Ex-owners. Do yours keep in touch?

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I have just had an email from a woman I bought , NOT loaned, a couple of horses from last year saying that she will be coming to see them on such and such a date
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I feel as if I am being inspected
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Not, I'm down your way, could I pop in? (They live up past Toronto so not a 20 minute drive)

I haven't replied yet, but she's not going to like it when she finds out that I've sold them both !
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I am of the mind that when a horse is sold, it's sold, no longer mine, if I saw them at a show, or out and about then I'd ask how things were going, but I would never consider visiting, I might not like what I find.

How do you feel about ex-owners keeping tabs on what is now your horse?
 
Well someone who owned pickle when he was 4 found me, through a video on youtube, and have come to visit him.

The people I bought him off are given little up dates every now and again, and I had to contact them when pickle has medical problems to see if they had any info. But they know they are not welcome to visit, I dont want to be harsh, but I update them every few months with a couple of pics and I think thats enough
 
I have always kept in touch with Amy's previous owner. Usually a yearly letter. However, whilst I know she enjoys the updates, she has never contacted me. And I'm not sure how I would feel if she did.

Mmmm don't envy being in your shoes.......
 
April's old, old owner who got her when she was 5 (she's 23 now!) emailed me when she saw her on our RC website. She was delighted that she was still going strong and in a good home for life. I said she should just let me know if she wants to see her anytime and we have bumped into her at a few events. It was lovely to share our stories about her lol

I have been to visit my childhood pony twice since I gave her up 10 years ago and it was wonderful both times. Her owner didn't mind at all. She was such a big part of my life that it was great to go see her healthy and happy in her new home.

I really don't see anything wrong with it at all, but everyone is different
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I agree with April, I keep in touch with those who have sold to me and those Ive sold to. I go and see my sons old PC pony and my TB's old owners come and see him. Its great to keep in touch and we all have the horses welfare in mind.

If people were more open, perhaps less horses would end up in umpteen homes before they found the right one.

Saying that its polite to ask if you can, not just say you are turning up!!
 
I see Chex old owner occasionally at shows etc. She generally just gives me the evils lol
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. I wouldn't mind them asking occasionally how they were, but wouldn't be happy with visits etc.
 
I have owned Marius for nine years and his old owners know that they are welcome to visit him if they would like to. I write and send photos every year at Christmas, and they are pleased to have news of him.
I am happy to keep in contact with them. They are not in any way pushy, and they don't expect anything from me. It's just nice.
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I bought a SJ from Sweden once and her owners came over to visit once, they bred her and before she sj she was a very good dressage horse for them. I have since sold her on (financial reasons sadly) I wonder if they still keep in touch with her!
 
Depends on the reason they sold the horse, really, and also if I liked them as people
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For example, we'd be very happy for Solo's old owner to visit and maybe even ride him whenever she wanted to, because she had to part with him because of a very very sad incident, and she'd had him for life, and he was so well schooled and cared for!
 
i dont mind old owners keeping in touch. skyes old owner is coming up next week some time and i`m going to see my old pony in the summer hols.


as someone said just dont answer or email back saying you have sold them
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there's keeping in touch and then there's just being pushy and rude! you shouldnt invite yourself to someones house whether you know their horse or not!
 
Ronnie's owner that had him during his racing career still keeps intouch. We send her pics over etc and she is going to come and see him aswell.
 
I send a Christmas card and a birthday card and small pressie to the ex owner's daughter because the ex owner had the baby a few days after I bought the horse.

I keep some cards from her in my horse's passport and I will quote from the first one of them to show why I think I'm lucky to be the owner of my horse.

Ex owner "I am very sentimental when it comes to my horses and some people would say soft, but I always try to treat them as I would like to be treated if I were a horse! It was a very difficult decision for me to make when it came to selling X as I felt that he was a special little horse that would require a kind, sympathetic, gentle owner, and I don't think he could have gone to anyone closer to those requirements. He is the first horse I have sold to anyone other than a friend - otherwise I would keep them all......

The note went on to ask me to keep in touch, how could you not? He is a lovely horse and I'm so glad to have him and the occasional card is an easy way to reassure her that X is still happy and enjoying life.
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Well I have mixed emotions on the subject tbh. I agree that once the horse is sold the previous owners have no 'rights" to the horse. I can see however an old owner wanting to keep in touch with and know how an old horse is doing. I just replied to a post about this very issue in soapbox made by flintus.

I think in your case however it does not sound like the previous owner is coming across as courteous??? If she is being brash about it and acting as if it is her expected right I would be irritated as well. I think it all depends on the situation .


I suppose I would feel a little
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having to tell someone I had sold them , but truth be told, if she had any attitude about that towards you that would be wrong.
 
Axels old owner and breeder is the Stud Manager of Harwood Arabian Stud and whenever I go to Arab shows he is always there and always comes over to say hello. he's always very complimentary about Axel and updates me on his dam and sisters etc.

I often send Harwoods an e mail if Axel has done well somewhere, and they put it on their website.

Sam x
 
I have kept in touch with the people I have sold my horses to. They contact me and let me know how they are doing, advice on veterinary things that have occured.

My previous mare recently had a foal and the new owner sent me pictures.

I never harass them, but occisionally send a text and ask how they are. I would never demand to see the horse.

I also keep in touch with the chap I bought my boy from. I send him pics and let him know how he is getting on.
 
I have kept in touch with the new owners of the two ponies I sold last year. I've been to visit them twice each which was lovely. But I feel I should cut the ties now as the owners don't actively contact me - it's me contacting them, and I suppose they might wish I'd just leave them alone - though they never say!

I still think of those ponies as my kiddies - but now they're grown up and hopefully having the time of their lives. If I saw them at a show I'd have to say hello of course!

I've kept in contact with some of the previous owners of my horses, though it's a bit galling if you meet them at a show, and you're not doing too well and they say ' horsey never did that with me!'
 
I sold a mare to 'Teasel' on here and still see the mare and new owner regularly, and speak most days. Both of our families have become friends since meeting through the sale.
I fully respect that Teasel is no longer my horse, and LOVE following C's progress with her, especially as Teasel is by no means the easiest to deal with.
I think that now our relationship has gone beyond me being 'the person who sold her the horse' and is just a friendship, I can't imagine that C would ever wonder if I approved of what she was doing or how much progress they were making.
Of course, you could always ask her...
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I keep in touch with both my old ponies, the first i re found through my work (RDA) and my second just always kept in touch.
I send a letter to Lottie's previous owner about 1-2x a year and i have spoken to Mouse's breeder a few times and i speak to Mouse's full sisters owners alot and i found out that Cullohill's horse Bud is mouse's full sisters son !!
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I wish all did!!!

I recently had to chase new owners of our pony by public adverts for four weeks and even when they did reply and promise to email pictures they haven't... Rhwni we miss you!!
Superb 13.2hh pony! Again next 14.2hh pony Cruise the same twice I think now nothing!

I would have kept these girls at home and bred from them but they were young and at their peak performance but buyers make such promises they never keep and I was soooo very picky... regret it now... wil never happen again!!!
 
We haven't owned a horse for ages but with the last horse we owned, Glen, we sent christmas cards and would see them occasionally at shows. The day he was put down my day phoned them to tell them. We knew how special he was to them and it would have been unfair to not. I have to say that if I was to sell a horse I would just send a quick email to the previous owners to tell them it was moving on. Horses become part of our family and its always nice to know where they are.
 
Been on various sides of this.

Sent a note to the people I bought my first horse from after a couple of months just to let them know he'd settled in. Got a note back but neither of us got around to writing after that. I thought about writing again when he died but that was 7 years later and I didn't really know what to write.

Sold on a horse that I had bought jointly with a friend and only kept for a couple months. Never heard from the buyers again. Would have liked to know they we're happy with him, but at the time I decided that no news was good news, so didn't follow up.

Bought my current horse from a dealer in Prague a couple of years ago and this year got around to writing to his breeder. She was very happy to hear from me as she'd lost track of him after she sold him as a 3 year old. My reasons for getting in touch were a little selfish, I wanted some pictures of him as a baby. I'm glad I wrote and there's a chance his breeder might visit next time she's in England.

Once a horse is sold it's sold. It's nice if the new owner keeps in touch but I don't think the previous owner can just expect to visit without an invite.
 
Yes I have kept in touch with the person that I bought my horse from last year as she was so good when I was buying her (including waiting for me to go and see her as my mother was ill at the time) and she would be welcome to come and see her at any time. I so wish that people who bought youngsters off us would keep in touch - just a Christmas card once a year saying how things were going would be great. I realise once they are sold I no longer have any rights to them but having brought them into this world and kept them for 3-4 years you just can't help wondering what they are doing from time to time.
 
I would love for past owners to keep tabs on my horses TBH! I think it's nice, although saying that Id only want the NICE ones to keep in touch POLITELY! I also expect to stay in touch with all horses I sell, and the new owners have always been very welcoming and asked me to visit the horses etc. which I have done! I still see a pony I sold 6 years ago and she keeps me up to date by email!

I draw the line at a past owner inviting herself to visit my horses though, thats rude!
 
I keep in touch with my mares previous owner, and am chuffed to bits she is so keen to hear all about her. Its nice to know when someone has/had the bond with the horse that you have and cares/cared as much as you do about a horse and wants to know all about the horse.
 
I don't keep in touch with any, and don't have any keep in touch with me. I like to see them out and about. God knows, I scour the paper looking for mention of them, but I don't contact as I just never know if people want to be contacted by new/former owners
 
I think it is quiet nice for old owners to want to know how the horse that they may have owned for a while or bred are doing. Though I agree once you sell a horse you have to except it is no longer your business, some people just want peace of mind. Probably best just to let them know they have been sold. I would think there would be no problem with that unless they thought they had sold to a long term home.
 
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