niagaraduval
Well-Known Member
This is going to be a long thread, it's quite difficult to put feelings into words, I'll try my best.
For those who have known me over the years and followed my threads, you will know all about the issues and difficult situations I've dealt with over the years. You've been an amazing help and I'm so thankful for everyone who has helped me out, given me advice and genuinely listened to me rant.
At this moment in time I own 1 horse, I have owned him for 10 years.
Everything started around 6-7 years ago, with my current boy. He wasn't a good buy from the start but I fell completely in love with him. He was the opposite of what I wanted, way too expensive but I wanted him.
I was used to my quiet hacking horses, and that what I wanted. I however came home with one very strong and young ex racer, who had a heart of gold, looks to die for and was totally 100% on the road, no matter how scared I got by huge lorries speeding past us, drivers dodging around us, me being literally cm from being hit by close drivers. My boy never bat an eyelid and I trusted him with my life. I had a lot of fun on my boy over the years.
His teenage years were awful, I had him on cheap livery at a neighbors house not far from where I live, at the time that's what I thought was best, I just moved to the area and I didn't know anyone or anywhere.
Livery was fine for around a year, after that I wanted more, I needed an arena, I needed people to ride with. I just felt incomplete and I wanted more for his education.
I took my boy away and found a small owners yard, it was again, just me and YO, but again, livery wasn't too bad and it felt like a breath of fresh air when I took my boy away from my neighbors house. He was about 10 miles away, there was only an outdoor arena (with no lights) but hacking was excellent.
The dream quickly turned into a nightmare when the owner of the mare got a new livery arrive, who had a very very sick horse. The mare was bleeding from her nose, it was obvious that she was really ill. Her stable walls were covered in blood, it was something of a horror story. Caught the new owner taking hay out of my stable, things went missing, I had doubts that my horse was even being fed half of the time.
I turned up the next morning to see my horse in that mares stable, covered in blood. It hadn't been disinfected or even cleaned. Still had dirty bedding. I went mental and arranged for a horse box to come and take my horse away the next day. My boy was sick with COPD very shortly afterwards. I had never heard a wheeze or cough and I can only presume that he had caught something from that mare. I nearly lost him several times that winter.
I brought him back to my neighbors house, who was far from ideal but he was close to me and I could look after him. His COPD meant that his hay needed soaking, he needed breathing supplements, and just extra care in general. This was unheard of, and of course the number of times I turned up to find him eating dry hay (and consequently coughing), was uncountable. I was paying for nothing, he couldn't have a straw bed so they just didn't give him any bed at all, he had very little hay, he never went out and although the owner was nice, I still felt that I was paying a lot for nothing and very lonely.
Soon after I brought my boy home, we built him a stable just for him that has all of the front open, so he has constant air flow. He has his hay soaked morning and night and has enough hay for him to get through the day and night comfortably. I look after him on my own so I know how he is being looked after. It was bliss, having my boy at home, it was however all hands on deck to build another stable and get another horse in for company, he was getting more and more crazy by the day being on his own, he spent about 3 weeks on his own whilst I sourced a friend for him.
To this day, I spend every spare penny on supplements, vet bills, for him, I spend hours on end morning and night cleaning his stable, cleaning him, trying to avoid another outbreak but it is getting worse. It's a constant battle every single day to keep him healthy. Summer is better, he is out 24/7 and his COPD is barely noticeable.
24/7 TO is not possible, he's a wuss and loves his stable, but I also don't have enough ground. So I have found a compromise, I have build him a large pen in front of his stable where I can leave the door open and he can come in and out of his stable.
He spends all day out in his pen and comes in at night when he decides.
Although I love my horse very much I can't take it any more, I can't put him on livery and give myself a break as he's not looked after properly everything I do for him, and he is still very sick each winter, livery would kill him. I also can't afford livery, it's expensive here and I no longer want to ever be on a livery yard again.
I can barely afford all his vet bills (I inject him myself now to save money but it is still very expensive) and all the feed supplements, the bedding, the whole lot. I just can't afford it any longer.
I don't want to sound selfish, but I have also just bought a new house with my OH, which we are renovating at the weekends, I work full time, I am also doing a masters degree at uni in evening classes, which I have paid a lot of money for and cannot quit now.
There are no grass livery yards at all, and why spend money on grass livery when I have a small amount of land at home and I have summer fields I can rent quite cheap.
When I have the time to ride him and his health allows us to, I take my boy for hacks, he is very footy and needs shoes, so I can't save money on shoes.
He also this summer had some very worrying neurological issues, I thought it was the end, I'm not sure its totally wise riding him, but after numerous tests we still don't know what could be wrong with him.
He has seen physio, dentist, vet ...
Nothing is wrong with him on paper.
Sometimes he's normal, you wouldn't have a clue that he has so many health problems, we can canter across the fields, pop a small course of jumps, and other times the vet is talking about PTS.
I don't know if I can do this much longer, I love my horse so much, even through all the hard times, we've had more ups than downs I would say.
I no longer want to ride, I no longer enjoy looking after horses, I worry constantly about whether my horse is ok or not and if I will have to spend another night up with the vet. I can't trust anyone to look after him the way I do, I have no help, I have no horsey friends, I actually know no one with horses that I could relate to.
I think I have had enough of horses, I know lots of you on here are more of a horse woman than I could ever be, I've been around horses for over 20 years, and grew up around my mums/grandparents horses. Horses were, are, a massive part of my life.
We have plans to build our stables, I have picked them out and we should start building them soon, I love going tack shopping and dream of owning a lorry so I can go riding on the beach and compete, all the things I have always wanted to do but due to circumstances have never done with my current boy. Does this mean that there is still part of me that wants horses ?
I no longer know what to do with my gorgeous boy... I have talked about PTS so many times on here, but he always seems to pull through, even for a short time.. He seems to enjoy life and I don't want to take that away from him..
Sorry for any spelling mistakes, hope it makes sense, haven't re read.
Thanks for reading, it's helped get a lot of things off my chest.
For those who have known me over the years and followed my threads, you will know all about the issues and difficult situations I've dealt with over the years. You've been an amazing help and I'm so thankful for everyone who has helped me out, given me advice and genuinely listened to me rant.
At this moment in time I own 1 horse, I have owned him for 10 years.
Everything started around 6-7 years ago, with my current boy. He wasn't a good buy from the start but I fell completely in love with him. He was the opposite of what I wanted, way too expensive but I wanted him.
I was used to my quiet hacking horses, and that what I wanted. I however came home with one very strong and young ex racer, who had a heart of gold, looks to die for and was totally 100% on the road, no matter how scared I got by huge lorries speeding past us, drivers dodging around us, me being literally cm from being hit by close drivers. My boy never bat an eyelid and I trusted him with my life. I had a lot of fun on my boy over the years.
His teenage years were awful, I had him on cheap livery at a neighbors house not far from where I live, at the time that's what I thought was best, I just moved to the area and I didn't know anyone or anywhere.
Livery was fine for around a year, after that I wanted more, I needed an arena, I needed people to ride with. I just felt incomplete and I wanted more for his education.
I took my boy away and found a small owners yard, it was again, just me and YO, but again, livery wasn't too bad and it felt like a breath of fresh air when I took my boy away from my neighbors house. He was about 10 miles away, there was only an outdoor arena (with no lights) but hacking was excellent.
The dream quickly turned into a nightmare when the owner of the mare got a new livery arrive, who had a very very sick horse. The mare was bleeding from her nose, it was obvious that she was really ill. Her stable walls were covered in blood, it was something of a horror story. Caught the new owner taking hay out of my stable, things went missing, I had doubts that my horse was even being fed half of the time.
I turned up the next morning to see my horse in that mares stable, covered in blood. It hadn't been disinfected or even cleaned. Still had dirty bedding. I went mental and arranged for a horse box to come and take my horse away the next day. My boy was sick with COPD very shortly afterwards. I had never heard a wheeze or cough and I can only presume that he had caught something from that mare. I nearly lost him several times that winter.
I brought him back to my neighbors house, who was far from ideal but he was close to me and I could look after him. His COPD meant that his hay needed soaking, he needed breathing supplements, and just extra care in general. This was unheard of, and of course the number of times I turned up to find him eating dry hay (and consequently coughing), was uncountable. I was paying for nothing, he couldn't have a straw bed so they just didn't give him any bed at all, he had very little hay, he never went out and although the owner was nice, I still felt that I was paying a lot for nothing and very lonely.
Soon after I brought my boy home, we built him a stable just for him that has all of the front open, so he has constant air flow. He has his hay soaked morning and night and has enough hay for him to get through the day and night comfortably. I look after him on my own so I know how he is being looked after. It was bliss, having my boy at home, it was however all hands on deck to build another stable and get another horse in for company, he was getting more and more crazy by the day being on his own, he spent about 3 weeks on his own whilst I sourced a friend for him.
To this day, I spend every spare penny on supplements, vet bills, for him, I spend hours on end morning and night cleaning his stable, cleaning him, trying to avoid another outbreak but it is getting worse. It's a constant battle every single day to keep him healthy. Summer is better, he is out 24/7 and his COPD is barely noticeable.
24/7 TO is not possible, he's a wuss and loves his stable, but I also don't have enough ground. So I have found a compromise, I have build him a large pen in front of his stable where I can leave the door open and he can come in and out of his stable.
He spends all day out in his pen and comes in at night when he decides.
Although I love my horse very much I can't take it any more, I can't put him on livery and give myself a break as he's not looked after properly everything I do for him, and he is still very sick each winter, livery would kill him. I also can't afford livery, it's expensive here and I no longer want to ever be on a livery yard again.
I can barely afford all his vet bills (I inject him myself now to save money but it is still very expensive) and all the feed supplements, the bedding, the whole lot. I just can't afford it any longer.
I don't want to sound selfish, but I have also just bought a new house with my OH, which we are renovating at the weekends, I work full time, I am also doing a masters degree at uni in evening classes, which I have paid a lot of money for and cannot quit now.
There are no grass livery yards at all, and why spend money on grass livery when I have a small amount of land at home and I have summer fields I can rent quite cheap.
When I have the time to ride him and his health allows us to, I take my boy for hacks, he is very footy and needs shoes, so I can't save money on shoes.
He also this summer had some very worrying neurological issues, I thought it was the end, I'm not sure its totally wise riding him, but after numerous tests we still don't know what could be wrong with him.
He has seen physio, dentist, vet ...
Nothing is wrong with him on paper.
Sometimes he's normal, you wouldn't have a clue that he has so many health problems, we can canter across the fields, pop a small course of jumps, and other times the vet is talking about PTS.
I don't know if I can do this much longer, I love my horse so much, even through all the hard times, we've had more ups than downs I would say.
I no longer want to ride, I no longer enjoy looking after horses, I worry constantly about whether my horse is ok or not and if I will have to spend another night up with the vet. I can't trust anyone to look after him the way I do, I have no help, I have no horsey friends, I actually know no one with horses that I could relate to.
I think I have had enough of horses, I know lots of you on here are more of a horse woman than I could ever be, I've been around horses for over 20 years, and grew up around my mums/grandparents horses. Horses were, are, a massive part of my life.
We have plans to build our stables, I have picked them out and we should start building them soon, I love going tack shopping and dream of owning a lorry so I can go riding on the beach and compete, all the things I have always wanted to do but due to circumstances have never done with my current boy. Does this mean that there is still part of me that wants horses ?
I no longer know what to do with my gorgeous boy... I have talked about PTS so many times on here, but he always seems to pull through, even for a short time.. He seems to enjoy life and I don't want to take that away from him..
Sorry for any spelling mistakes, hope it makes sense, haven't re read.
Thanks for reading, it's helped get a lot of things off my chest.