Perfect_Pirouette
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Okay so I am going to try and keep this incredibly long story as short as possible, but as its me it will inevitably turn into an essay Im sure!
Basically Ive loaned/shared G for 2 and a half years now. I shared him for 5 months and then his owner wanted to get another horse so I agreed to take him on full loan. I had him on full loan for about 6 months and then his owner wanted to send her other horse back (she was full loaning it) as shed lost all her confidence on it. So we went back to sharing G for a few months and then in July last year she bought another horse. For a few months I effectively had him on full loan again but as hes kept so far away needed help so had to look for a sharer, of which Ive had a few and all have been really unreliable and havent worked out!
Now the thing I havent mentioned yet is G is kept 22 miles away from where I live! Hence extortionate petrol costs and a lot of time travelling! I was sitting at work on Monday and got a text informing me that my sharer was quitting because she didnt like mucking out and didnt want to ride because it was too cold and she wasnt enjoying it bah! So me and owner immediately got into a flap and she texted and said wed better advertise for another sharer. I just thought NO, no more bloody sharers. Weve had about 3 in the past year and as I said above none of them have worked out!
I have been schooling my next door neighbours horse for her for the past couple of months. She is a really nice lady whom Ive known for years as I used to keep my pony years ago at the same livery yard where she kept her daughters pony. Anyway, she is now lucky enough to have 5 lovely stables, acres of land and an all-weather, floodlit ménage with jumps at her home.
Anyway, I went around on Monday night after work to school her horse and told her that my latest sharer had quit blah blah and she said why dont you keep G here? I wouldnt want any money, at the end of the day Ive got 5 stables, all this land and only one bloody horse Her daughter lost interest and gave up riding in 2007, the mum (my neighbour) absolutely loves horses and is really into showing so kept a few on, now shes just left with the one, the one Im riding for her as she doesnt ride. So I was ecstatic and said Id talk to his owner. When I got home I rang his owner and explained everything and asked whether she would let me move him to my village, to be kept at my neighbours.
She said that although she would be really sad to not see his face everyday she realises all the work Ive put into him over the past 2 years, how much I love him and that obviously she has nothing to do with him anymore so would be prepared to let him move, we arranged that she would come and see his potential new home today at 5.30. Can I just say at this point that when I started sharing G, he had just started competing at Prelim level and his schooling was okay, not brilliant. Anyway, over the past 18 months I have practically been his sole rider and in that time he has come on so so much, we now get consistently placed at Novice level and did our first affiliated test last weekend (where we came 3rd ) Both his owner and my instructor said that he has just come on leaps and bounds and I have taken him to another level. I am not saying this to blow my own trumpet, Im saying it because I have been the one for the past 2 and a half years riding at 8-9oclock at night after work, in the dark on my own, in the wind, rain, hail, snow, not getting home until 10 at night etc etc YES he has come on a lot and he is at a totally different level and yes his schooling has vastly improved but its been bloody hard work and I am exhausted! It has been worth it though and I wouldnt change any of it for a minute!
So anyway, I was at work today and got a text from his owner saying that shes really sorry but she just cannot face not seeing him everyday and therefore cannot let me move him. She said well have to look for another sharer and theres a couple of girls down the yard who would muck in and help a day or so a week in the meantime. She said its not for one second because she doesnt think Id look after him etc because she knows I would, but she cant face not seeing his face everyday etc etc.
I am so peed off and fed up and disappointed. After all the time, work and thousands of pounds I have spent on that horse in flatwork lessons, petrol to get over to the yard, not to mention the £200 a month he costs me just to share/keep over the past 2 and a half years. I have him 4-5 days a week, its roughly 170 miles a week I do to go and do him, I am haemorrhaging money and petrol, I have a 2010 plate car that Ive had for literally 1 year and its already done 20,000 miles. I dont get home on the week days I do him until 9.30-10pm. But I NEVER, EVER complain. Because that horse has become my life and I love him more than Ive ever loved anything. His owner has nothing to do with him anymore and hasnt since last July when she bought her other horse. She doesnt ride him/look after him/pay for him, yet just because she wants to be able to see his face everyday she is willing to make me continue to do all of this and to put him through having a million and one different numpties pulling him about etc. I feel desperately sorry for that horse, he needs routine and consistency and he just isnt going to get that now.
I told my next door neighbour and she said I should cut all ties with G and if I continue to school her horse, she will sell her once her schoolings up to scratch and will buy a show/dressage horse for me to have and compete as she just wants to go to shows etc again but shes got no one to ride or help look after any horses she buys and shes got 4 empty stables doing nothing. But the thought of leaving G makes me feel sick, I love him so much, I know its sad but hes basically my whole life (anyone who has me on FB here will know that ) and has become my best friend. I have put so much work into him over this winter and were just beginning to peak having done our first affiliated test etc, do I really want to leave him now? But at the same time, can I really keep on travelling all this distance and putting all these miles on my car etc indefinitely?
Im just really confused and fed up. I really dont know what to do
Basically Ive loaned/shared G for 2 and a half years now. I shared him for 5 months and then his owner wanted to get another horse so I agreed to take him on full loan. I had him on full loan for about 6 months and then his owner wanted to send her other horse back (she was full loaning it) as shed lost all her confidence on it. So we went back to sharing G for a few months and then in July last year she bought another horse. For a few months I effectively had him on full loan again but as hes kept so far away needed help so had to look for a sharer, of which Ive had a few and all have been really unreliable and havent worked out!
Now the thing I havent mentioned yet is G is kept 22 miles away from where I live! Hence extortionate petrol costs and a lot of time travelling! I was sitting at work on Monday and got a text informing me that my sharer was quitting because she didnt like mucking out and didnt want to ride because it was too cold and she wasnt enjoying it bah! So me and owner immediately got into a flap and she texted and said wed better advertise for another sharer. I just thought NO, no more bloody sharers. Weve had about 3 in the past year and as I said above none of them have worked out!
I have been schooling my next door neighbours horse for her for the past couple of months. She is a really nice lady whom Ive known for years as I used to keep my pony years ago at the same livery yard where she kept her daughters pony. Anyway, she is now lucky enough to have 5 lovely stables, acres of land and an all-weather, floodlit ménage with jumps at her home.
Anyway, I went around on Monday night after work to school her horse and told her that my latest sharer had quit blah blah and she said why dont you keep G here? I wouldnt want any money, at the end of the day Ive got 5 stables, all this land and only one bloody horse Her daughter lost interest and gave up riding in 2007, the mum (my neighbour) absolutely loves horses and is really into showing so kept a few on, now shes just left with the one, the one Im riding for her as she doesnt ride. So I was ecstatic and said Id talk to his owner. When I got home I rang his owner and explained everything and asked whether she would let me move him to my village, to be kept at my neighbours.
She said that although she would be really sad to not see his face everyday she realises all the work Ive put into him over the past 2 years, how much I love him and that obviously she has nothing to do with him anymore so would be prepared to let him move, we arranged that she would come and see his potential new home today at 5.30. Can I just say at this point that when I started sharing G, he had just started competing at Prelim level and his schooling was okay, not brilliant. Anyway, over the past 18 months I have practically been his sole rider and in that time he has come on so so much, we now get consistently placed at Novice level and did our first affiliated test last weekend (where we came 3rd ) Both his owner and my instructor said that he has just come on leaps and bounds and I have taken him to another level. I am not saying this to blow my own trumpet, Im saying it because I have been the one for the past 2 and a half years riding at 8-9oclock at night after work, in the dark on my own, in the wind, rain, hail, snow, not getting home until 10 at night etc etc YES he has come on a lot and he is at a totally different level and yes his schooling has vastly improved but its been bloody hard work and I am exhausted! It has been worth it though and I wouldnt change any of it for a minute!
So anyway, I was at work today and got a text from his owner saying that shes really sorry but she just cannot face not seeing him everyday and therefore cannot let me move him. She said well have to look for another sharer and theres a couple of girls down the yard who would muck in and help a day or so a week in the meantime. She said its not for one second because she doesnt think Id look after him etc because she knows I would, but she cant face not seeing his face everyday etc etc.
I am so peed off and fed up and disappointed. After all the time, work and thousands of pounds I have spent on that horse in flatwork lessons, petrol to get over to the yard, not to mention the £200 a month he costs me just to share/keep over the past 2 and a half years. I have him 4-5 days a week, its roughly 170 miles a week I do to go and do him, I am haemorrhaging money and petrol, I have a 2010 plate car that Ive had for literally 1 year and its already done 20,000 miles. I dont get home on the week days I do him until 9.30-10pm. But I NEVER, EVER complain. Because that horse has become my life and I love him more than Ive ever loved anything. His owner has nothing to do with him anymore and hasnt since last July when she bought her other horse. She doesnt ride him/look after him/pay for him, yet just because she wants to be able to see his face everyday she is willing to make me continue to do all of this and to put him through having a million and one different numpties pulling him about etc. I feel desperately sorry for that horse, he needs routine and consistency and he just isnt going to get that now.
I told my next door neighbour and she said I should cut all ties with G and if I continue to school her horse, she will sell her once her schoolings up to scratch and will buy a show/dressage horse for me to have and compete as she just wants to go to shows etc again but shes got no one to ride or help look after any horses she buys and shes got 4 empty stables doing nothing. But the thought of leaving G makes me feel sick, I love him so much, I know its sad but hes basically my whole life (anyone who has me on FB here will know that ) and has become my best friend. I have put so much work into him over this winter and were just beginning to peak having done our first affiliated test etc, do I really want to leave him now? But at the same time, can I really keep on travelling all this distance and putting all these miles on my car etc indefinitely?
Im just really confused and fed up. I really dont know what to do