Char0901
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My lovely homebred is now 5 years old and is seemingly starting to really mature mentally.
It's finally like having a 'normal' horse. I don't check the yard car park before getting him out because I might decide it's too busy, yard staff can turn him out in a normal head collar without having to suit up in virtual body armour first!
He used to be really reactive about everything. So much so, he couldn't handle simply being led past another horse, he'd get completely over excited, lose his head and start leaping around. He was so highly strung, he was almost dangerous. He was never malicious and nothing was every directed at whoever was handling him, he'd just lose his head and would be over come with excitement (probably a big dose of anxiety in there too!) Once this had happened there was no getting over it. Once he'd lost his head, there was virtually nothing that could get his attention back.
We moved yards a year ago and he's a different horse. He is still very spirited and has a zest for life, but it's now in a lovely way - he's a happy horse who's enjoying life. This, along with him obviously getting older has made a massive difference.
The trouble is I'm struggling to get past what he used to be like. On the ground I trust him, stuff still excites him but nothing more so than any other horse really. Ridden, he's a gem... But, I avoid riding with others. He's only been ridden in the arena with others a hand full of times and that's usually when I've finished and we're cooling off. I HATE hacking, I feel like I'm completely at the mercy of drivers on the road, but the few very short pootles we've been on he LOVES! I may have the only horse on the planet who naps to stay out and doesn't want to walk home! He's only ever travelled for our yard move, we've practised loading a few times but I'm scared of closing that box up in case he panics and hurts himself. Obviously, all of the above means he's never been to a competition. With previous horses I was out competing at least once a week, for me that's why I've always had horses.
It's got to the point now, where I see I have a lovely, talented horse who could have a very successful career. I know that I am capable but I can't seem to forget or move past what he used to be like in certain situations. I know I'll never know until I do it, but I just don't know how to get over the horse he used to be (granted that was when he was 2/3 years old!)
I want to be out and about, enjoying and appreciating my horse. Does anyone have any advise on how to get over this? My big girl, brave pants never seem to be big enough, or brave enough!
It's finally like having a 'normal' horse. I don't check the yard car park before getting him out because I might decide it's too busy, yard staff can turn him out in a normal head collar without having to suit up in virtual body armour first!
He used to be really reactive about everything. So much so, he couldn't handle simply being led past another horse, he'd get completely over excited, lose his head and start leaping around. He was so highly strung, he was almost dangerous. He was never malicious and nothing was every directed at whoever was handling him, he'd just lose his head and would be over come with excitement (probably a big dose of anxiety in there too!) Once this had happened there was no getting over it. Once he'd lost his head, there was virtually nothing that could get his attention back.
We moved yards a year ago and he's a different horse. He is still very spirited and has a zest for life, but it's now in a lovely way - he's a happy horse who's enjoying life. This, along with him obviously getting older has made a massive difference.
The trouble is I'm struggling to get past what he used to be like. On the ground I trust him, stuff still excites him but nothing more so than any other horse really. Ridden, he's a gem... But, I avoid riding with others. He's only been ridden in the arena with others a hand full of times and that's usually when I've finished and we're cooling off. I HATE hacking, I feel like I'm completely at the mercy of drivers on the road, but the few very short pootles we've been on he LOVES! I may have the only horse on the planet who naps to stay out and doesn't want to walk home! He's only ever travelled for our yard move, we've practised loading a few times but I'm scared of closing that box up in case he panics and hurts himself. Obviously, all of the above means he's never been to a competition. With previous horses I was out competing at least once a week, for me that's why I've always had horses.
It's got to the point now, where I see I have a lovely, talented horse who could have a very successful career. I know that I am capable but I can't seem to forget or move past what he used to be like in certain situations. I know I'll never know until I do it, but I just don't know how to get over the horse he used to be (granted that was when he was 2/3 years old!)
I want to be out and about, enjoying and appreciating my horse. Does anyone have any advise on how to get over this? My big girl, brave pants never seem to be big enough, or brave enough!