Given a week's notice to leave our yard!

Just make sure you are polite when you go, thank YO for the last 6 years, tell him it was a pleasure to know him, etc etc. Make sure your side of the street is swept clean.
Then in a few days, write him a letter giving your side of it all, and suggest he keeps that in mind when other liveries leave.
 
You poor things. :( What a way to be treated after 6 years!

I agree with what others say, you're better out of there. Especially now you know it's not just the new people, there's a bunch of nutters involved! The bitching on Facebook would be the end for me, so childish and tacky.

Hold your head high, keep quiet, don't rise to the bait and get out asap. You know it's not you, so you'll be fine in a new yard whereas the one you're leaving is set to be a very unhappy place for a long time to come. At least until YO can see the wood for the trees.

I hope you find somewhere very soon and you and your horses are happy there. :)
 
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Just make sure you are polite when you go, thank YO for the last 6 years, tell him it was a pleasure to know him, etc etc. Make sure your side of the street is swept clean.
Then in a few days, write him a letter giving your side of it all, and suggest he keeps that in mind when other liveries leave.
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Agree with this, id have to grit my teeth to do it, but it is by far the best way to end it and bow out the bigger person.
 
Hey, now your PMs make sense! lol

It's a horrible situation to be in but it's not the first time that YO has behaved in that way. I know of a livery that was on the yard for well over 10yrs (possibly more like 20) and he just turned on her one day. He's got a bit of a reputation locally for being a bit funny that way.

Good luck for your move this weekend. I highly recommend the place you are heading too. The YO, groom and liveries I know there are all lovely. There was no back stabbing, everyone is friendly and it's a cracking yard with some good hacks. I hope you enjoy it and can relax again. Onwards and upwards
 
I hate yard politics and I finally have found a yard with no politics at all where people arent judged and come and go as they please with no bitching!! It is full livery though and my horse has her own paddock which suits her needs and all the horses are treated exactly the same. I do think DIY yards are the worst when owners start fighting over fields, use of arena, equipment going missing etc etc etc:mad:

Hopefully you will both be happy in your new yard and my advice is just to hold your head high and move on. I wouldnt get involved in any more arguments as not worth it and eventually once all her GOOD liveries leave and she ends up with a yard full of bitching and unhappy owners you will get the last laugh!:)
 
Omg I have just been in same situation but she left 1st. I was branded a thief but she took yo things with her and owed money then came back and pinched someone elses stuff but was seen. In our case it came out in the end and I am on home terms with yo again. If ur near me come yard with us. :-)
 
Your yard has changed its culture, you are not responsible for that. It will not change back. However, you are responsible for your own happiness so your decision to take control, move on and find somewhere else is your only - and the most productive - option. Closer to home would be lovely too, upwards and onwards to pastures new. Good luck:).
 
it's horrible to be in a situation like your's and I had a similar encounter with such nasty people a few years ago. If it is possible for you to find another yard then I would move even though it is not your fault. However as for being given only a week, I think that is totaly un reasonable and I would speak to your yard owner to agree a realistic time. I also hope that your yard owner comes to his senses and realises how silly he has been and asks the other people to leave instead.

I honestly dont know how such nasty people manage to be so manipulative. All I can say is I hope you find a nice place for your horses. Keep us posted. Good luck x
 
Contact the BHS,they are very helpful with this sort of thing. Rest assured they will start on someone else when you are gone, ,when the yard empties, maybe your YO will realise who the bad apple was
 
best off away and they can all annoy and b***h about each other...
there are alot of completely mad horse people about and i have to say in my experience nearly all are women.....
nightmare, poor you tho....move to an all man yard!
 
If you can't find anywhere you want within a week then why not see if there is somewhere that will give you a couple of weeks 'holiday livery' while you look around for where you actually want to be.

The weather is going to be vile for the next couple of weeks, if I was you I would see if there is somewhere lush with an indoor school(!) that you could enjoy for 2 weeks, before moving to another permanent livery.

If you like to 'keep yourself to yourself' it might be worth putting a lot of legwork in and talking to local farmers, etc. Often they are happy to have a couple of horses on livery, especially if they have horses themselves. It can work really well.

For example the lady over the road has a couple of horses on her field. She is the ideal landlady as she would always cover for you and keep an eye on the horses if you were on holiday (as long as you look after their sheep when they need a hand!!).

Good luck finding somewhere.
 
I'm afraid I didn't read all OP and have only read some of the replies.
But I wouldn't want my horses on a yard where new horses are put straight into a field with existing liveries, regardless of all the other nonsense.

My advice is to leave as soon as you can, the holiday livery idea is a good one if necessary, and then forget about the place. I certainly wouldn't be writing YO a letter. Just leave and don't look back.

Good luck!
 
Hi,

Just posting an update for anyone that's interested.

My mum and I went to see a couple of yards last Monday. The yards in our area were all full, so we had to look further a field. After looking at them all, we decided the first yard was perfect for us. It's a small family run business, with most liveries having a couple of horses each so not as many liveries as where we were previously.

The impression I got was that everyone seemed to be quite together. They are like a big family in that they are always out doing stuff together. For instance, some Sunday's they will set up some jumps in the arena and all go down together, or they'll hook up all the trailers and go hacking up the forest nearby or a trip to the beach. YO said few weeks ago a note was put up on the board to go see Warhorse at the cinema, and everyone turned up. Things like that. There was never anything like that at our previous yard.

Anyway, we moved the horses on Saturday and everything ran smoothly. The 2 horses have been so quiet I can't quite believe it! We have met a couple of the liveries and they have been very welcoming. YO and groom have been brilliant too. We have no regrets about leaving our old yard. In this situation, the grass has definitely been greener on the other side!
 
Thanks for the update, I had wondered how you were getting on. Sounds like you've made a great move!

I hope and trust you and your horses will be very happy on your new yard. :)
 
something similar happened to me and my sister.. we were all set to move yards, gave in our notice at our previous yard, then was contacted by the yard we were moving to saying they no longer wanted us to come to their yard. It all boiled down to a current livery at the new yard spreading lies (she even went to the extent of printing of pictures of horses injuries sustained from 'my horse kicking' :O ) we then had about 4 days to find somewhere to put our horses as our stables at old yard were due to be filled when we left!! With my mum we spent about 3days knocking on people's doors at farms/yards/ houses with a few acres asking if we could rent land for a month or two!
Luckily we found some land, and the horrible lying livery was soon kicked off her yard for more drama she caused and we were offered places again :)
In our case the YO was smart enough, eventually. In your case it doesn't sound as though that'll happen any time soon so you're better off out of there!! If anything, write a letter explaining all to the YO and pop it threw the door.
New yard sounds lovely! hope it is 'drama-free' for you!
 
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Can 100% vouch for the yard, YO & groom as well as several liveries. Absolutely lovely people and straight up; no back stabbing or any of the other guff that usually goes along with being on livery.

Enjoy!!
 
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