JenHunt
Well-Known Member
There are 3 things I guess that I need to make decisions about, and I dont know if Im just being selfish.
Ill describe the situation at the moment and then describe the dilemmas.
My horse (Ron) and my sisters horse (Tom) live at my parents house.
My sister is at Uni in Plymouth and I live 20 miles from mum and dad.
All winter mum and dad have been doing the boys mon-fri and OH and I have been doing them over the w/ends. I have been going up to ride during the week whenever I can, but I dont get up there even 1 night some weeks.
We have been unable to get anyone reliable to help me exercise Tom, and theres only so often you can ride and lead up the same tracks before everyone is bored.
OH cant ride Tom as a) sister wont let him and b) he would be more weight than tom is used to carrying (sister is about 8 1/2st, OH is about 13st) and c) Tom has side bone so we try not to let him carry too much. Weight anyway.
Every Saturday morning I have been complaining as it looks like they havent been mucked out all week, but parents say they have. It also looks like they havent done feet cleaning or rug changes all week.
Tom is a pain in the backside when left on his own, throwing himself around the field, at the fence and gate. Often come home from a ride/day hunting with Ron calmer, and fresher than tom whos been in the field. Hes even worse in a stable. We have seriously tried everything to help him calm down about it.
We didnt move Ron before the winter because a) we had just moved into our new house and parents said they wanted us to make sure we could afford that before worrying about keeping Ron. And b) we couldnt leave tom on his own.
The cost of moving him is irrelevant due to an arrangement with where I would be moving him to, but it would save me 80 miles a weekend!
OH would get more involved if Ron was nearer, but he works the wrong side of home to get up there before me at the moment.
So . Tea break anyone?
Now I have a few dilemmas
1) I have seen a yearling filly that I would love to buy, I can just about afford her.
a) do I buy her and keep her at parents and move Ron?
b) Do I buy her and keep them both nearer to my house?
c) Neither please suggest?
2) Do I move Ron anyway and
a) leave the responsibility of finding tom a friend up to my parents and sister?
b) Try to find a pony on loan or something?
3) Do I leave things as they are and make more time to go up during the week and make sure things are done the way I want? This is really difficult as I am away 3+ nights with work.
4) Do I just put up with things?
At the moment I feel really guilty about not spending enough time with Ron, and expecting him to go hunting at the weekends. I am fortunate that he is a naturally fit horse, but I still take care that he is only out as long as he is fit enough for, and were usually still bouncing back to the trailer!
Am I just being selfish in wanting to move him nearer to home? What would you do?
if you've got this far, have a hug from me, then go get creme eggs and a big cuppa tea!
Ill describe the situation at the moment and then describe the dilemmas.
My horse (Ron) and my sisters horse (Tom) live at my parents house.
My sister is at Uni in Plymouth and I live 20 miles from mum and dad.
All winter mum and dad have been doing the boys mon-fri and OH and I have been doing them over the w/ends. I have been going up to ride during the week whenever I can, but I dont get up there even 1 night some weeks.
We have been unable to get anyone reliable to help me exercise Tom, and theres only so often you can ride and lead up the same tracks before everyone is bored.
OH cant ride Tom as a) sister wont let him and b) he would be more weight than tom is used to carrying (sister is about 8 1/2st, OH is about 13st) and c) Tom has side bone so we try not to let him carry too much. Weight anyway.
Every Saturday morning I have been complaining as it looks like they havent been mucked out all week, but parents say they have. It also looks like they havent done feet cleaning or rug changes all week.
Tom is a pain in the backside when left on his own, throwing himself around the field, at the fence and gate. Often come home from a ride/day hunting with Ron calmer, and fresher than tom whos been in the field. Hes even worse in a stable. We have seriously tried everything to help him calm down about it.
We didnt move Ron before the winter because a) we had just moved into our new house and parents said they wanted us to make sure we could afford that before worrying about keeping Ron. And b) we couldnt leave tom on his own.
The cost of moving him is irrelevant due to an arrangement with where I would be moving him to, but it would save me 80 miles a weekend!
OH would get more involved if Ron was nearer, but he works the wrong side of home to get up there before me at the moment.
So . Tea break anyone?
Now I have a few dilemmas
1) I have seen a yearling filly that I would love to buy, I can just about afford her.
a) do I buy her and keep her at parents and move Ron?
b) Do I buy her and keep them both nearer to my house?
c) Neither please suggest?
2) Do I move Ron anyway and
a) leave the responsibility of finding tom a friend up to my parents and sister?
b) Try to find a pony on loan or something?
3) Do I leave things as they are and make more time to go up during the week and make sure things are done the way I want? This is really difficult as I am away 3+ nights with work.
4) Do I just put up with things?
At the moment I feel really guilty about not spending enough time with Ron, and expecting him to go hunting at the weekends. I am fortunate that he is a naturally fit horse, but I still take care that he is only out as long as he is fit enough for, and were usually still bouncing back to the trailer!
Am I just being selfish in wanting to move him nearer to home? What would you do?
if you've got this far, have a hug from me, then go get creme eggs and a big cuppa tea!
