He would be ideal for a small experienced teenager. I have told her this and I have not been left a lone despite telling her up straight. She's also insisting her daughter to come and groom the pony and help with jobs but to be honest, I'm a child hater and I have tried it before with an 11 year old girl coming to help me with him and she was an absolute nuisance I hate to say.

I don't know how to go about this. She's been pestering me with texts since 1 this afternoon and I just turned my phone off in despair.

I know that she wants her child to have fun and time with a pony but he isn't the right one for a small child, especially as he can be bad tempered.

Advice on what to do please? I'm ignoring her texts but she just won't stop badgering me! She told me she is just going to bed and will "speak tomorrow".

Considering a change of Sim card, hmph.
Hoping she will get bored soon.

Quite annoyed at my friend too, although she did apologise and agreed to speak to them.
 
Tell her your insurance will not cover it and therefore it won't be happening. If that doesn't work, tell her 2 more words - the second is "off".

How RUDE to keep pestering when you have already said no!
 
I would tell her, in no uncertain terms, to leave you alone - she is being completely unreasonable, not to mention irritating! Maybe soften the blow by suggesting a tack shop noticeboard where she could have a look for a more suitable pony. Don't think you have to be polite to her, because she certainly isn't being very polite!
 
Tell her to fook off and buy her own pony if she wants her daughter to have one.

a) he is not for sale or loan.
b) you do not need or want any help.
c) you do not offer a child care service.

Good luck.:D
 
I would be tempted to phone her up and tell her straight -

you are on holiday at the moment
you have a right to privacy
you can't do anything until you get back
she is being a nuisance
if she persists in badgering you, there is no way you will countenance her sprog coming anywhere near your pony

I'd be tempted to hope your pony bites her...
 
A strongly worded text sounds in order to me, including the information that the child is not welcome to do anything with your pony, not now or at any time in the future. I would not explain why, or say anything other than no.
I would also have severe words with any 'friend' of mine who gave out my mobile number to anyone at all without my express permission.
 
Don't contact her but when she next asks, be clear that a) your pony is not a toy for her kid to play with and b) you do not want a child coming to groom, help, ride etc. End of. Your pony, your rules.

If she persists, tell her you find her rude and that you do not want any further communication from her or you'll consider it harassment. Should shut her up. I hate people who think their little darlings are the perfect person for your horse!
 
I would reply and say you dont mean to be rude but your not willing to let her ride or groom the pony. It is not suitable for a child and you do not want to be responsible for any accidents. The ponies not for sale or loan but maybe they could try looking for one thats for loan locally or try local riding schools.

Tbh i think its bloody rude to pester someone like that!!
 
I agree with what everyone else has said, either ring/text her and let her know that your pony is not available for her child, he isn't for loan or sale and won't be for the foreseeable future.

As terrible as it sounds I would also be keeping a close eye on my pony and asking fellow liveries to do the same, if she is this persistent then I wouldn't be surprised if she ignores what you say and decides to let her child come down and groom/play with your pony because it 'won't cause any harm.'
Although that might just be me being paranoid :rolleyes:

I would also have a word with your friend about giving your number out to anybody who you don't know.
 
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Send one further text -
The pony is not for sale, loan or available for her child to use in any way. Suggest looking up a riding school locally.
You are on holiday at the moment and are getting annoyed at the constant nagging.
Tell her she is being a nuisance, any continuation of the badgering you will result in further action.
Tell her your friend should not have given her your number and you want her to delete it and not ring/text again.

Then text your friend and tell her to SORT OUT THE MESS SHE HAS CREATED - find a local riding school or tack shop etc that may help her...

QUOTE]

I would tell her the above.
 
Thank you guys! Glad to see I'm not being too "cold hearted"!

Another thing is I don't want her daughter being injured as he is very highly strung.

I just sent her a text message asking her to stop badgering me and to put an advert up around local tack shops and riding schools for a suitable pony and not to let her daughter "bite off more than she can chew".

Said friend apologised and was very sorry she just wanted to give the little girl a chance as she can't find anything local for her abilities and though Gem would be suitable.
 
I would be keeping a very very close eye on the situation when I got home, I would not put it past this type of person to decide to 'play ponies' with your pony despite your having said no.
 
Hm just got a lovely text saying I'm heartless for not letting her daughter loan him.

I guess I'd be even more heartless if I let her ride him and she ended up injured :rollseyes:
 
FfionWinnie said:
Send one back with this exact text:

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Works a treat :D
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Love that. awesome.

OP - thats shocking behaviour, I think sometimes parents suffer from the 'must have it now' mentality that some kids have. They didnt have a pony when they woke up this morning and they wont have one when they go to bed, its incredible they are making an issue out of this

Have they never heard the phrase 'you catch more flies with honey' ?

You may have helped them with some contacts but now are likely to warn other locals off these people
 
Only thing I would say is if she texts you again just reply with, if you contact me again I will report you tO the police for harassment
 
Hehe just for you guys I will post some of the most charming snippets ;)

"You are a selfish ***** you're not worthy to own horses"

"My daughter is heartbroken now and its ALL YOUR FAULT"

"We could give him a MUCH better home than what he has there"

"What are you doing with a 12.2 pony anyway you are in college (so I've been told) get a bigger horse!!!"

(I have 2 ex-racehorses ;)) Turns out said "friend" who I am now ignoring told her I'm in college and don't have time for the horses?!

"You must crush that small pony under your FAT A***"

"Ignore me then you ignorant ***** you made a little girl upset I hope your happy with yourself you lowlife!!!"

I haven't replied to any of these. I suppose her daughter is the "I must have it now" kind. Let's hope she doesn't contact me again.
 
I'd state total costs point out you pay them so you can enjoy pony not someone else, re state not suitable for small child and stick in some serious injury statistics. Then repeat request to leave you alone. Good luck.
 
Thank you for all your replies and help guys :)

I'm on my phone so I can't quote but FfionWinnie that is wonderful!

Also in the process of posting it on Facebook to my horse friends in the area to avoid her, WelshD. Will also spread the word by mouth.
 
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