Breez
Well-Known Member
For reference, I'm a regular poster, under a different name for anonymity's sake.
I lost my horse of a lifetime a few months ago, which absolutely gutted me. I can't describe how I felt, only that I've not felt emptiness like that before in my life. It was sudden, there was no warning, he was young, and he was here one day and gone the next. I struggled to deal with it at the time, and ended up bringing home another horse shortly after to help me with the grief and keep me busy.
My new horse (I say new, I've owned him a couple of months) is amazing. He's virtually my dream horse, he's sane, beautiful, moves like a dream, has a wonderful attitude and I'm aware that a few people on our yard would snap my hand off for him. So why am I feeling like it's a chore to go and see him? I've had people comment on how fab he's looking now, what an improvement it is since he arrived... he's lovely, I take care of him the best I can and according to other people (strangers included), he's thriving off it. It just somehow feels like I'm letting him down, because my heart isn't in it. I see him everyday and he wants for nothing, but I can't seem to give it my all.
I know I'm being stupid, but I'm toying with the idea of walking away from horses if I'm still feeling like this in a couple of months time. Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy riding, but it's almost like I'm enjoying borrowing friends' horses, going for a hack, coming back and handing the horse back... I guess keeping them at arm's length. It's such an expensive hobby to not be getting the most of it, but I'd be walking away from friends and social circles too.
Really, really rambley post, but does anyone have any experience in this? How long did it take you to bond with a new horse after losing one? How do you know you're doing the right thing? I just... I don't know what to do anymore. Any replies are appreciated.
I lost my horse of a lifetime a few months ago, which absolutely gutted me. I can't describe how I felt, only that I've not felt emptiness like that before in my life. It was sudden, there was no warning, he was young, and he was here one day and gone the next. I struggled to deal with it at the time, and ended up bringing home another horse shortly after to help me with the grief and keep me busy.
My new horse (I say new, I've owned him a couple of months) is amazing. He's virtually my dream horse, he's sane, beautiful, moves like a dream, has a wonderful attitude and I'm aware that a few people on our yard would snap my hand off for him. So why am I feeling like it's a chore to go and see him? I've had people comment on how fab he's looking now, what an improvement it is since he arrived... he's lovely, I take care of him the best I can and according to other people (strangers included), he's thriving off it. It just somehow feels like I'm letting him down, because my heart isn't in it. I see him everyday and he wants for nothing, but I can't seem to give it my all.
I know I'm being stupid, but I'm toying with the idea of walking away from horses if I'm still feeling like this in a couple of months time. Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy riding, but it's almost like I'm enjoying borrowing friends' horses, going for a hack, coming back and handing the horse back... I guess keeping them at arm's length. It's such an expensive hobby to not be getting the most of it, but I'd be walking away from friends and social circles too.
Really, really rambley post, but does anyone have any experience in this? How long did it take you to bond with a new horse after losing one? How do you know you're doing the right thing? I just... I don't know what to do anymore. Any replies are appreciated.