Ridererror
Well-Known Member
i will try and keep this short but in essence I am wondering if any one has any tips to boost my own self esteem and stop comparing to thers when it comes to all things horsey
I have ridden for over 20 years. Had own ponies as a child and a few loans. into adulthood between work, mortgages etc I am unable to buy or loan though I am very lucky I do get to ride friends horses (all flatwork only and restricted in what they can do)
I know of a friend of a friend who has only been riding 5 years. Pretty soon after her first lessons she had a horse bought for her, then a second and can keep them at home. She has worked up to a very good standard and competes in BE novice and I think has competed at CIC level. She also only wokrs three days a week so has the time to train.
I feel so inferior! I think, admittedly, a bit jealous too as i really want to be out competing but it is very very difficult without your own hrse - which for me isn't possible at this stage. But I see all her pictures of what she is out doing (and she has done very well for herself) and it just makes me feel down. I would love to be able to do all that but between work and other things in life it won't happen for the immediately foreseeable future.
I made steps to get myself out of this lull and started booking lessons focussed on jumping and have got myself confident and progressing again. My instructor says she is noticing I am coming on well but even then I think I am training and improving and I would like to do something with it ie compete. My instructor is really good and has suggested giving me dressage tests to take away and learn and use some of my lessons to do these. this is great but I would like to do more competitive jumping too.
How do you remind yourself that everyone goes at their own pace and life isn't a competition? That just because now isn't the right time it will work out? I think I just feel a bit of envy, frustration and possibly a bit down about it all. I am budgeting to allow for one-two lessons per week on top of my regular riding for my friends but I don't know what more I could do.
Sorry that sounds so pathetic I know
I have ridden for over 20 years. Had own ponies as a child and a few loans. into adulthood between work, mortgages etc I am unable to buy or loan though I am very lucky I do get to ride friends horses (all flatwork only and restricted in what they can do)
I know of a friend of a friend who has only been riding 5 years. Pretty soon after her first lessons she had a horse bought for her, then a second and can keep them at home. She has worked up to a very good standard and competes in BE novice and I think has competed at CIC level. She also only wokrs three days a week so has the time to train.
I feel so inferior! I think, admittedly, a bit jealous too as i really want to be out competing but it is very very difficult without your own hrse - which for me isn't possible at this stage. But I see all her pictures of what she is out doing (and she has done very well for herself) and it just makes me feel down. I would love to be able to do all that but between work and other things in life it won't happen for the immediately foreseeable future.
I made steps to get myself out of this lull and started booking lessons focussed on jumping and have got myself confident and progressing again. My instructor says she is noticing I am coming on well but even then I think I am training and improving and I would like to do something with it ie compete. My instructor is really good and has suggested giving me dressage tests to take away and learn and use some of my lessons to do these. this is great but I would like to do more competitive jumping too.
How do you remind yourself that everyone goes at their own pace and life isn't a competition? That just because now isn't the right time it will work out? I think I just feel a bit of envy, frustration and possibly a bit down about it all. I am budgeting to allow for one-two lessons per week on top of my regular riding for my friends but I don't know what more I could do.
Sorry that sounds so pathetic I know