Mouse19
Well-Known Member
Bit of a woe is me post, so if you arent into sympathy seeking this isnt the thread for you.
I feel like banging my head up against a brick wall (although given yesterdays performance by new horse, she would have happily done this for me)
I purchased my new horse 4 months ago. I knew the mare was a risky purchase, the owner was forthcoming with the fact shes been difficult in the past and owner has had enough (cant put up too much information in case they are on here ). The mare has settled in really well at the yard. She now lives out, having been stabled pretty much all the time due to her old owners lack of turnout. Shes settled well into the herd and isnt clingy or displaying any signs of stress- I had been told she box walks/ field walks. I have been told by somebody that knew the horse that she had a field accident with her old owner (note this isnt what the old owner said).
All work has been done super slowly she had her teeth and back done when she arrived and a full MOT from my vet plus the five stage with X-rays. She didnt have much muscle tone despite being competed quite regularly. Shed been ridden in a double bridle on the flat, but I dropped her back into a snaffle as I want to compete her at a lower level BD and she needed to stretch over her back and work from behind her neck is a little short and she works bum high in a double. I felt in the double that she was a bit fixed and not working properly through her back. The progress has been snail like and is frustrating, shes had to learn to balance herself in all three paces whilst stretching and not being BTV and its been like riding Bambi on ice, to make matters worse shes super spooky in the snaffle. Im so tempted to put her back in the double but I know that would be cheating.
Hacking has been a whole other world of pain. Again the owners were forthcoming with the fact shes not hacked for one reason or another, but I was presently surprised when she went out happily with a nanny horse. Shes done a few quiet routes with the nanny horse and I felt yesterday would be a good time to take her on a quiet solo hack around the village taking circular a route she knows. This was a massive mistake, she was a nightmare the whole way around. Reared twice going off the drive, napped and span for ½ the route. Once she passed the ½ way point she didnt nap but the whole experience wasnt pleasant. So I need to re-think that plan.
I know that its early days and its going to take time but I feel like its one step forwards 3 steps backwards. Ive worked with difficult horses in the past when I was a rider/groom but now I have a normal 9-5 job things are proving difficult. Coming into winter Im confined to the school after work, some weekends I have to visit family up north so it can be weeks before I ride in the daylight/can go out. The nanny horses owner has been really kind coming out with me, she doesnt work so normally ride during the day but has been coming up to ride after 17.00, but with winter coming shell go back to riding in the daylight and it'll be dark. I dont want to move as the yard Im on is the only one in the area that offers year round turn out and has school lights.
The way Im feeling about her at the moment doesnt make me want to ride and the thought of battling through winter makes me feel depressed. I know every horse takes time to settle in and I need to get to know her but I dont feel Ive made any progress in four months
Has anybody else experienced this? Does it get any better?
I feel like banging my head up against a brick wall (although given yesterdays performance by new horse, she would have happily done this for me)
I purchased my new horse 4 months ago. I knew the mare was a risky purchase, the owner was forthcoming with the fact shes been difficult in the past and owner has had enough (cant put up too much information in case they are on here ). The mare has settled in really well at the yard. She now lives out, having been stabled pretty much all the time due to her old owners lack of turnout. Shes settled well into the herd and isnt clingy or displaying any signs of stress- I had been told she box walks/ field walks. I have been told by somebody that knew the horse that she had a field accident with her old owner (note this isnt what the old owner said).
All work has been done super slowly she had her teeth and back done when she arrived and a full MOT from my vet plus the five stage with X-rays. She didnt have much muscle tone despite being competed quite regularly. Shed been ridden in a double bridle on the flat, but I dropped her back into a snaffle as I want to compete her at a lower level BD and she needed to stretch over her back and work from behind her neck is a little short and she works bum high in a double. I felt in the double that she was a bit fixed and not working properly through her back. The progress has been snail like and is frustrating, shes had to learn to balance herself in all three paces whilst stretching and not being BTV and its been like riding Bambi on ice, to make matters worse shes super spooky in the snaffle. Im so tempted to put her back in the double but I know that would be cheating.
Hacking has been a whole other world of pain. Again the owners were forthcoming with the fact shes not hacked for one reason or another, but I was presently surprised when she went out happily with a nanny horse. Shes done a few quiet routes with the nanny horse and I felt yesterday would be a good time to take her on a quiet solo hack around the village taking circular a route she knows. This was a massive mistake, she was a nightmare the whole way around. Reared twice going off the drive, napped and span for ½ the route. Once she passed the ½ way point she didnt nap but the whole experience wasnt pleasant. So I need to re-think that plan.
I know that its early days and its going to take time but I feel like its one step forwards 3 steps backwards. Ive worked with difficult horses in the past when I was a rider/groom but now I have a normal 9-5 job things are proving difficult. Coming into winter Im confined to the school after work, some weekends I have to visit family up north so it can be weeks before I ride in the daylight/can go out. The nanny horses owner has been really kind coming out with me, she doesnt work so normally ride during the day but has been coming up to ride after 17.00, but with winter coming shell go back to riding in the daylight and it'll be dark. I dont want to move as the yard Im on is the only one in the area that offers year round turn out and has school lights.
The way Im feeling about her at the moment doesnt make me want to ride and the thought of battling through winter makes me feel depressed. I know every horse takes time to settle in and I need to get to know her but I dont feel Ive made any progress in four months
Has anybody else experienced this? Does it get any better?