Feel you are rushing all the time when you're with your horse?

[wingedhorse]

Lots of responses that mirror my experience. Glad its not just me! I wouldn't mind but I get to the yard between 4.30 - 4.45pm and depending on what I want to do with the horse (he is fed at 4pm with the rest of the yard) I either ride quickly (hack) or muck out/hay/do feeds and then ride if schooling. So you would think I'd get done quickly.

So I could really get done for 6pm if I was to limit my hack to 40 mins and not pooh pick the paddock but the problem is that there's no point leaving the yard much before 6.30pm as the traffic is horrendous driving home until that time. So I can't really change my circumstances.

I do think the temptation to chill out whilst eating tea in front of Emmerdale and Coronation Street is a big pull too if I'm honest! And sometimes I wil drive to the park and walk the dog which I enjoy especially now I'm on my weight loss regime!

That sounds a very nice early routine. Getting to yard by 4.45pm and not needing to muck out, sounds like masses of time for a sensible groom / stretch / exercise session, and home for tea by 7pm, and if want can catch up with Soaps on playback later.

My stress about getting all chores / stretches / exercises is that I HAVE to leave yard for work at a certain point.

 

[wingedhorse]

Can I ask all the guilty people why you feel the need to do everything every day? I think my OH was a guilty person, he was always rushing here and there, then turning up to see me at gone 10pm, announcing he was tired, then falling asleep shortly after. It started to seriously annoy me so I put a stop to him coming every day. Now I have days I don't ride so I can get home early because we're going out, and days where I totally do my own thing and spend hours at the yard because I'm not seeing him. It's much better.

Both my horses need chores doing, stretching, 2-3 hacks and 2-3 schooling sessions each week as a minimum to keep them cross trained, a sensible weight and fit for competing. I have two and some help from sharers. I have lessons and need to school and do my homework in between. I do have days I don't see my husband except to grunt, and I make Monday non yard, non riding, long working day.

 

[atropa]

Can I ask all the guilty people why you feel the need to do everything every day? I think my OH was a guilty person, he was always rushing here and there, then turning up to see me at gone 10pm, announcing he was tired, then falling asleep shortly after. It started to seriously annoy me so I put a stop to him coming every day. Now I have days I don't ride so I can get home early because we're going out, and days where I totally do my own thing and spend hours at the yard because I'm not seeing him. It's much better.

That's the thing, I feel guilty because I DON'T manage to fit all these things in every day..I have only managed to see my partner of 4.5 years twice in the past fortnight, and when I do see him I'm tired, smelly and dirty. I haven't played with my young cat or had a cuddle with my older cat in weeks. I feel guilty because every day I don't manage to spend time with my family, friends, other animals is a day I've lost forever with them.
If my hobby was playing PC games for example, and I missed sleep, food and taking proper care of myself in favour of spending time gaming, people would think I had a serious problem..

 

[Leo Walker]

The joys of being physically knackered means I never rush, because I cant :lol: My main focus isnt riding either, so we do lots of things, like clicker training to learn Spanish walk, and lots of fuss and attention. Those things are easier for me than riding, so its easier for me to do them. I was in a legitimate rush tonight, but there was still time for me to scritch his itchy bits and give him some attention and have some filthy cob snogs :lol: I then sat down in his field for about 15 mins and just watched him graze. I sat down initially because my back was very sore, but I stayed sitting down as I was busy admiring him, enjoying how content he is and being a bit smug at how much weight he has lost and how well he looks.

Mine is a pet first and foremost. I love riding him, but I keep him as I adore him. The riding stuff is just a bonus for me

 

[nato]

I don't find that I rush when I'm with my horse, in fact quite the opposite and can spend too long with them and lose track of time! I do however rush everything else which can take it's toll - I don't get home from work until 7pm, so by the time I get to the yard in the evenings it's closer to 7.30pm and I'm very late getting home. I'm always tired and the house is never clean, but I love my horse and wouldn't have it any other way!

 

[MS123]

When I had T she was on part livery so all I had to do was ride, groom and fuss in the evenings. I did, and still do, however, work in London with a two hour commute each way so part-livery was a necessity for me. My working hours were fabulous (8am-4pm) though my days were still long; Up at 6am to catch the train, arrive at the yard in the evening at about 6pm, and home by about 7.30-8.00pm. I lived at home and didn't have an OH and even then I felt as though I was rushing everywhere to spend time with horse, friends, family, so hats off to those who have a lot more to juggle, especially those on DIY too. I didn't drive either so actually if I did drive, that would've saved me a lot of time as I wouldn't have had to wait and rely on family/stable friends for lifts and/or public transport.

 

[Casey76]

I rush on a morning, but I think because the morning is new to me, so I'm still trying to get a routine established.

On an evening there is noooo rushing I live alone, so have no responsibilities at home except to feed the cats and lock the chickens away. Consequently my evenings at the yard can be looong - especially at the moment when it is too hot to ride before 8pm.